My Relationship with Pink

My Relationship with Pink

Pink and I go way back. As a little girl, I lived in pink. As a teenager, not so much. I wanted to look sophisticated and pink didn’t send that message so I moved on to darker colors and black. Lots and lots of black. Fast forward to the 80’s when Color Me Beautiful by Carole Jackson hit the stands and my relationship with pink had another metamorphosis.

pink tote bag

I didn’t wear pink as a young woman, but once Color Me Beautiful pigeon-holed me as a summer, I stopped wearing black and tried to live in pastels. I wore pale pink, soft pink, cotton candy pink and nauseous pink…none of which I felt comfortable in.

pink pants

After several years I ignored the rules from Color Me Beautiful and started wearing black again. Breaking out of its limited palette give me many more options and I found it easier to get dressed again.


Color Me Beautiful’s original system was a simplified seasonal color analysis that every woman could use to self-diagnose her most flattering colors, using paper swatches from the book. When I studied to become an Image Consultant I was trained in Suzanne Cargill’s system and learned the importance of personality in color analysis. Strong personalities can easily wear stronger colors. My physical coloring is pale and cool toned like a summer but my personality is strong, therefore I can easily wear black.

pink shoes

In my 40’s and 50s, I steered completely away from pink. In my 60’s I notice a dramatic softening of my own coloring and so have begun to experiment with pink again and am enjoying the result.


This summer I’m back to wearing softer pinks. Shoes, handbags, and pants are my preferred method of wearing pink with the occasional scarf or earring tossed in.

I don’t expect to wear head to toe pink anytime soon but the right shade in the right silhouette might tempt me. We’ll see.

pink pants


Women intuitively know what works for them and need to trust their innate knowledge. Professional advice is always helpful but never ignore what you sense yourself. If you’ve had your colors professionally done, know that it’s never set in stone and our colors do change as we age.

pink scarf

How do you feel about wearing pink?

Are you a fan of color profiling?

Thanks for reading and have a great day!

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  1. Christie Crawford
    June 20, 2017 / 5:03 am

    I couldn’t agree more regarding your experience with pink. I got into the color bandwagon as well and wore much hot pink in the 80’s but as I got further in my corporate career, pink wasn’t a businesslike color in the office ( at lost not for management). I just retired this year and am loving the blush and rose colors for accents. Thanks for the tips. My family is embracing my new splashes of color!

    • June 20, 2017 / 7:31 am

      Blush is a current favorite of mine too Christie! It’s almost a neutral if it’s pale enough.

  2. Karen
    June 20, 2017 / 5:04 am

    I love PINK!!! But since I’ve faded a bit with age, raspberry gives me a happier look.

    • June 20, 2017 / 7:33 am

      The contrast may be prettier with raspberry, Karen. I even love the color names!

  3. Téa
    June 20, 2017 / 5:12 am

    I had my colors “done” about 2 years ago, in a effort to “simplify” my life and figure out why my wardrobe wasnt’ working. I am now a devotee, hook, line and sinker! So much so, that I had it done for my new college grad daughter and her BFF as a little tool for building a work wardrobe that WORKS! It’s like “garanimals” for adults!

    I can “see” what colors are now BEST for me and my tones, and which ones to steer from. Being an “autumn”, I know that cool pastels are not the best on me, so I just keep them away from my face. I was given tools to use to rectify colors that are not actually in my wheel house. Quite liberating! Do I still wear black? Of course! I am a native NYer – it’s a birthright!!

    • June 20, 2017 / 7:36 am

      That’s hilarious Téa! I can’t imagine a NYer not wearring black. Learning how to make colors work for, rather than against you is the very best tool we have!

  4. Beverly
    June 20, 2017 / 5:13 am

    I have long been a fan of color analysis as a tool to help women know which ones help them look their best. I have had mine done twice with different results….the first time I was told I am an Autumn and the second time (different consultant) I was told I am a Spring. I’ve never been able to resolve that question but feel drawn to the Autumn spectrum of colors so I pretty much follow that. But I do think as we get older we are sometimes more comfortable in some colors vs others. And as you pointed out, there is an entire range of all colors and that’s the point of it, you may be able to wear one shade and not others. This was a fun post! Very helpful!

    • June 20, 2017 / 7:38 am

      That was exactly my point Beverly! You know intuitively what’s right for you, which is powerful knowledge. Thanks for sharing!

