Monday Musings: Falling Apart and What You Attract

Monday Musings: Falling Apart and What You Attract

Happy Monday ladies. We’re in sunny Palm Springs and looking forward to seeing some of the sites during Modernism Week. Here are this week’s musings, also known as life updates and random things that are on my mind.

Ophthalmologist Tested

I’ve got dry eyes. Nothing new there, many of us do. Here’s how I treat them. It seems I also have another eye issue that’s common with old age. =(:0) It’s called Conjunctivochalasis which makes my eyes extra sensitive and contacts virtually impossible to wear. I like my current frames but the lenses need updating so I figured I might as well get a new pair so I could have more variety.Jenifer Connolly of A Well Styled Life trying 6 eyeglass frames

The new mascara I told you about here, is not cutting it for me. It does make my lashes look thick and full, but it has fibers in the formula that are flaking into my eyes. Ouch. I have gone back to my old mascara which is ophthalmologist approved.


On the subject of aging, I now know why my thumb is so painful. I’ve got arthritis in my thumb joint…and lots of other places. The orthopedist prescribed this snappy little brace which should give the joint a rest so the inflammation will die down.thumb brace for arthritis

Law Of Attraction

Who hasn’t heard of the Law of attraction? The book was a major hit several years ago spawning followup books and an entire movement. I read it and several others on the subject at the time. One of my favorite bloggers, Jen Lawrence mentioned she was reading The Source so I ordered it. Wow, it’s great! I’ve been listening to the audible version while I drive and wish I’d bought the hardcover.

It’s written by a neuroscientist who reveals the science that supports the law of attraction. Since I do believe we attract more of what we think about, I have to wonder about items one and two above;) I’ll be listening again when I’m not driving so I can take notes. Some books are just better in print, and this is one of them.


I packed for Palm Springs at the last moment and came away with only one pair of earrings. I love these but they’re not like a simple hoop that I could wear every day.woman wearing blue leopard top and jean leggings

Travel outfit, day two. Big hat, loose shirt, knit leggings, flat shoes and thumb brace…no earrings in sight:(

It’s funny, but some women feel undressed without a necklace and some feel naked without earrings. I now know I’m firmly in the earrings camp. How about you?

Thanks for reading ladies and remember to wear what makes you feel confident.

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  1. Janet
    February 17, 2020 / 6:49 pm

    I cannot leave the house without earrings. Actually, need them in the house too. Might as well be naked if I don’t wear them.

    Eye sight problems snuck up on me two years ago. What a drag. There is a an eye drop we can only get at Shoppers Drug Mart (Ontario) at the pharmacy called HiLo. Not sure if you can get it in the U.S. Better than any other eye drops I’ve tried.

    • Jennifer
      February 18, 2020 / 6:59 am

      I’ll pick some up next time I’m in Canada! Thanks for the recommendation.

  2. Anon
    February 11, 2020 / 7:59 pm

    Just for “fun” you might want to read the latest research on dry eye syndrome and vitamin D defiency. Fascinating.

  3. Beverly
    February 11, 2020 / 6:27 am

    Glasses are hard! I purchased two pair a year or so ago, one Coach, one something else and didn’t like the style after I wore them a few times. Also, the quality was not up to par with older glasses that I purchased at the same place. I do wear contacts but am finding, in recent pics, that I have a lot of puffiness and darkness below my eyes that nothing but glasses seem to cover. Time to look for a new glasses I guess!

    I read the comment on closing necklaces, bracelets and earring as we age. I have trouble with my hands and am now very conscious of the closing on my jewelry. I too have had jewelers refit closings so I can continue to wear favorite pieces.

    • Jennifer
      February 11, 2020 / 8:42 am

      Funny you should mention the under-eye region. My bags look worse in contacts too. Having the frame cover them is a priority now.

  4. Jen
    February 11, 2020 / 6:26 am

    I love a new pair of glasses. I wear Shaw lenses to drive since LASIK left me with two very different prescriptions. They are very thick and I’m limited in my frame choice so I’m envious you have so many options. They all look lovely on you. Love the hat too! Thank you for the shout out. Isn’t that a good book? It puts hard science behind all the woo woo. Have a lovely day! Xx

    • Jennifer
      February 11, 2020 / 8:41 am

      I’m so glad you recommended it! I’m a fan of woo woo in most everything but scientific backing makes it all the more enjoyable.xx

  5. Kim
    February 11, 2020 / 4:35 am

    This is my favorite pair of glasses for Jennifer, too. Just in a more cool-toned color. The shape and size is perfect.

