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Do You Feel Frumpy?

Do You Feel Frumpy?

Believe it or not, some still think that being a grandmother is synonymous with looking frumpy. That passing 50 or 60 means turning the style corner to dowdy and getting on the fast train to unstylish.  I don’t know about you, but turning 60 wasn’t even a small speed bump for me, my desire to dress stylishly didn’t change and I don’t feel frumpy.
Jennifer Connolly of A Well Styled Life wearing a column of black with checked duster

I have pictures of my grandmother at 60, and her style looks very different than mine. She wore her gray hair in a bun every day, with no makeup, housedresses, and clumpy looking shoes. So did all of her friends because that’s what was in style. She didn’t feel frumpy because she took time with her appearance and felt confident the way she looked.Jennifer Connolly of A Well Styled Life wearing Everlane sweater over checked pants and snakeskin ankle boots

I am a proud Granny myself. It’s important to me that I look current and wear what I feel is appropriate…for me. Does that mean I listen to rules others have made up about what I shouldn’t wear because of my age? Nope! I use my internal radar to guide me.Jennifer Connolly of A Well Styled Life wear cropped wide leg crop pants with denim jacket

I’ve had a few readers comment that I’m too old to wear a particular look. My response is always, “according to whom?”. I’ve also been told the outfit I was wearing looked frumpy. I respectfully disagreed each time. I felt confident wearing those outfits, and what’s important is how I feel.Jennifer Connolly of A Well Styled Life wearing leopard blouse with denim pants and black sweater duster

Many women our age are interested in remaining stylish and are finding advice online. Since print magazines have long abandoned our demographic, we use blogs, Pinterest, and Instagram to fill that gap. They provide style ideas, inspiration, instruction, and encouragement to keep us informed,White shirt tied at waist and skinny jeans on Jennifer Connolly of A Well Styled Life

We need to follow our internal guidance about what feels right on us. What looks frumpy to me, may not look or feel frumpy to you. Frumpy is not always about fashion. It’s often a state of mind and a nasty feeling that robs us of our confidence.

Have you ever felt frumpy…what did you do about it?

Thanks for reading, and remember to wear what makes you feel confident.

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81 Comments

  1. Cathy Blackwell
    November 17, 2019 / 4:19 am

    Jennifer you are so right!!! I agree that “frumpy” has to be a self-defined description. I love these looks on you. Especially the long black & white sweater, the long white sweater with leggings & the jeans with the white shirt. Unfortunately, I’m many, many inches taller than you (I”m 5’10”) so many of your clothes don’t come in lengths right for me but I get such GREAT ideas! My little rebellion from decades of working in corporate offices is that when I retired I stopped wearing contact lenses and stopped wearing make up. FREEDOM! I do dig out the foundation, etc. for weddings but for every day … nope! As I am getting into my late 60’s I may re-evaluate but I am definitely a simple is better gal.
    Thank you for your articles and choices. I really enjoy them.

    • naniscah r apperson
      November 17, 2019 / 5:25 am

      HI-
      I have been a Fashionista my whole life and I am 70
      Starting about 6 months ago I started feeling frumpy and then I found you and Dominique Sache in Texas.
      I look forward to your e-mails
      And I am originally from California so love that conection
      Onward,
      Naniscah

    • kate
      November 17, 2019 / 7:27 am

      Cathy I’ve given up the makeup too at almost 65. Love not thinking about it! I put it on for weddings/formal events and that’s it….and I feel great just wearing me. As another 5’10″er I too am reading for ideas and Jennifer you have a lot of great ones that are perfect for those of us who are retired. I really appreciate your view. Thanks!

      • Cathy Blackwell
        November 18, 2019 / 2:37 pm

        Kate we should compare notes on clothes & shoes etc that we find and that fit! It’s nice to find another 5’10” woman!

  2. Mary
    November 17, 2019 / 4:30 am

    Hi Jennifer, love your blog. Opinions are opinions. If you are comfortable in your own skin, those opinions don’t matter.

