Fashion Mistakes to Avoid That Quietly Date Your Look
9 Style Shifts For A Modern, Polished Look in 2026
Life has a funny way of changing the rules without sending a memo. One day, your usual outfit works just fine. The next day, you put on the same clothes and think, Well. That’s new. Nothing is technically wrong, and the clothes still fit… the mirror, however, seems to be raising an eyebrow.
For years, we’ve been told to watch out for “fashion mistakes that make you look older.” I first wrote this piece several years ago, and revisiting it now, it’s clear that much of that advice feels outdated, overly dramatic, or delivered with the subtle warmth of a school dress code. What’s actually happening is much simpler.
Style doesn’t suddenly fall apart. But some habits quietly stop working, and once you understand why, you get to decide what to adjust…and what to keep wearing anyway.
At this stage, getting dressed is less about avoiding mistakes and more about knowledge and intention. I still wear things I love, I just know when they’re helping, when they’re not, and when I’m choosing them on purpose.
That shift is what makes style feel modern, polished, and fully your own.
1. When Pastels Start to Feel Too Sweet
Soft colors can be beautiful as our natural coloring softens. As contrast in the face decreases over time, lighter tones often feel more harmonious than stark ones. Where things tend to go sideways is when everything is soft at once. When there’s no contrast, the outfit can start wearing you.
Pale pinks, baby blues, and buttery yellows worn head-to-toe don’t give the eye much of a place to land. On a hanger, they look fresh and pretty. On a real woman, in real lighting, they can read flat or overly delicate, especially without something stronger to balance them.
If you enjoy wearing light colors, one helpful approach is to ground them. That might mean keeping deeper tones on the bottom, like navy, charcoal, and chocolate brown. You could also add structure through fabric, texture, or accessories. A little contrast gives the face definition without requiring brighter makeup or sharper tailoring.
And if you love a soft, tonal look from top to bottom, look for pale neutrals with more weight. Ivory instead of white. Oatmeal instead of beige. Dove gray instead of powder blue. They keep the palette light while still giving it shape.
That’s color analysis applied in a practical way. Not rules. Just awareness and choice.
2. Leaning on Black For Everything
I love black. I’ve worn it for decades, and I’m not giving it up now. I’m also fully aware that it’s no longer the most flattering color near my face. Both things can be true at the same time. What’s changed for me isn’t whether I wear black, but how I wear it.
Solid black sitting right under the chin can be harsh as skin becomes more translucent, creating shadows that weren’t there years ago. That doesn’t mean black suddenly becomes “wrong.” It just means it needs a little more thought.
When I wear black near my face, I pay attention to distance and contrast. A wider neckline helps. So does a scarf in a color that plays nicely with my skin. Sometimes I keep black below the waist and wear softer tones on top. And sometimes I wear black head to toe, fully aware it’s not doing me any favors, and I’m perfectly fine with that. That’s the difference between habit and intention.
This isn’t about chasing the most flattering option at all costs. It’s about understanding what black does, then choosing it anyway because it fits your mood, your style, or your life that day. That’s not breaking a rule…it’s dressing with awareness.
You may also enjoy reading How to Stylishly Tie and Wear Scarves.
3. Oversized: Style Choice or Hiding Place?
Oversized clothing can absolutely be a look. When it’s intentional, it reads modern, confident, and relaxed. The problem isn’t volume. It’s motivation.
When oversized becomes a way to hide weight or avoid dealing with your body, it often backfires. When everything is loose, the eye can’t find a shape, and the outfit feels heavier rather than easier.
Oversized works best when there’s a point of contrast, such as a defined shoulder, a visible neckline, or a slimmer bottom. Something that says the volume is deliberate, not defensive.
It’s not about looking smaller or more fitted. It’s about clarity. Oversized can be a vibe. It just works better as a style decision than a hiding strategy.
4. Outdated Eyeglasses
If you wear glasses every day, they aren’t an accessory. They’re part of your face.
Frame shapes change slowly, which is why it’s easy to miss when yours stop working as well as they used to. A pair that once felt sharp can quietly start to feel heavy, dated, or slightly off in scale.
As our faces soften over time, glasses do more than help us see…they add structure, and they frame the eyes. When the shape, size, or color is off, it throws everything out of balance.
This isn’t about chasing trends or buying new frames every year. It’s about paying attention. If your glasses feel invisible or oddly dominant, it may be time for an update. Well-chosen frames don’t just correct your vision. They quietly lift the entire look.