    • Kim
      February 11, 2020 / 4:37 am

      Oops, left out which pair! Second row, left side.

      • Jennifer
        February 12, 2020 / 3:47 pm

        My favorite too

  6. Juliet
    February 10, 2020 / 6:38 pm

    I’m with you in the earring camp. Hope we’ll hear more on your run in with the water line. :-/

  7. Rose
    February 10, 2020 / 6:05 pm

    Thanks for such a relatable post! I’ve worn earrings daily for years, lipstick since my twenties, and a small necklace which has personal meaning for me. I also suffer from dry eyes and have used Restasis and now Xiidra after my insurance stopped covering Restasis. I am eager to try your suggestions as these prescriptions are so costly.
    I am very pleased with your mascara choices and I’m currently loving the Lights, Camera, Lashes one best of all. It actually brings out my pale blonde lashes very well.
    I’m really enjoying following your blog and I’m so glad I found it! Have a great vacation!

  8. Christine
    February 10, 2020 / 3:36 pm

    I dislike earrings intensely, on the other hand I’m not dressed unless I have lipstick on!

    I get my glasses from a really funky shop which has styles which are really out there – you have to make a statement!!

  9. Carolyn
    February 10, 2020 / 2:48 pm

    I vote glasses second on left. I also always wear earrings. Go buy yourself an earrings present from your trip!

  10. Susan
    February 10, 2020 / 1:39 pm

    Jennifer, we all appreciate you! No pretenses from you – you tell it like it is and we love you for it. I also have dry eyes….such a pain but not ready to give up contacts completely and arthritis of wrists are prevalent. So sorry about the water main break….I love your stories! Thanks for sharing your trips, family, home (where did you end up?) skin care and clothes. It’s all good! Have a great time in Palm Springs!?

  11. Sharon Mulliken
    February 10, 2020 / 12:34 pm

    I laughed out loud when I saw what earrings you did bring! Sounds like something I would do lol I am a real earring and bracelet person. I feel not all the way dressed when I forget one or the other. Enjoy Palm Springs as this is a wonderful time of year to be there. We hiked at this time of year around there and in the desert and it was just lovely….and not hot! Maybe you could shop a bit and come up with a pair of go-with-everything earrings!!

    • Jennifer
      February 10, 2020 / 7:02 pm

      I think shopping is a very good idea 😉

  12. Laurel
    February 10, 2020 / 12:09 pm

    Earrings for sure. I don’t wear a lot of jewelry on a daily basis, but always earrings if I’m leaving the house.

    New glasses are a nice lift, and like you, I like a bit of variety now that I’m wearing them more. I take my previous frames to Costco for new lens once I have new script. It’s much cheaper to have them redo the lens since I also have prescription sunnies.

  13. Kathy
    February 10, 2020 / 12:01 pm

    I wish I could wear pierced earrings! I’ve had my ears pierced 5 or 6 different times but they get infected and never heal. I do have several pairs of cute clip-ons, but often they start to pinch after an hour. I wear glasses all of the time now; my vision in totally blurry without them. I don’t mind because there are so many stylish options available. I feel naked if I leave the house without my wedding rings on.

  14. Nancy J
    February 10, 2020 / 11:30 am

    Glasses: 2nd on left are very becoming. I relate with the thumb issues. I wore a brace for sometime before having successful surgery to reconstruct. It had been horribly deformed with arthritis and very painful. Dry eye seems to come with the territory, doesn’t it? My right eye drips so much, I’m considering lid surgery. With age, the lower lid sometimes pouches out and the tear duct doesn’t align properly to absorb the tears. Oh well! But we continue to persevere being thankful for what we have. Thank you for inspiring us all! ❤️

    • Jennifer
      February 10, 2020 / 7:01 pm

      That sounds so annoying but you’re right, we’ve got to stay on top of things. Luckily they can do lots of things to help us.