  3. Janice
    November 17, 2019 / 4:32 am

    For me feeling frumpy is the added weight gain. Can’t get the belly fat gone. 😪

    • Connie
      November 17, 2019 / 11:46 am

      I so agree. With the added weight I can’t find clothes that feel attractive on me.

  4. Monica
    November 17, 2019 / 4:37 am

    Jennifer you are so right. As a 65 year old grandmother of five I pride myself on remaining stylish. Your blog is a wonderful inspiration.Thank you.

    • Jennifer
      Author
      November 17, 2019 / 6:10 pm

      Thanks for reading

  5. Julia
    November 17, 2019 / 4:39 am

    Love you in the cropped culottes. They really suit you by widening your lower half. I am a similar shape and I didn’t think I could do culottes but maybe I’ll give them a try. Love your blog and your whimsical honesty!

  6. J'Laine Bradley
    November 17, 2019 / 4:44 am

    I agree completely. At 56 I won’t stop coloring my hair, wearing makeup or my blue jeans. I want to look age appropriate (whatever that really is) and current.

  7. LindaB
    November 17, 2019 / 4:56 am

    You nailed it, Jennifer! How you feel about yourself is entirely up to you — nobody should let others shame them into wearing old lady garments that just serve to make older women invisible. In terms of what makes me feel frumpy, it’s the weight I’ve put on these last few years — can’t believe how tough it is to shed pounds now!

    • Jennifer
      Author
      November 17, 2019 / 6:13 pm

      I’m right there with you! We need to raise each other up.

  8. Leslie
    November 17, 2019 / 5:02 am

    Perfect! I like to look nice and it’s important to me to keep my appearance up. I am a widow and grandmother of seven. I try to stay contemporary as much as possible. I did let my hair go gray because I like it but I always get it cut in a modern style. I put makeup on every single day, no matter if I’m going to see anyone. It’s for me. I am 73 years old and not slowing down any time soon. When I think of women in their seventies I think of Maye Musk or Helen Mirren. We should all do and wear what we are happy with. Thank you for this article, Jennifer.

    • Jennifer
      Author
      November 17, 2019 / 6:16 pm

      Thank you Leslie! Maye Musk and Helen Mirren are wonderful examples.

  9. Nancy
    November 17, 2019 / 5:41 am

    I think getting inspiration, advice and encouragement from blogs written by women near my age is a so much more authentic way to stay current in fashion. So happy you have chosen to help fill that gap left open by today’s mainstream sources. They don’t realize how powerful this generation of women can be. At least not yet . . . .

  10. Diane
    November 17, 2019 / 6:09 am

    Thank you for this post. Your blog, your pictures, and you are an inspiration to me. I just turned 70 and that feels old when I say it, however, I am often taken for much younger because I work at it. There are three things that make me feel frumpy very quickly if they aren’t right: my hair, my weight, and my outfit. I love the silver gray trend for hair that looks fabulous on so many. I tried it and, sadly it is not for me, yet! It made me feel frumpy. I have to keep my weight in check, especially around the middle, or I feel frumpy. Daily toning exercises that I do at home help, but if I skip a few days, all my effort is gone. And of course, my choice of clothing makes a huge difference. I enjoy looking current and think that has a big impact on how others perceive my age. I keep my style choices simple, slim jeans and pants with a sweater or shirt look the best on me. I also wear stylish shoes/boots that are comfortable to complete my look. There are so many stylish sneakers and flats out there now so comfort is easy to find.

  11. Holly
    November 17, 2019 / 6:11 am

    Hi Jennifer….I will be turning 60!! December 2 !!!!🎂
    I do not feel frumpy at all either….I am a Nana to 4 grandchildren of whom 2 are 18!! I started young and so did my girls. I feel so stylish in all my outfits and I shop ALOT!!! Love me some inexpensive “trends” from Walmart and I love to shop at goodwill and consign shops.

  12. Kelley Kramer
    November 17, 2019 / 6:40 am

    I absolutely agree with all comments however can add a little something to this conversation? When attending events, out with friends, work etc. I wear what I do feel good wearing. THEN, I see a picture of myself. And I think, “What was I thinking?!?” So while we absolutely should wear what we love and are comfortable in, we also need to face reality in that some of our choices DO look frumpy. And that’s ok! But we can’t absolutely say because we love it looks good!