  5. June 20, 2017 / 5:18 am

    I’ve enjoyed colour profiling over the years but as you say my skin and hair have softened and I have attained greater awareness of my own personality. In the 80’s, Colour Me Beautiful classified me as a Winter. I loved cobalt, magenta, black and white with my dark hair and blue/green eyes. Fuchsia was my pink. In later years, I coloured my hair in various red shades. My stylist declared me an Autumn. Orange, brown and mossy greens were my palette. Coral was my pink. Now, with silver hair, I tend to choose softer hues.Dusty rose is a favourite. Grey or navy are my neutrals. BUT as you say, personality can take over and I’ve received many compliments when I’ve strayed from my soft palette and worn a brighter pink. I don’t carry my “colours” with me any more as I just know what colours feel flattering.

    • June 20, 2017 / 7:41 am

      Such a great point, Joanne! Changing our hair color has a huge impact on which colors are flattering.

  6. Jacqui
    June 20, 2017 / 5:19 am

    I think you look great in pink. I’ve added a few pieces of pink clothing to my wardrobe this spring/summer, but usually wear it with black or navy. Haven’t done the head to toe pink yet, not sure I’d like it. I love the pink earrings you are wearing above. Have a great day! It’s supposed to be 100 degrees here today. I live in Nevada near the California border on Topaz Lake.

    • June 20, 2017 / 7:42 am

      Thanks Jacqui! I’m really liking it worn with black. Wowza that’s hot! Wear your hat. Have a great day.

  7. Renee
    June 20, 2017 / 5:34 am

    i do like pink , i like black also , i have dark hair a light complexion and light eyes ,so i dont wear pale pink close to my face , i have never felt i could do the pastels , i see you dont wear the pink shoe with the pink pant , you see that might be something i need to change , i have always felt your shoe should match your pant or close there , what would you say ?

    • June 20, 2017 / 7:45 am

      Good catch Renee! I wore contrasting shoes so the shoe would be the focal point. The pants are a supporting character. It does sound like pale colors would wash you out so it’s great that you recognize that!

  8. Elizabeth
    June 20, 2017 / 5:37 am

    I remember “Color Me Beautiful”. It was so helpful to know my season –winter– and to know which colors looked best on me. I would never have bought a bluish purple suit if not for CMB! It has helped me avoid color mistakes over the years, but my color seems to be changing. I’m wearing more white and off-white, especially with black. And gray in place of black, although i still love black. I love the soft pink pants you are wearing; i have a sweater and floral scarf in a similar shade that i love. Is there a similar method to CMB used today, so I don’t continue to guess?

    Thank you for your blog! You provided lots of useful, current tips and information. Keep it up!

    • June 20, 2017 / 7:53 am

      I know they have expanded their seasons in an effort to clarify it further for women. The system was terrific to help women understand their skin tone and temperature. The same concepts remain with a little more detail. Have a look at Color Your Style by David Zyla.

  9. Elizabeth
    June 20, 2017 / 6:12 am

    Since I am a strawberry blonde. I have never worn pink. But I love it on others.

    • June 20, 2017 / 7:55 am

      Have you worn pale coral or soft apricot? Those could be your pink, Elizabeth.

  10. sharon
    June 20, 2017 / 7:04 am

    I too love this new pink/blush color. I am in my 60’s enjoy touches of pink. I adore the pink shoes you are wearing! are they still available?

    • June 20, 2017 / 7:57 am

      Sadly the shoes are sold out in this pink color. They went very fast or not many were manufactured.

  11. Yvonne
    June 20, 2017 / 8:47 am

    You look great in pink Jennifer – I love how you’ve combined it with black.
    I’m a “winter”. I had my Colours done in 1981 , and thought the concept was so amazing that I went to work for the company for 9 years. My mother, who was also a winter instinctively knew which colours suited her best and when I look back at photos of me as a child, she had me dressed in navy, purple, red and other winter colours. My childhood bedroom was royal blue and white!
    Love the concept and still believe it has great merit.

    • June 20, 2017 / 10:19 am

      How fabulous to live with your colors always!! Have you altered your colors as you age?

      • Yvonne
        June 20, 2017 / 11:24 am

        No I haven’t, but I wonder if that’s because I still colour my hair close to it’s original dark brunette. I still look good in the darker and brighter colours (at least I think I do). I know the current thinking is that our complexion, hair, eyes fade a bit with age, but my eyes are still dark brown and my complexion fair, so I believe I still have enough natural contrast to stay with the winter pallet. Staying with the same range of colours for so many years has saved me so much money, plus accessories that I’ve collected over the years always go with newer additions to my closet.