  15. Janet D.
    February 10, 2020 / 11:28 am

    Count me in with the Always Earrings crowd; they’re first on & last off every single day. I prefer big hoops or danglies, although I do have a few sets of studs I like. And I enjoy having fun with them: I have 5 piecings & often wear combinations of hoops & studs, depending on my mood that day — sometimes I’ll wear studs in one ear & loops or dangles in the other & watch people trying to decide if I’ve done it on purpose or by accident. I also feel naked without a pile of bracelets & multiple silver rings. The other 2 things I wear every day, even when I’m at home alone: mascara & good perfume.

    • Jennifer
      February 10, 2020 / 6:59 pm

      Count me in with bracelets too. They’re just so fun.

  16. Deb
    February 10, 2020 / 11:22 am

    Wear diamond hoops everyday unless changing to sliver hoops and necklace . Lipstick, mascara & blush a must and 2 pair of glasses on the left are my favorites!

  17. Mary
    February 10, 2020 / 10:57 am

    I also have very sensitive ears and have found the nickel free ones work well for me. I wear them every day with no problem. Enjoy your blog. Like the glasses on the left..second row.

  18. Gayle
    February 10, 2020 / 10:28 am

    I, too, have dry eyes and MGD. Here’s a hint: keep some of your eye drops in the refrigerator. Feels cool and soothing, plus you can tell that the drops actually went in. My opthamologist said it was fine to do that. Some brands may thicken, but most are ok when chilled.

    • Jennifer
      February 10, 2020 / 6:57 pm

      That would feel soothing!! I’ll try it. Thanks.

  19. Elaine @ Following Augustine
    February 10, 2020 / 10:12 am

    Even though they’re often hidden by my hair, I feel naked without earrings too. I usually carry a tiny pair of studs in my purse for those occasions when I’m out and about and realize that I forgot to put any on, but sometimes it’s a good excuse to buy a new pair! Usually just costume jewelry but something I know I’ll wear again.

    • Jennifer
      February 10, 2020 / 6:56 pm

      What a great idea!!

  20. Chris
    February 10, 2020 / 9:55 am

    You don’t need anything other than that fabulous classic Cartier watch. I have one as well…I bought it as a gift for myself 30 years ago. I don’t leave home without it!

    • Jennifer
      February 10, 2020 / 6:55 pm

      It is my very favorite watch!! I adore it. My husband surprised me with it over 30 years ago. Best gift he’s ever bought me.

  21. Eve
    February 10, 2020 / 9:51 am

    My hairdresser is always saying to me, “I know, I know, don’t let your ears show.” I totally dislike my ears so I don’t wear earrings. Huge ears.

    I have a small face but didn’t realize I had been wearing glasses too big until I put these on I just bought. Love wine frames with silver hair! I forgot to change colors when my hair turned gray.

  22. Elizabeth
    February 10, 2020 / 9:48 am

    This is the best blog entry you’ve posted since I joined late 2019! Everything is about me, too! Have always worn glasses, so up-date every 2 years. Love the ones you’re wearing, left side & second down-exactly like I’m wearing, only in dark brown frames-they “lift” your face. Also have dry, sensitive eyes that hate mascara until I tried L’Oreal’s Voluminous Lash Paradise that doesn’t shed fibres. Lower cost, so buy a new one every 2 months. I suffer from osteoarthritis in left thumb & hampers playing the piano, so do physio exercises for this. Loved our time in Palm Springs & took a private mid-century modern house tour-fantastic! Can’t leave the house without simple earrings, bracelet & lipstick. Keep up these great posts, Jennifer!

    • Jennifer
      February 10, 2020 / 6:53 pm

      Thanks so much Elizabeth!! I’m glad you’re here with us.

  23. Patsy McMillan
    February 10, 2020 / 9:09 am

    Pleasetell me where you purchased your blouse from this post.

    • Jennifer
      February 10, 2020 / 6:51 pm

      It’s from Banana Republic last year. I’m sorry it’s not available anymore.

  24. Mollie M.
    February 10, 2020 / 8:57 am

    I always wear my earrings. My favourite ones are silver and gold small hoops. Now that I am older I have trouble putting them in my ears. I do feel naked if I don’t wear them. Another problem is doing up my necklaces. Does anyone else have this problem? The glasses that look best on you are the second row, first picture. The others make you look older! I look forward to your posts each day Jennifer, you do inspire me!