  13. Laurel
    November 17, 2019 / 6:42 am

    I can’t think of a time I thought you looked frumpy, so that’s surprising. And to me, putting some effort into my appearance will go on until I am dead. 🙂

  14. Mumbai
    November 17, 2019 / 6:48 am

    frumpy happens in your mind and not in your fashion. Didn’t know that you already passed the 60’s…you look
    so young and vivid.

  15. Pamela
    November 17, 2019 / 7:03 am

    I am so grateful that I recently discovered your blog. It is helping me realize I have some frumpy habits that I am rapidly changing due to your wonderful advice. Also, thanks for the hair comments and tips. My hair is very similar to yours, yikes!

    • Jennifer
      Author
      November 17, 2019 / 6:18 pm

      I’m so happy you’re here Pamela!!

  16. Susan
    November 17, 2019 / 7:05 am

    Putting in the exercise, healthy diet, taking care of my skin, reading to stay on top of some trends and trying to stay up with what’s going on around me is my key to not being frumpy.
    The best compliment I’ve had recently ( in a wry kind of way) was from my radiation oncologist, who said I was ‘a very young 67’. We take what we can get sometimes…

    • Jennifer
      Author
      November 17, 2019 / 6:20 pm

      Of course, that’s a compliment to take to heart! Bravo Susan.

  17. MRSBEN2
    November 17, 2019 / 7:12 am

    YES, I definitely experienced feeling frumpy and distinctly recall it, however it was namely due to what was fashionable at the time. It was during my first pregnancy during the era (early 70’s) when maternity wear was best described as just plain horrid which in turn as a ‘hobby sewer’ actually inspired me to make my own, first complete wardrobe. Those in my age group I am sure can relate to what I am saying and thankfully in this respect the industry and general mind-set has come a long way since then. Oh, BTW that child I speak of is a Fashion Designer now. Co-incidence? I don’t know, but we often joke about it how he may have been ‘very early’ influenced, to choose the career he did. Wishing you a beautiful day, Jennifer. -Brenda-
    P.S.: I totally agree with Leslie (above) about Helen Mirren as feel she is definitely an icon to be admired, in more ways than one.

    • Jennifer
      Author
      November 17, 2019 / 6:23 pm

      When I look at what I wore during my pregnancies, I am horrified! I sewed all my own clothes and made very unflattering clothes. Thanks for sharing Brenda xx

  18. Bea
    November 17, 2019 / 7:14 am

    I am 76 and a grandmother of 6. Because I enjoy shopping and putting together stylish outfits, I hardly ever feel frumpy. The clothes I wear often make me feel healthy and energetic. For me, easy medicine,

    Jennifer, keep it up. I enjoy reading your blog and appreciate your thoughts on how to look thinner, more stylish, and more interesting.

  19. Dawn
    November 17, 2019 / 7:31 am

    I am a 70 year old grandmother of 4, and I never feel frumpy. I’ve been told I look 60. I love fashion and love shopping with my best friend! I wear classic, simple clothes…comfort is key. Living in Colorado jeans go everywhere. I live in slim jeans with fun sneakers like leopard, classy loafers and boots; blazers, sweaters, and denim jackets. I love scarves and recently purchased a beautiful snakeskin print. I am grateful for Pinterest and blogs like yours Jennifer…you look fabulous! It’s true magazines have abandoned us, but we can still look great. Fashion should be fun at any age!

  20. November 17, 2019 / 7:49 am

    I’m finding it hard to not feel “frumpy” with a large chest. The things you wear are wonderful, but keeping things in proportion is harder when one part of you is out of proportion. When younger, I was thin; so, I find myself drawn to things that are no longer appropriate. If there’s a good answer, I’d surely like to hear it.