        • June 20, 2017 / 1:15 pm

          Absolutely! Keeping your hair dark will keep your contrast high. It would save you money 🙂

  12. Candy Weaver
    June 20, 2017 / 8:48 am

    I LOVE, LOVE your black and white jacket! It is just what I have been looking for! Did you purchase it this year? And where?

  13. Lynn Feist
    June 20, 2017 / 9:02 am

    I have never worn much pink. I had colour analysis done in the 80’s as well and once was an autumn and once a spring. At least both are warm! I agree with you Jennifer in that we instinctively go to the colours that suit us. I was already wearing warm colours and continue to do so. I’m not stuck in a “season” but do know that pastel colours wash me out so stay away from them. My personality is not ‘soft colours’ either 🙂

    • June 20, 2017 / 10:29 am

      There you go! Strong personality and warm toned. Makes perfect sense to me! Thanks for sharing Lynn. Color profiling is a bit subjective.

  14. Susan
    June 20, 2017 / 9:12 am

    Still swear by Color Me Beautiful! I was a blonde when it came out, now white with a little salt and pepper at back fringe. Any tie I’ve tried to deviate from the color palatte I turn green. Fuschia is the only pink that works for me. I applauded anyone that can wear it, pretty in pink!

    • June 20, 2017 / 10:30 am

      Sounds like you know your colors very well, Susan. I love how empowering that is!

  15. June 20, 2017 / 11:06 am

    I found the Color Me Beautiful message extremely helpful. Since I am an artist, I always assumed that I had an eye for color; that may be true, but I didn’t take a good look at certain colors paired with my coloring. No more orange or gold – ever – at least not near my face! It’s true that coloring fades as we age, and mine has. My once brown eyes are now almost green, etc. So I’m taking a careful new look at color. Isn’t color the most wonderful, juiciest thing ever?

    • June 20, 2017 / 1:08 pm

      It is juicy!! My eyes used to be blue with a green ring and are turning gray. Gold near my face is and always will be horrid.

  16. Janet Williams
    June 20, 2017 / 11:49 am

    Seasonal colour profiling still works for me with some blurring of the lines. Two big exceptions: solid darks make me feel awful and must be accented with bright colour and true pastels have never worked for me.

    • June 20, 2017 / 1:34 pm

      It’s great that you know that about your coloring. You’re wearing the color rather than it over powering you.

  17. Sandy Andry
    June 20, 2017 / 11:53 am

    I loved, loved, loved Color Me Beautiful. I still believe that the color clothes you wear should depend on your personal coloring. Thanks for recommending a NEW book on color. I’ve put it in my Amazon cart. I am also petite (5′) and learn many good tips from you.

    • June 20, 2017 / 1:35 pm

      You’ll really like this book! It’s full of great ideas

      • Kate
        June 30, 2017 / 7:41 pm

        Which new book is this? Thanks

        • June 30, 2017 / 8:10 pm

          Color Your Style by David Zyla. It’s a fun read and very educational.

  18. Janet Walker
    June 20, 2017 / 3:17 pm

    So enjoy your blog, Jennifer. I was a summer at 20 with dark hair and blue eyes. Today at 58 my true hair color is 85% white. My hair will not hold low lights and fades rapidly to a gold blonde. Do you think another color analysis would help me transition to a flattering “light” blonde? I don’t think platinum blonde is right and gold is very warm. Have been told my coloring is neutral and eye color now grayish blue-green Would love your input if you have time….

    Many thanks.


    • June 20, 2017 / 8:21 pm

      Yes, I think it might be good to get a refresh. What color are your veins. Blue or green? Cool skin tone rarely turns warm but it can soften. If you have cool coloring you’ve likely become a softer summer but that wouldn’t be warm. Find a pro!!

  19. Wendi Meyer
    June 20, 2017 / 3:23 pm

    I love Color Me Beautiful ! When I wear the colors suggested I always get compliments galore. If I wear colors not in my palate people ask me if I am tired or feeling ok. It is like the lights have gone out. I love how you combined pink and black ! So fun to look at your marvelous posts !

    • June 20, 2017 / 8:22 pm

      That’s the power of color!! Perfectly described. Thank you Wendi!!

  20. Robin
    June 20, 2017 / 3:29 pm

    Hi Jennifer
    You look fab in pink! Love the pink earring. I think in January you were talking about pink and since then I have introduced pink into my wardrobe. I really enjoy the colour.