You may also enjoy reading How to Choose the Best Eyeglasses for Your Face Shape.
5. When What’s Underneath is Sabotaging The Outfit
This isn’t the most exciting part of getting dressed, but it makes a bigger difference than most things we talk about.
Visible panty lines don’t flatter anyone. If thongs fall into the “life’s too short” category for you, smooth no-show styles with laser-cut edges or fine lace do the job without the discomfort. Color matters, too. Nude lingerie that’s close to your skin tone disappears under light fabrics in a way white or black never will.
Bras matter even more. The wrong fit can make clothes look lumpy and pull everything downward. A professional fitting is worth doing, especially if it’s been a few years. A good bra lifts the bust line just enough to let clothes hang the way they’re supposed to.
Updating what’s underneath won’t change your body. It will make your clothes behave better, which is usually the real goal.
Below are a few posts about the most comfortable bras that come highly recommended by the AWSL community:
6. When Trends Freeze in Time
Trends aren’t the problem. Getting stuck in them is. Most of us have a silhouette or detail we loved at one point because it worked beautifully for us. The issue comes when that exact version stays in rotation long after everything else has moved on. Denim cuts are a big culprit here, but this also shows up in shoes, prints, and proportions, too.
Wearing something that was very of-the-moment ten or fifteen years ago can quietly date an outfit, even if everything else is well chosen. It doesn’t mean you need to chase what’s new. What works better is choosing pieces that nod to what’s current. A cleaner denim shape, a slightly updated shoe, and a more modern proportion. Small shifts make a bigger impact than piling on trends ever will.
7. Heavy Matte Lipstick
Matte lipstick removes shine by absorbing light. That’s why it photographs well and looks crisp on younger lips. It’s also why it can feel a little unforgiving on older mouths.
As our lips age, they naturally lose some volume and definition. Flat, opaque finishes tend to emphasize lines and pull the mouth inward. Without light bouncing back, everything looks a bit serious and occasionally, a touch stern.
This is where a little gleam helps. Not the frosted lipsticks many of us grew up with, like the icy pinks that came with matching eyeshadow and misplaced confidence. Those had visible shimmer and showed every line.
Today’s versions are called luminous or light-reflective. The shimmer is extremely fine and meant to soften, not sparkle. You notice the light, not the product.
Satin lipsticks, balmy formulas, and lip oils with this kind of glow keep the color but relax the mouth. Which, at this point, feels like a kindness.
You may also enjoy reading Choosing The Most Flattering Lipstick Over 50
8. Old-School Nude Hose
There’s a very specific shade of “nude” hose that many of us remember. Flat, opaque, slightly orange…and somehow never anyone’s actual skin tone. By masking all natural variation, it created a uniform, artificial look that felt heavy and stiff, especially under dresses or skirts that are otherwise modern and relaxed.
What works better now is transparency and control. Some sheer hose are back in style, and the keyword is sheer. Very sheer black, soft charcoal, or a genuinely sheer nude lets skin show through while evening things out. The leg still looks like a leg…just smoother.
And if you want more coverage, tights are a perfectly good option, especially styles with varying levels of opacity. They read intentional, not apologetic, and often sit better with modern silhouettes than traditional hose ever did.
9. Too Much Matchy-Matchy
I’ll say this upfront: I don’t think matching is wrong. I like coordinated looks. I always have. And if you love things that clearly go together, you don’t need to unlearn that.
What’s changed is the expectation that everything must match. Shoes and bag. Earrings and a necklace. Bracelet to finish the set. That kind of precision used to signal polish. Now it can feel a little formal, or like you were following instructions rather than getting dressed.
I think of it less as breaking rules and more as loosening them. Accessories don’t need to be identical to look intentional. They just need to relate. Similar tones instead of exact matches. Texture instead of repetition. One statement instead of several competing for attention.
And if you love a full, layered, bohemian look and you wear it well, keep doing that. This really is personal taste. The goal isn’t restraint for its own sake. It’s choosing what feels confident and current to you, not what you think you’re supposed to do.
Most of what gets labeled as “fashion mistakes that make you look older” isn’t really about age at all. It’s about habits that stop keeping pace with how our bodies, coloring, and lives change.
Style over 50 works best when it’s informed rather than reactive. Knowing why something feels dated or heavy gives you options. You can adjust it, soften it, or keep wearing it with full awareness…but now it’s a choice, not a default.