    • Diane B
      February 10, 2020 / 3:11 pm

      Mollie, I have taken a few necklaces to the jeweler to have magnetic closures put in for ones I can’t do up anymore. They are not cheep but do the trick really well.

  25. Bab
    February 10, 2020 / 8:42 am

    I always find stylish frames at a small optical shop in our area. They have never sent me out the door with frames that didn’t complement the shape of my face. My current frames are made by Oxibis. Several styles and color combinations are available. Good luck with your search.

    Creature of habit, I always wear my signature pair of earrings. Have some metal allergies so the pair I wear are a safe choice.

    Nice outfit today but your styling is always great.

  26. Karen H.
    February 10, 2020 / 8:32 am

    Earrings, mascara and lipstick are my essentials. I usually wear a simple silver knot even if I’m staying home, and a classic silver hoop if I’m going out. I’m not sure if you were asking for our pick on the frames, but my favorite on you are the second row, left, and third row, right. Enjoy your Palm Springs getaway!

    • Jennifer
      February 10, 2020 / 6:49 pm

      Thanks Karen. I really like them too

  27. Annie Vanderven
    February 10, 2020 / 8:14 am

    Wear small diamond hoops all day all night!! cant bother to remove them so always ready!! after reaching my sixties it has been a rapid downfall with major health problems , here I am flirting with 80 have not kissed it yet!! it is all about acceptance. easy? Not but what is the alternative? Enjoy reading your opinions everyday might as well keep up with life…

    • Jennifer
      February 10, 2020 / 6:48 pm

      Hang in there Annie!! Xx

  28. Mary Lou S
    February 10, 2020 / 7:46 am

    I wear diamond (not real) studs most every day as I have gotten lazy about changing them since I don’t dress for work any more. I really like the glasses on the bottom right. I have developed excessive eye watering and need to get it checked out. Enjoy ready your posts!

    • Jennifer
      February 10, 2020 / 6:47 pm

      Believe it or not, that’s a symptom of dry eyes! Get it checked

  29. Lauren
    February 10, 2020 / 7:46 am

    I have always loved earrings. And yes my pierced ears are sensitive. The secret for me has been quality for the posts but more important that that is the cleaning. Alcohol to clean when they come out before I put them away and alcohol again to clean the post on the pair going on for the day. And I never sleep with earrings in

  30. Kathleen P Doherty
    February 10, 2020 / 7:40 am

    I love you in the glasses that are second down on the left. Somehow they just do something for your eyes. I hope you enjoy them!

  31. jmp
    February 10, 2020 / 7:37 am

    I also feel naked without my earrings. Before I retired, I kept an extra pair in my desk at school and another in my car in case I forgot them. Now I’m becoming attached to my lipstick. I also feel naked without that! Maybe it’s one of those aging things. 😉

  32. Diane B
    February 10, 2020 / 7:36 am

    Glasses are such a stress for me to pick out as I have to wear them all the time and want something that will last a couple years. I like the second row left side and the bottom right for the shape and the top left for the colour. I have been told with progressives that a small lens is not an option with my prescription. I need a bigger area for the close reading. Pick what makes you happy when you look in the mirror and see yourself in pictures. I wear earrings and necklaces with the glasses because that is just who I am….and do feel naked without jewellery.

  33. Eileen
    February 10, 2020 / 7:19 am

    studs every day for me, I work in a gym. I prefer a flat shape on my ears , more than dangling types. As for dry eyes, I had a small bout , the eye doc said the area I live in is allergy and dry eye prone! I miss my Bay Area fog!

  34. Phyllis Hughes
    February 10, 2020 / 6:58 am

    I have worn earrings since I was two years old and begged my Mom to get my ears pierced just like hers. Our neighbor did my mother’s ears and after showing me the size of the needle, she did mine. I never even flinched, according to my mother. That was sixty-five years ago and I have worn earrings ever since. The few times I have forgotten to put them in, I have felt naked all day. They are a part of me. Likewise, I have worn glasses since I was nine years old. I tried contacts for six months when they came out with the soft contacts, but couldn’t stand them. I have too many eye allergies to successfully wear them. I like to wear glasses with small lenses because large frames irritate the area below my eyes. Arthritis has hit my wrists hard in the last few years, but braces seem to irritate them instead of help. I wear wrist warmers that keep them warm and that seems to help.

