Monday Musings- Kindness Matters

Happy Monday ladies. I have many things on my mind this week, not the least of which is kindness. This past year has been a strain on everyone and many of us are showing the signs of stress that often sneak out of the little cracks in our composure. We all need to treat ourselves with greater compassion because kindness matters and that extends to the way we treat others.

power of kindness sign

You can’t know what someone’s life is like until you have walked a day in their shoes. Everything may look hunky-dory on the outside yet be a hotbed of pain on the inside.

My Saturday would you wear it posts are very popular with many ladies and not so much for others. I get it! That’s human nature. We’re not going to all like the same things. That’s why they make so many flavors of ice cream. But not liking something doesn’t give you permission to say something that hurts another woman’s feelings.


Working online has exposed me to more than my fair share of keyboard warriors. These are the folks who hide behind a veil of anonymity and strike out with their words. They’re the mean girls from our youth, all grown up to be mean women.

I admit I’m that person who has a hard time keeping her opinion to herself because…well…I know everything. Just ask my husband. But I always strive to temper my words and have compassion. I’m asking you to please do the same.

I want this to be a safe, supportive place for women to express their opinions. Some comments crossed over into hostile territory on Saturday and seriously offended other readers.

If you feel that strongly about something, get your own blog and spew your negativity there. Or better yet, head over to Facebook… there’s tons of negativity there.

I won’t tolerate women criticizing other women here on AWSL and that extends to their taste in fashion. Ladies don’t come here to be insulted by other women. If you absolutely hate what the mannequin is wearing and can’t comment as it relates to you, hit exit and go on to your next email. We’ll catch you next time.

I have never had to turn moderation on for every comment and don’t plan to start now. We’re adults and if you can’t play nice in this sandbox, go home.

The term old lady, grandma, and granny were tossed around in a derogatory way. I ask you, what’s wrong with being a granny?

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Just for the record, I am that (sometimes) sweet old granny who started her own business from scratch in my 50’s. I’m a solo entrepreneur who works upwards of 10 hours a day to keep it afloat and help support my family.

I go on cruises when I can, and if someone asked me to play shuffleboard, I would. I also played Bingo when we could. Does that make me inconsequential and worthy of derisive comments? Not in my mind and my readers don’t deserve it either.

I will be trying a new format here this week and hope I can keep the “mannequins” because I usually find it a lot of fun.

Take care of yourselves, be kind and most of all, wear what makes you feel confident, no matter what other people think.

xo Jennifer






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  1. Amy Weiner
    February 28, 2021 / 3:14 pm

    Every Sunday, I catch up on AWSL to get a relaxing break and discover ways I can try new things in fashion. I have enjoyed your blog because you write it from the heart, and you seem like a very kind person. Your words have encouraged me to try new things and try to find the best in everyone including myself. The Would You Wear It? posts are fun and often show items that I might consider trying. I rarely post, but I wanted to let you know how much I have enjoyed reading your posts each week and that they make a difference in my life! Thank you!

  2. Mary Beth
    February 26, 2021 / 5:19 am

    Your blog brings a smile every day! I have particularly enjoyed looking at fashion from a different perspective and through different eyes. I especially appreciated your comment about “mean girls”. Life is certainly too short to spend effort and time on negativity! Jennifer, thank you for the bright spot in my inbox every morning!

  3. Joanne
    February 24, 2021 / 6:36 pm

    I really enjoy the “Would you wear it” posts and hope you’ll keep them. Please don’t let the mean people change what you do. You were right to call them out. I hope it makes people think twice about what they post.

  4. Susan Gowan
    February 24, 2021 / 6:04 pm

    Sorry I missed last Saturday’s blog. I like seeing the mabnequins ansmd I comment from time to time. As a Granny of almost 5 littles, I strive to be fun, stylish and casually comfortable. I enjoy seeing the fashion choices you present as well as the comments as long as they are civil. Thanks for taking a stand on the derogatory remarks. One of the things I like about your blog as that you won’t stand for mranness ir disrespect. Bravo to you!

  5. Denise M Withrow
    February 23, 2021 / 6:24 pm

    I am commenting on Saturday’s posts,referring to Would You Wear It? I love your blog and I look forward to reading it everyday. I appreciate all the hard work you put into this blog. It is ashamed,there are always some people who are just not very nice, especially when it comes to expressing themselves. Keep up the good work!

  6. Kat
    February 23, 2021 / 3:01 pm

    I subscribe to get your posts in my email and read everyone. I never comment however. I love the mannequin posts as I rarely go in store shopping right now. I miss touching fabrics and trying on clothing. . The posts help me live the experience vicariously. Please don’t stop posting. I would miss the opportunity to “shop”. The platforms we are communicating in for some reason lifts inhibitions and people often say horrendous things.

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