That’s what creates a modern, polished look. Not following rules or chasing trends. Just understanding what’s working now, what isn’t, and deciding for yourself.
And if you choose to keep something because you love it, even knowing it’s not the most flattering on paper? That’s not a mistake, it’s personal style.
Which of these habits have you already started to question…even if you haven’t changed it yet?
This is such a good guide! I appreciate how clearly you explain the “rules” or “mistakes” and then offer your experienced, thoughtful and solid advice. Thank you, thank you!
Just yesterday I was wearing a black turtleneck and had earlier in the day worn a charcoal sweater…in fact, that Loft sweater you and your daughter recommended. My husband who rarely comments on how I look other than to say I “look nice” said that he really liked the contrast between my now gray hair and my sweaters. I realize that black can make my face look more shallow, but I do love my black. However, I’ve started trying to soften my look with more gray, light and dark, instead of black. I bought that sweater you recommended in both a soft gray and a charcoal and am enjoying wearing both.
I love charcoal and soft gray! It’s so nice that your husband notices
The Camel coat and black outfit???? Ohh lala! You look so great in that outfit.
Bras are giving me a hard time these days. I’m constantly on the lookout for a comfortable and effective minimizer bra. At this age, the girls have gotten bigger. I would prefer they stayed at their smaller size 😞
I wonder what makes minimizer bras your readers have that they like.
For Sue, who commented: “I too is small chested down to one comfortable bra. In Canada where are Retailers for a 38 A. Last one is La Senza, ours left our little mall. Not many retailers are left. Help.” I found just the answer in Under Outfit on line after searching for what seemed like forever for a bra that fit! Perhaps could help Sue! They offer free shipping and free returns – so winner!!
Maybe someone else has weighed in about leggings, but a huge no-no to leggings worn with a top that doesn’t cover the rear end. A saggy old butt is sad.
I loved this post!! Lots to think about in a non-judgmental way!
I have never worn a lot of black near my face, but I am even more careful about it now. When I do, I usually wear a baroque pearl necklace (similar to one you’ve mentioned in your blog) or (as you mention) a scarf. I have to avoid matte fabrics like black wool near my face. And although I do wear color more often than not, I no longer feel right in high contrast combinations. I usually pair a pastel or a dark color with a mid-tone. And if I do pair light and dark (ivory and black) I add a mid-tone, often a deep rose color. My biggest challenge now is makeup. I have pale skin and strawberry blonde hair. I am good with foundations (and thanks to you the Ilia tinted face serum!) and blush, but lip colors are still a work in progress. If I like the color, I find it either doesn’t wear well or is so drying to be uncomfortable. My current favorite is Jane Iredale Hydrating ColorLuxe in Sorbet, I found it through an influencer (possibly you?)
I do like Jane Iredale makeup.
These are all great tips. I have been struggling with jeans. I always thought I was on trend until this baggy look came into style. Even straight leg jeans look like I have no shape. I have to figure out how a petite person should wear jeans.
Slim straight may work for you
Jennifer,
Is there a brand of pantyhose that you recommend for the sheer barely there look? I struggle to find ones that don’t look so 70’s.
I just wear this Nordstrom brand. The quality is lovely, they come in lots of colors and the price is very good.
Thank you for a great freeing article! Really makes me rethink what is in my closest and why I am hanging on to some of my clothes.
Thank you!
I continue to go back through mine and I learn something new with each piece I look at. My closet holds a library of lessons.
Hi Jennifer,
Great post, definitely saw myself in not one but several!
Thank you!
Same!
Great post! Can anyone recommend a brand of sheer pantyhose? I live in the NE and going bare legs with a dress is really challenging even though I am fairly fit! I actually like the wider leg jeans as skinny makes me feel like I am stuffing my more muscular calves into sausage casing! As for gray or white hair, my hairdresser applies a gloss every eight weeks which keeps the frizzies away and softens hair. Thanks for all the ideas.
I like the Nordstrom brand.
You’re one of my first “go tos”. Thanksin the morning. I really enjoy your recommendations for clothes, makeup etc. enjoyed reading about your Napa getaway as we’re thinking of going soon. Hope to keep on reading your blog for a long time.
Happy New Year Sharon
This is terrific advice. Especially liked the ideas about pastels and wearing black. Your last picture, wearing a simple outfit of black jacket and sweater, black sneakers and a brown tote, with minimal jewelry, looks so natural and modern. I think we have been through a time where we collected so many choices, colors, and accessories that we welcome some simplicity and ease. Well done!