  35. Linda Lennon
    February 10, 2020 / 6:54 am

    Welcome to the neighborhood! Head over to El Paseo where you will find lots of stores to purchase earrings. I wear earrings, necklace and lipstick every day even if I never leave the house. As for mascara, over the years I have found the only one that doesn’t irritate my eyes is a Maybelline one in the green case. I toss out the old one on the first of the month and start fresh. Seems to be working since I have not had an eye infection in years.

    • Carolyn
      February 10, 2020 / 1:07 pm

      I use the same Maybelline mascara. I’ve tried all the expensive brands and always come back to this. My Target was down to 3 packages- hope they aren’t discontinuing it.

  36. Beverly
    February 10, 2020 / 6:53 am

    No matter how our bodies change, earrings and bracelets always fit! Thank you for this post, and I hope to see more from Palm Springs. We stay there for golf every winter, leaving snowy Colorado behind. I can figure out what to wear for golf, but my Colorado clothes don’t always translate well to Palm Springs. Thanks for giving me some good ideas.

  37. Mary
    February 10, 2020 / 6:43 am

    Picking out eyeglass frames is so hard. I went to several places before I settled on a frame that is just OK. If you live near a Target with an eye shop, stop by – they have really nice frames.
    I wear earrings most days. I wear glasses full time so the earrings are on the smaller side. I feel really silly wearing glasses + big earrings. Just too much for me.

  38. Linda V
    February 10, 2020 / 6:35 am

    well, as the lady above said, I don’t like any of those frames on you! Have you looked at a smaller frame? I have bifocals that are small. The eye Doc actually showed me that you need very little space to actually see. We don’t need oversized frames. Just think about it. I always wear earrings and blush when I leave the house! I also love a watch as a fashion accessory. I just another Ted Baker watch that is very beautiful. I try to match the watch to my outfit.

    • Susan
      February 10, 2020 / 7:38 am

      I agree with you, Linda! All those frames just overpower Jennifer’s pretty face…

  39. Diane Rake
    February 10, 2020 / 6:28 am

    I don’t leave home without earrings and my eyebrows done. I am lucky that I can even wear inexpensive costume earrings and some of them are so cute.

  40. Susan
    February 10, 2020 / 6:25 am

    You need to go to the shops and find some earrings,a souvenir of this trip.I feel manly without earrings!

  41. Cindy
    February 10, 2020 / 6:22 am

    I wish I could wear earrings. My ears were pierced for half my life but somewhere along the line I became very sensitive to metal in my ears. Nothing worked Real gold, real silver, all the allergy types.

    • Jennifer
      February 10, 2020 / 6:46 pm

      That’s a shame. I’ve heard of people struggling with it.

  42. Paula
    February 10, 2020 / 5:53 am

    I do like the glasses on you but my favorite on you would be the 2nd down on our left. But you are such a pretty lady, that any of the frames don’t take away from your beauty! I have very dry eyes myself so my opthomologist has me on Restasis and Bausch & Lomb PreserVision eye vitamins. I also have the beginnings of Macular degeneration! Lucky me! But I am staying on top of it with my doctor and am hoping and praying for new technology over the years to help with that! Enjoy your stay in Palm Springs! I really enjoy your blog!! Blessings!

    • Jennifer
      February 10, 2020 / 6:45 pm

      Wishing you best luck with your eyes. Self care and staying on top of health issues is so important. It seems the older we get the more we need.

  43. Jan
    February 10, 2020 / 5:46 am

    I love your travel outfit for today! Comfort, color and style are all working so well for you.
    I struggle picking out new frames for my glasses. I wear them all the time so I really want something that works with the whole picture. For me, I don’t like the lens to dip down too far on my cheeks because that just magnifies any under eye issues. Since I wear glasses all the time, I consider them as an accessory and don’t wear earrings but I do wear the longer necklaces.
    Hope you’re having a great vacation Jennifer!