    I’ve was told I was an Autumn 30 years ago then recently I was told I was a Winter! Go figure!!
    Have you seen “dressing your truth” videos? Colours and personality types.
    I find it all very interesting and one can take a bit of info from it all..

    • June 20, 2017 / 8:26 pm

      I have seen the videos. She has a very different perspective, with no color training. I’m not in agreement with her theory on color and pigeonholing women into narrow categories but she has built a large business.

  21. Phawnda Moore
    June 20, 2017 / 3:43 pm

    Enjoyed this column, Jennifer! I, too, love certain shades of pink. Yes, blush! I was married at 50 in blush. I’ve painted walls in my husband’s (medical, so kindness matters) office and in our bedroom. When I designed my art studio in black and white, there had to be something pink. A chair. Blush roses on a wall canvas.

    As for wardrobe colors, I’ve been told to avoid pastels, go for winter colors w/summer secondary. Warm skin and hair, cool eyes, but eyes matter more they said. So I wear a lot of blues, greens, turquoise, coral, plum. I like solid colors, simple lines.

    The most interesting thing I’ve heard about color is to collect something small in colors that appeal to you: a paint chip, a feather, a jewel. Put them in a designated box. Then down the road, open the box and take out ‘your’ colors. These are the colors of your spirit, and when you wear them, you will look beautiful. Interesting, huh?

    • June 20, 2017 / 8:28 pm

      I love the idea of blush colored walls!! So soft and soothing. Surrounding ourselves with injects and colors we love is uplifting.

  22. June 20, 2017 / 4:55 pm

    I found Colour Me Beautiful helpful back in the 80s and I still keep what I learned in mind, but like you, I’ve discovered that as I age I can wear different colours than I could when I was younger. I’ve never worn much pink and I can’t quite imagine myself in pink pants, but they look great on you with your pink earrings. And what can I say about those pink shoes? They rock!

  23. tealady3
    June 20, 2017 / 5:01 pm

    I adore pink, always have always will. I have been in love with pink my whole life. Being in my 50’s hasn’t stopped me from wearing pink. Some women have a trade mark or a signature style I always have something pink on. It might be a ring, sweater, blouse or as simple as earrings. I find it kind of fun for people who know how I love pink look for the pink of the day.

    • June 20, 2017 / 8:30 pm

      That’s so fun! Pink is the most romantic, soothing color.

  24. Lizer Pearl
    June 21, 2017 / 12:09 am

    I love the pink pants and earrings with the black jersey, far more pleasing to my eye than the pink and white. You look stunning, The shoes are really beautiful.


    Lizer Pearl

  25. Lisa Bayne Astor
    June 21, 2017 / 11:03 am

    You convinced me to try pink this year, Jennifer. Truly, it was because of one of your posts. I felt like I was in drag! It is just not me, never has been. But oh my, I would love to look as fabulous as you in it!

    • June 21, 2017 / 10:15 pm

      Amazing Lisa! I could picture many women I know wearing pink, you’d never be one of them. Your style is not something I ever picture in pink.

  26. June 23, 2017 / 10:20 pm

    You look great the way you wear pink. You make it work. My sister to this day still thinks about Color me beautiful. Makes me a little crazy. I guess it’s my artist’s eye that simply knows when a color looks good or not.But I like the way the way you make clothes work!

    • June 23, 2017 / 11:26 pm

      Thanks, Sandra! I would love to have an artist’s eye about shape, proportion, and color. I do love wearing pink but I have to be careful it doesn’t become too sweet!

  27. June 27, 2017 / 10:04 am

    I identify completely with what you said; I’ve had the same relationship with pink, except I’ve never identified with it. I gravitated toward black, black, black and now in my 60’s discovered that I’m a soft summer! I had thought I was a spring, because my eyes are half green and half brown (I thought that was warm). So for decades I have worn brights. But I can’t wear the palest tones of soft summer because I’m medium-toned and they will wash me out. I checked out Jennifer Aniston and Angeline Jolie and Sarah Jessica Parker, all soft summers, and learned how they wear black successfully (Jennifer Aniston loves black and white together and alone). A low neckline to show more skin and sheer materials soften the black, for instance. As I have been taking a closer look at pink, I have found that I like the soft and rich shades of it and especially in suede (just like your shoes) or other textures. Thanks so much for your insights in this article!

    • June 27, 2017 / 1:20 pm

      Texture makes a tremendous difference in how a color looks on us. Paying attention to our gut instinct is also very important Angie.

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