This is just what I needed to read. In fact you are my favorite blogger.
I’m in my late 70’s and I am still eager to learn from you.
My condo flooded recently( still in early stages)and I’m in panic mode, but I couldn’t wait to read your morning message to center me.
Later what deserves a place in my closets will be very well thought out thanks to your guidance.
Oh no! I’m so sorry to hear about your condo. We’ve been through 2 small and one massive home flood over the years and they are so stressful. Breathe deep and please take care of yourself.
Ivory is so much more flattering than white on me. I think it falls under the same umbrella as too much black. They are both harsh shades and could wash out many women.
Whites vary tremendously. Many ivory shades look ghastly on me. There are as many women who are flattered by black and white as those who aren’t. And both non-colors have a range of intensities.
It is a shame that we are told that we have to look younger to look better. Surely a 60 year old woman who looks 60, a 70 year old who looks 70 and an 80 year old who looks 80 can all still look beautiful. Maybe we need to consider facial lines and dark circles to be desirable rather than ugly. It would certainly save us all a great deal of angst.
It’s a fair comment. I want to look like the best version of myself at my current age. I don’t want to look out of touch which what is current.
I definitely agree; donate the capris! I do still wear my skinny jeans and will probably keep wearing them! I did purchase some new wide leg pants and I’m getting used to them again. Not my first rodeo with them!🤣 I still wear leopard because I love it! I’m 73 and have figured out what works for me so if it works and I love it, I wear it! I think it’s important to wear what you love even though it may not be the latest style!
I agree, Beverly.
I am so happy to have recently found your site. My question is do you know of any bra companies that make bras for small folks like me that are 30 inches around their rib cage? 32 is simply too big and are always riding up! It’s very uncomfortable, & annoying! (I’m about to learn to sew my own…and while I AM an artist, a seamstress I am not!🤦♀️)
I sure hope you have an easier solution!😁
Thanks!
Hi Kim, welcome! I will see what I can find for you. Do any of you readers have a resource for Kim? Please share
Rhinestones in a top, especially a lot in a design, are usually worn by older women,
I am 86 years old. I am 5’4″ tall and weigh 118 lbs. I wear skinny jeans with my black leather boots (from Italy) which I bought 12 years ago. I was blessed with my parents’ happy genes. People always compliment me (old and young) on my looks. Of course, in the summer I wear comfortable looser linen pants and slightly fitted cotton tops with long sleeves (I have crepey arms). I have two fantastic daughters-in-law who love to buy me fashionable clothes and I appreciate them so much. Most of my friends dress quite frumpy but I choose not to. LLBeans and Talbots is too expensive and not my style. Love TJ Maxx and Marshalls. I have two Collies that I love walking with which is good excercize. I love your advice. Keep it up.
Not sure if you said this or not – preppy look makes you look old. I thought that a white collared shirt with a V-neck or crew neck sweater with nice straight pants would be flattering for over 60’s. I could be all wrong.
SPANX makes the best fitting flair, bootcut and straight jeans for women whose shape is shifting away from fitting into more traditional jeans. BetaBrand does the same for work/dress pants.
I’ve picked up sewing because I can adjust patterns to fit my shape and yes, it does look better than wearing ill-fitted clothing.
Be careful of yoga pants. They have an old-person’s imagine in younger people’s minds. Wear yoga clothing carefully and sparingly.
I agree about yoga pants.
Some of the best advice I read once from a fashion advisor (wish I could remember who said it, probably a sign of my age!?) is don’t wear things that give your age away, keep them guessing. That is, don’t buy from shops that sell brands aimed at older women. So, no younger woman would wear capri pants or tights in summer, cardigans or carry an out of date navy bag, so don’t wear it. If you see other older women wear whatever it is, but no younger woman, leave it in the shop! In fact, don’t even go into a shop where you can see mostly see only older women shopping! Instead buy things that any age group can wear, from shops that sell to all age groups. I also think the denim jacket on older women is dead, as here in the UK anyway, they tend to be worn by older women who think they look youthful, but I rarely see them on younger women nowadays. Look around, younger women are mostly wearing wide trousers or smarter jogging pants, the cut changes all the time and straight and many style of jeans and denim generally are now starting to look like the preserve of older ladies.