  44. Paulette Levy
    February 10, 2020 / 5:42 am

    Wear everyday? My thin bangle bracelets by Alex and Ani. They are silver and thin and I stack three it more. They even go with jeans as they are casual! I don’t wear them for dressy events but yes every other day!
    On the eyeglass frames I love my Kate Spade tortoise and my thin rimless and that’s it. On the display shown I like the two on LEFT, 2nd and 3rd row the best.

    • Jennifer
      February 10, 2020 / 6:42 pm

      Thanks Paulette

  45. Violet L O'Brien
    February 10, 2020 / 5:32 am

    Hope you enjoy your time away. I too love earrings and also bracelets. I feel naked without earrings so I can only imagine how you feel being away with only one pair. Thoroughly enjoy reading all that you write…,.,so friendly and helpful. You are also very down to earth which is helpful to women like me. Thank you!!

    • Jennifer
      February 10, 2020 / 6:42 pm

      Happy Monday Violet. I’m glad you’re here.

  46. Memee
    February 10, 2020 / 5:28 am

    I knew I was an earring woman when I got out of my car and went back into house to put earrings in before heading to Walmart! By the way, for those looking for great NAVY PANTS, JJill has their great Essential Cotton Stretch pants in navy this season. I ordered them immediately as I already have them in black, tan, and white and wear them all the time even in hot summers here in North Carolina. So comfy!

    • Jennifer
      February 10, 2020 / 6:41 pm

      Thanks for sharing. J Jill is popular with many of my readers

    February 10, 2020 / 5:11 am

    OH, I don’t love any of the frames. I like what you have worn on here before. I have same dry eye issues. I use drops and the eye wipes but ordered the other items you mentioned as the wash cloth trick does not work! Thanks for this informative post.

    • Jennifer
      February 10, 2020 / 6:39 pm

      The eye pad is wonderful. Be sure you leave it in long enough to get the glands moving.

  48. Michele
    February 10, 2020 / 5:11 am

    I have had the joint replaced on both of my thumbs because of the pain. I know exactly what you are going through. I, too, feel naked without earrings. It sounds like you have an excellent excuse to go shopping. ?

    • Jennifer
      February 10, 2020 / 6:38 pm

      Great idea Michele! I’ll tell my husband you said to go shopping 😉

  49. Sandy
    February 10, 2020 / 5:10 am

    I really like Monday musings! I’m with you…
    Unless I’m doing housework, I have earrings on.
    I’m also a HUGE fan of bracelets.

    • Jennifer
      February 10, 2020 / 6:37 pm

      I love bracelets too 🙂

  50. Terry W
    February 10, 2020 / 5:05 am

    I also wear earrings every day, even when I’m working at home for the day. I have my “signature” earrings – 14k gold hoops worn with gold earring charms. I have quite a collection of earring charm pairs! Some of the charms are all gold (hearts, tear drops, etc.), some are gem charms. This has been my signature style for more years than I can remember. I occasionally wear a different style of earring, but five days out of seven I wear my signature look.

    • Cynthia
      February 10, 2020 / 2:06 pm

      Wow. I’ve never heard of earring charms. These sound fabulous.

    • Jennifer
      February 10, 2020 / 6:37 pm

      Those sound like a clever idea. I’ve never seen charm earrings.

    February 10, 2020 / 5:03 am

    My Mother wore earrings and lipstick to age 98, when she died! I do wear earrings every day. You have been a very expensive read today! I ordered the sleep tracker, 6 mini mascaras, the double hoop earrings and I would order the shirt if you had linked it!! I love happy exclamation marks as you see!

  52. Linda
    February 10, 2020 / 4:44 am

    I wear earrings every day and will do so until I die! My mother wore her lipstick and earrings until the last few months of her 86 yrs.

  53. Marsha Gibbons
    February 10, 2020 / 4:40 am

    I wear glasses too! I wish I had a committee with me when I buy a new pair. Anyway, I love the second row, left hand side. They look beautiful. They are all great!

    • Karen McKain
      February 10, 2020 / 9:14 am

      That is my favorite also.

    • Jennifer
      February 10, 2020 / 6:35 pm

      Sometimes too many helpers can effect your intuition about it. I highly recommend selfies then you can study them later.

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