    • Bea
      November 17, 2019 / 12:27 pm

      Lynda, I have the same problem! Since I am only 5’1″ tall, the big bust makes me look heavier than I am. To minimize the bust area, I wear a minimizer bra and, most of the time, I wear non-clingy, v-necked tops in darker colors. (Even if the top is a print, I select prints that have a dark background that matches my pants or skirt.) Also, I try to wear wear shaped jackets, hoodies, or sweaters over my tops, and then I add a long scarf or necklace. These few tricks seems to fix the proportion problem for me.

    • Virginia
      November 17, 2019 / 1:22 pm

      Get a professional bra fitting — stores like Soma, Fitting Touch or Cacique are good places to start — and let them guide you to a great minimizer! And if your weight goes up or down by even 10 pounds, go back for a re-fitting, because that can make a difference in how your bra fits. The right minimizer can make a world of difference in balancing proportions. It has for me.

    • Jennifer
      Author
      November 17, 2019 / 6:25 pm

      Proportion is critical for you, Lynda. Shoot me an email please

  21. Eileen
    November 17, 2019 / 7:53 am

    To avoid feeling frumpy, I look at the internet for ideas. When I travel I look at the styles I admire on older women. I try to be aware of clothing, makeup, and shoe updates, but still keep a classic, timeless look. I do believe nicer fabrics and quality shoes work well on older women, I’ve always thought that, even as a young woman.

  22. Sue G
    November 17, 2019 / 8:21 am

    Good question! I feel frumpy on days when I have a negative approach to my life – when I focus on what isn’t rather than what is. It spirals down to how I look and my clothes. So, yes I have days when I feel frumpy / grumpy but I try to minimize them by taking charge of my attitude and not letting someone else’s opinion make me question my own.

    • Jennifer
      Author
      November 17, 2019 / 6:36 pm

      Thank you for sharing that Sue. You are not alone in those feelings.

  23. November 17, 2019 / 8:24 am

    This might be an example of “frumpy is as frumpy does”. If I feel like I look frumpy, I will take the time to “unfrump” (that’s a technical term, you know!) myself and my look. Dress up the outfit with a cute necklace or change my shoes or bag. Because I’m a sweater knitter for myself, I have many cardigans to choose from, so I might change my outerwear from a wear-around-the-house sweater to one that I love to be seen in. Also, I try to never leave the house without makeup (“pale” pretty much describes my natural state!) and my hair looking good.

    • Jennifer
      Author
      November 17, 2019 / 6:39 pm

      Unfrump is a great way to describe it Barb! We all know when we feel it. The important part is knowing how to fix it, for ourselves. Thanks for sharing

  24. November 17, 2019 / 8:34 am

    Great topic! I looked up the definition of frumpy. “Old fashioned and dowdy”. Now, there’s a big difference between feeling frumpy and being frumpy. I know a lot of men and women who are confidently wearing fashions from 20 years ago and don’t feel frumpy at all but certainly look frumpy!

    It takes awareness, effort and some money to keep up with the times. It’s easy to find a couple of fashion trends that work for you at a certain age – let’s say 45 – and then stick with it forever. I think I was one of them! I know a few women still wearing shoulder padded paisley tops. Or mom jeans. One really needs to keep updating clothes and they must fit your current body.

    This is why your guidance is so inspirational. I’ve learned so much from your blog. You were the first style blogger I followed. I thought I’d learn a couple of tips and see pretty clothes. But you inspired a lifestyle of keeping the whole package up to date!

    I enjoy shopping but I get very discouraged when I don’t find things. Following an inspirational blogger and the online community of readers has been a game changer. I’m not the only one struggling here! We’re all in this together!

    I rarely feel frumpy anymore, and much of the credit goes to you.

    • Jennifer
      Author
      November 17, 2019 / 6:47 pm

      Thank you for sharing Marian! I’m so glad you’re here with us.

  25. Joanna
    November 17, 2019 / 8:35 am

    Jennifer, you never look frumpy but always stylish. You may wear something that I wouldn’t but we have very different body types. I’m 66 and have no intention of dressing like grandmothers of the past. I feel vital and young and will keep highlighting my hair until it feels wrong, will not give up my jeans whether they be straight leg, bootcut or skinny, wear make up every day, get regular pedicures…
    Thank you for being real!