I still wear pantyhose….Why I was taught bare legs are for the beach only and the fact I worked in a military air passenger terminal standing nearly eight+ hours a day! I needed the extra support to prevent veins popping out from my thighs to my tooties! Besides that It makes me feel like a woman and not a teenager. Can remember my Mum (Bless Her Heart) wearing slips to keep her dresses and skirts from “cupping” under her bum. She had a word for those type of gals and I won’t repeat it!
My challenge is that I have a ton of age spots on my arms and legs. It’s really hard in the summer to find clothes that I don’t feel self conscious about this. Any ideas will be appreciated.
Self tanner can be very helpful. Also many ladies like body makeup.
Great tips!
One more to add, that I have found makes a huge difference, is eye brows. As I’ve gotten older, my eye brows have become thin and lighter colored. I like to be sure I fill in and add a little color to frame my face before going out.
Yes! That’s a huge one!!
I totally disagree with the comment on capri pants…….pant leg that hits half way between ankle and knee. If I wear those, I really look shorter and ugly.
I am short…5 ft. If they come just below my knee, it looks good on me. Otherwise I wear normal “long” pants. When I was young people called the (just above the ankle) “FLOOD PANTS”. And please don’t wear sweats and pjs and clothes with holes in public.
Also the comment on prints. I am 70 and totally look a lot younger so if the clothing fits right, I can wear almost anything. Of course not stuff for the under 30 crowd but if I dressed like most older people I see, I would really look old. And yes, PLEASE get a hairstyle people !!!! long hair parted in the middle is NOT a hairstlye.. (uniform,,??)
Where I live MOST people don’t care. SAD
Thank you, Jennifer and all the other commenters on this post! I shared it with my very good friend and longtime “shopping buddy” and she also enjoyed it.
I am also 66, soon to be 67. My mom started going gray when she was 12. I was the only blonde in my family and have 3 older sisters, previously brunette and all now with pure white hair. Mine is silver/blonde all “natural platinum” and I get compliments on it all the time.
I also have learned just because someone else is wearing something well, it doesn’t always look good on me. Knowing your body shape and what styles and colors work and what doesn’t, is a big help. It’s better than having a closet of clothes with tags on that you bought and never wore/wear because you saw it on someone else!
I agree! We’ve got to buy and wear what we love that makes us feel confident.
The things that make women look older are : grooming, posture, and not staying current with their clothing , shoes, accessories, hair, and glasses.
My friend said , shoes.
Very true. Shoes can be a struggle for women with painful feet issues.
I think another thing that is terribly aging is having yellowed teeth that could be helped by using a teeth whitener product. If your teeth are naturally more yellow, be careful with your lipstick color and stay away from orange, rust and peach tones that don’t have a lot of contrast with the color of your enamel. Instead look for pink shades that have a bluer base.
Great points.
I agree, Posture is so important, and we all slouch over our computers, phones, etc. Using an exercise ball at your desk can help strengthen core (if you can stay on it!), and a phone stand is a great little tool for not only hands free, but not having to look down at your phone!
Great tips!!
I have a white denim jacket and enjoy it, but I wonder if it is aging. I almost never see young women – 20s, 30s, 40s – wear white denim, only blue jackets in various shades. Am I the only one who has noticed this and why is it even a thing?
I haven’t noticed that. Good observation I’ll keep an eye out for it but I do love my white denim jacket ♥️
I bought those 3 books for my 14 yr. old grandson and he loves them! I didn’t know he was your brother until you mentioned him in your blog the other day. My grandson said to tell him that the books are “amazing and exciting “.
I’m so glad he enjoyed them! I will let my brother know.
Jennifer, great article. Perhaps you can help me (and maybe some other women) with my lipstick color. I have highly pigmented lips, very pale skin, and almost white hair. I seem to look best in light lipsticks with a brown undertone (think
Pillow Talk). Otherwise to me my lips seem garish. I’m 80, for reference, and much to my chagrin have a thin face. On the chance that some other women may have the same issue, can you give suggestions for lipsticks that might flatter my look but eliminate the brown aging look.
Thanks so much. Love your blog and look forward to it every day.
Eileen
That is a challenge. I think a neutral with a cool base might be best and possible one with a hint of sheen.
I just got new glasses, and my frames are very similar to yours, I like them. I also agree 100% about capri pants, they are just not flattering on anyone. I will either wear long shorts that stop just at the top of my knee, or ankle-length crops. Regarding pantyhose, I am probably one of the few that wouldn’t mind if they became popular again. At over 70, my legs aren’t like they used to be. I have used Sally Hansen leg makeup, it works pretty well but it’s a pain to have to shower it off before you go to bed. It WILL rub off on bed sheets. And I am just not good with self-tanners, no matter which brand.
