Self-care is taking a backseat to too many things for me these days so this post is as much for me as it is for you. I’m not giving myself enough me-time, are you? Today I’m sharing eight self-care rituals I needed to remind myself of this week.
Being helpful and agreeable is so ingrained in women’s psyche, we often have a hard time saying no. No to things we don’t want to do. No to things we don’t have time to do. No to anything. We’re afraid of offending or letting someone else down so we end up letting ourselves down.
Get comfortable saying no. “I’m sorry, that won’t work for me. I would love to, but not this time. I’m not able to do that now. These are all polite but make it pretty clear, you’ve just said no. You don’t have to justify why, it’s just no. This takes practice so keep at it.
Social media can be a black hole that sucks you under and never lets you go. Trust me, I know. You pop on Facebook to see what’s new with your distant cousins and before you know it, several hours have passed with nothing to show for it. You’ve had a look at everything people want you to see and quite possibly been exposed to keyboard warriors who have nothing kind to say. Walk away. Put yourself on a social media diet which leaves more time for you.
The simple act of tying on your sneakers and heading out the door can be some of the best medicine you’ll get all week. Leave your phone turned off. If you’re listening to a book on tape, no matter the subject, you are concentrating. The goal is to allow your mind to empty which allows clear thoughts to emerge.
In big or small ways, all self-pampering is helpful. It can be as simple as buying a new body lotion you love the smell of, stealing ten minutes with a book that transports you to a place you’d love to visit, giving yourself a fresh pedicure, or taking the time to rub lotion into your tired legs and feet at the end of the day. Do it for no one but you.
Noise pollution is real and as toxic to our health as air pollution. The simple act of turning down the volume helps settle my nerves and lowers my blood pressure. I have a few classical albums (are they even called that anymore?) downloaded to my phone but I find myself enjoying the spa music on this Calm app more relaxing.
We’re not all bath lovers but it’s a habit worth pursuing. Much like a soak in a hot tub at a fancy spa, decompressing in your bathtub with some Epsom salts and/or essentials oils is about as soothing as it gets. Skip the book or magazine here so your mind can wander.
Sitting down to meditate isn’t easy for most of us. Whenever I feel like I don’t have ten minutes to give to meditation… I know I need it more than ever. I like to use this Insight Timer (free) which I can program to play ambient white noise and set a soft gong to let me know when my ten, fifteen, or however long you like is up.
Restful sleep can be all too elusive these days when we are busy, stressed, or watching the news too much. Yet that’s exactly when our body needs it the most. Dialing down the distractions is key to a good night’s sleep so start early. Leave your phone in another room. Play some soft music. Rub your feet with a luscious lotion. Set the stage for quiet time and you have a much better chance of getting restful sleep.
How do you decompress? What rituals do you use to ensure you get enough me-time?