    • Jennifer
      Author
      November 17, 2019 / 6:48 pm

      Thanks for being here Joanna. I look forward to your comments

  26. Anna
    November 17, 2019 / 8:56 am

    I also posted on the facebook page, I need some advice on what to wear to the gym, as that is when I feel “frumpy”. .Jennifer, you always look put together and not frumpy, keep doing what you do!

    • Rosemary
      November 17, 2019 / 2:32 pm

      I agree

    • Jennifer
      Author
      November 17, 2019 / 6:49 pm

      Please send me an email Anna. We can figure this out together

  27. Linnie Z
    November 17, 2019 / 9:04 am

    If people comment that you look frumpy, or your outfit is frumpy, I feel they are either 1) Jealous or 2)Just plain mean. People put others down to lift themselves up. I wonder how they would feel if someone said that to them? I think you look wonderful, youthful but age-appropriate.
    I’ll never understand why women don’t lift other women up, instead of trying to belittle them.
    “Mean Old Girls”
    Keep on Rocking It!
    (BTW, love to see you and Tania together.)
    Blessings

    • Jennifer
      Author
      November 17, 2019 / 6:53 pm

      I could not agree more, Linnie! Mean girls grow into mean women. I do adore Tania:)

  28. November 17, 2019 / 9:12 am

    You look great and your confidence is infectious. Keep up the good work!

  29. Peggy
    November 17, 2019 / 10:22 am

    The jeans and white shirt style above is off the hook cool. I wear two huge and very helpful leg braces and use a walker. The braces have to be worn on the outside. No kidding. I am 66 years old and do not feel frumpy. My formula: I wear short flat boots, denim that tapers below the knees because it is easier to put the braces on, a long sleeved tee shirt that fits well, and always always always sunglasses because they make anyone look cool. I tie a scarf around my purse strap. Stick with youngish fabrics and do not match colors.

  30. Sandy A.
    November 17, 2019 / 10:28 am

    I completely agree with you regarding the print media. Why aren’t there magazines that women over 50 are interested in? I love magazines, yet find nothing that I even want to read. I don’t care about movie stars. I don’t need difficult ideas for dinner or how to discipline children. Please, oh, please….can’t someone publish a magazine with ideas on grandchildren, traveling at this age, cooking for only two people or ideas on what I can make that we can just heat up when we want it? Thanks for letting me rant.

    • Diane B
      November 17, 2019 / 11:48 am

      Sandy, I have discovered a d british magazine called Woman and Home that is for us experienced women. There is travel, cooking, fashion and empowering stories of other women. I had given up on many others that I had followed for years. See if you can find it, it is fun.

    • Jennifer
      Author
      November 17, 2019 / 6:56 pm

      Please rant away! I miss magazines too.

  31. Lydia
    November 17, 2019 / 10:37 am

    I am six months shy of my 80th. I never feel frumpy, dowdy or otherwise. Love smart (not fast fashion) garments, boots, jeans, sneakers, sometimes a sweatshirt w/accessories. Hair is silver w/highlights – could stand to lose a few ###, but maybe and maybe not! Love your advice – my body type is figure eight – though the waist seems to have disappeared! Love every day and make the best of it. As a disclaimer: sometimes I have a PJ day. Need this once in a while.

    • Jennifer
      Author
      November 17, 2019 / 6:58 pm

      Way to go Lydia! Your confidence jumps off this page. Thanks for sharing

  32. Pam
    November 17, 2019 / 11:22 am

    I am 66 and still want to look as good as I can. I am inspired by your looks, your picks and your suggestions. Because of your blog, I have several new outfits for fall that I enjoy wearing and feel good in – thanks, Jennifer!

    • Jennifer
      Author
      November 17, 2019 / 6:59 pm

      I’m so happy to hear this Pam! Thank you

  33. Katrina
    November 17, 2019 / 11:33 am

    Love the PJ day comment! We call it a Mental Health Day! Anything I own that is frumpy has been relegated to the “yard work, painting” pile. When I wear those, it’s because I have work gloves on and actually am WORKING. Everything else had better make me feel classy & confident or it goes into the “donate” pile. I so enjoy your posts, dear Jennifer. I think we may live near each other. Coffee sometime????

  34. Lea
    November 17, 2019 / 11:38 am

    What makes me feel frumpy is: clothes that are too big, not the intentionally oversized trapeze shirt or harem pants… those are in my closet and I love wearing them. I mean jeans that are a size too big, tops that are too big and cover up too much of me, tunics… any clothing that hides me. And dainty jewelry. But, that’s subjective to my sense of fashion and body style. Someone else may feel good in what makes me shrivel up. And vice versa 🙂

    • Peggy
      November 17, 2019 / 3:53 pm

      Ditto clothes that are too big. Take them to a tailor. If they have stretch in the fabric, buy one size smaller. Comfort does not equal clothes that are too big.

  35. Julie Anne
    November 17, 2019 / 12:09 pm

    get up and decide that it doesn’t matter what you look like because you’re not going anywhere today.

    Shower and put on at least a minimal amount of makeup to show you care. For me, that’s tinted sunscreen, eyebrows, blush, and a lip moisturizer. It took me a long time to realize the old adage of when you look good, you feel good and when you feel good you look great. You can be your own worst enemy.

    I’ll be wearing my work clothes for home; if I run to the store, it’s a quick change of shirt and some lipstick. No point arriving and feeling frumpy when others have put a little or lot of effort in to it.

  36. Suzanne Nicolson
    November 17, 2019 / 1:26 pm

    My mother and two Aunts were very stylish dressers through out their lives. I felt frumpy beside them, even in my 40s.. sadly, the first sign of dementia for the three of them was a significant deterioration into frumpy dressing. they lost their whole identity and I really missed those stylish ladies. I really miss the inspiration to be your best self that these wonderful women gave me. I really value this site as it has helped fill that gap in my life. thank you.

  37. jmp
    November 17, 2019 / 1:34 pm

    So well said! And I couldn’t agree more that magazines etc. have deserted the over 50/60 crowd. Thank goodness for your blog.

  38. Kathleen O'Brien
    November 17, 2019 / 1:46 pm

    Hi I’m just turned 65 and I do feel frumpy some days. But I’m working on not feeling like that most days. I have jobs that get me outta my house most days and long evenings. I’ve been embracing my grey hair and have highlighted it to look more gray, sort of like the youngsters are doing coloring their hair grey! I try to dress my age – in that I don’t wear the short stuff anymore, too tight things, too many ruffles and “characters” across the chest and rear – that sort of thing. I dress appropriate for events and even have been known to wear jeans! I searched until I found some that fit. I do wear makeup, not every day but when going out to church and work. I don’t go overboard, but just try to be nice looking and presentable. I’m not as fit as I’d like or have time to be, but dress for the body I have and the events I go to. I do care about how others view me but don’t care if they don’t like everything I wear – I dress to feel good and express myself. I love reading your blog and love your sense of fashion and style.

  39. Mary Lee Robinson
    November 17, 2019 / 1:54 pm

    Excellent point about fashion mags that abandoned us. And you are right on point, I turn to Pinterest, Instagram, and a few (very few) catalogs to stay on trend appropriately. Great post! Thank you.
    BTW, I often re-pin your pins for my followers.

  40. Elaine D
    November 17, 2019 / 2:25 pm

    You never look frumpy Jennifer, you always look stylish but never ‘mutton dressed as lamb’ ( as we say in the UK) either.

  41. Eve
    November 17, 2019 / 5:50 pm

    Comfortable and appropriate for the ocassion even if the ocassion is hanging around home is my style as I get older. I don’t teeter sround on heels or wear fitted clothing when I really feel better in a looser fit now. I love the casual chic of your clothes and if I manage to pull off anywhere near the way you look, I feel good.

  42. Doris Harding
    November 17, 2019 / 6:11 pm

    Thank you, thank you Jennifer for this post. You always look great, but at age 76 years and with chronic health problems, Yes, I often feel “frumpy”…clothes shopping is tiresome and availability of suitable affordable fashions can be problematic, not to mention difficulty of traversing back and forth to the tailor to have alterations made. I love fashion and love reading your blog-advice…Please continue!!

    • Jennifer
      Author
      November 17, 2019 / 7:00 pm

      Thanks for being here Doris! Keep on keeping on

  43. Janet
    November 17, 2019 / 6:41 pm

    I couldn’t agree more, Jennifer and that’s why I follow you! You are an inspiration! I feel frumpy when I’m tired and don’t make an effort. I also think extra weight and a pear shape don’t help in achieving a flattering look. I have noticed that most (all??) Bloggers don’t appear to be pear shaped. I don’t think that is a coincidence.

    • Eileen
      November 18, 2019 / 6:56 am

      Hi Janet, I am a pear shape, and I noticed that also, not many pear shaped women bloggers. I’m not sure, but, I think Lady of Style ( German), or Chic at any age ( British) may be pears? I do find I need more adjustments to my clothes, and right off the rack is difficult. I do think having broad shoulders , a chest, and a straight shape, must be closer to the norm, my friend who is built like this has a much easier time. Any ideas anyone?

      • Susan Gowan
        November 18, 2019 / 10:08 am

        This is a great topic, Jenn! As a grandmother of four. i just turned 69 a few weeks ago and feel frumpiness is purely a state of mind. You can wear comfortable clothes and be stylish at the same time. Confidence is a factor in looking andfeeling youthful. Never wanted to beanold person trying to look young but I dress theway I like for the most part. Would like less belly like most gals but there are ways to conceal. And exercise like walking around a large block or swimming at a salt pool
        regularly also helps my confidence. You truly are as young as you feel. Some days I feel 26; a few days more like 75 but not often .

        • Jennifer
          Author
          November 18, 2019 / 6:49 pm

          That’s a great way to look at it!!

  44. Jane
    November 18, 2019 / 7:53 am

    Thank you for the always interesting blog as well as your fashion insights. My hair makes me feel frumpy. It was large, thick and perfect for the 80s. But now, it has thinned out so much on top I feel like Larry from the 3 stooges! No matter what I do, scalp shows through. So just try to compensate with decent, contemporary clothes, shoes and handbags. Just can’t seem to find the right style or something.

    • Jennifer
      Author
      November 18, 2019 / 6:51 pm

      Have you looked into a topper? They’re for exactly what you describe.

  45. Téa
    November 18, 2019 / 1:08 pm

    I think all of the comments are so excellent! I feel my good posture keeps me from veering towards “frumpdom” – even though I do carry 40 extra pounds and have a large bust and and jiggly bits. I do exercises daily to keep my core strong and avoid lower back issues, and try to remember to stand tall. Another thing that helps me is the advice of Marie Kondo, I do not “downgrade clothes that don’t thrill me to “loungewear”…I put them to Good Will or the like. I have 2 beautiful and cozy winter “lounge” outfits, and when they no longer “spark joy”, they, too will be donated. MK’s philosophy, “what you wear in the house does impact (your) self-image” really resonates with me…when I look good, I feel good – even if I’m just home watching “The Crown!”

    • Jennifer
      Author
      November 18, 2019 / 6:46 pm

      That’s wonderful advice!! I think we’d all be better off donating more clothes.

  46. Kathy
    November 18, 2019 / 5:44 pm

    I can feel frumpy with my shoes. I noticed you have cute shoes in all the pictures.
    Well fitting clothes, a good haircut, shoes and updated makeup call all help beat the “frumpies”

    • Jennifer
      Author
      November 18, 2019 / 6:44 pm

      I struggle with shoes because I have very painful feet. I may have to spend more for my shoes but I keep them for many years.

  47. Sheila-Merle Johnson
    November 19, 2019 / 1:54 am

    Brava! What a great post! I dress to please myself and if there are some days I feel ordinary, I may dres a little frumpily (word?). mostly I feel special and dress to fit any of my style words. What are the white and black snakeskin boots you are wearing? Are they still available? I would love to know.

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