Pantyhose is making a comeback!
Hi Jennifer, I am late to the party as usual. First I wanted to let you know that I am enjoying the low cut socks you recommended from Amazon this past week. I have a lot of trouble with shorter styles slipping off my heel. These are staying put. Just walked all over the San Diego Zoo with no sock slip.
One thing that no one has mentioned as aging is gray hair with a decided yellow tinge to it. If your gray shade is pretty light, you may have to watch out for this and use a purple or otherwise anti-yellowing shampoo. The yellow does not look blond. It looks old and washed out. I don’t think gray is aging, but yellow gray just looks blah!
I agree, Mary. That’s a great point.
I think a bad hair styles, too much makeup , or not enough and cloths that do not fit right age women.
I also believe attitude has a big play in how we feel and look.
Look the best you can and know you are doing all you can to boost the best you!
I am old. No one is going to be fooled if I get a better bra or avoid pantyhose. I wear what I like, what is flattering to me (in my eyes) and tell anyone who asks exactly how old I am. Looking younger will not slow the clock on my aged body. One advantage to being old is that I no longer care much what other people think about my appearance. Life is already too short to agonize over the opinions of random people on the street.
Yay! Finally a comment I can relate to. If we thought more about what we do instead of how we look, we would look a lot better to everyone! I’m running errands and volunteering for others. As long as I’m clean and don’t smell bad, I doubt if they care if I’m a fashion plate.
It’s sounds like you’re working hard. Everyone’s standard of personal care differs.
“What fashion mistakes do you think makes a woman look older than she is?” you ask? I have to say wide leg capri pants that hit mid-calf and which also have an elastic waist. There are no young women who wear those…. :/
Today is my 70th birthday. One thing I do to look a little not-too-old is to sit up straight in the wheelchair I use when going out. At home, I work a bit at not slumping. Please do not announce that you have “given up” and just go for comfort now. By the way, a little denim helps big time. And sunglasses make you look cool as does tying a scarf around your purse handles.
Happy Birthday, Peggy!! I agree posture is huge…I need to remind myself not to slump constantly.
I found that spray tan in summers covers a multitude of sins. I found someone that does it just right and it’s not too dark. Takes 10 minutes and so worth it. I also like Westmore leg makeup. Their big fluffy brush works best. I sometimes put it on my forearms if I have bruises.
Great idea! I seem to bruise more easily the older I get.
Great tips! The biggest change I have made is to toss my capri pants in favor of pants cropped just above the ankle. I loved wearing capris (so comfortable in warm weather) but the cropped pants are equally comfortable and look more modern, IMO.
Yes!! Capri pants are very dated-looking even though brands continue to sell them. Younger women never wear them.
2 more ideas related to hair.
Fuzzy faces scream old lady. Even if facial hair is really light, it’s just plain weird looking.
Inner thighs and bikini areas. If you’re wearing a swimsuit, get waxed!
I completely agree about the “peach fuzz” we unfortunately get as mature women. It’s so much nicer looking to spend the 5-10 minutes it takes to get rid of it. Plus your skin will feel so much smoother!
BTW, you look like the best 66 you could be – esp. in the first photo! Love the denim jacket (in the perfect fade), the sneakers, and the color blocking. You look fresh, not stale.
Thank you ♥️
Absolutely love the first outfit! Can you please talk about those pants (are they Jeans?) in the first photo? Are they navy or black? Also I love the white top. It doesn’t look sloppy or too fitted. Thanks!
The top full photo is colored jeans in a reddish color. The second are a charcoal gray pull-on pant
I have scarred legs (dog attack) below my knees. So I never wear shorts or capris. When I do wear short dresses, I pair them with knee high boots, but I generally wear maxi dresses or “illusion” dressed/skirts with lace below the knee. I also have very crepe arms, so I seek out 3/4 sleeves or longer. I look at it as a creative challenge for me 😊
I’m so sorry about the dog attack! That’s really horrible.
I have some scars below knees in recent years, (biking accidents, fell on concrete and rocks). I wear cropped pants also jogging pants (neutral colors) and several medical scrub pants in navy. Hot weather much of the year, nothing heavy. A while back. I donated my capri’s. Laura age 78.
It’s not exactly fashion, but I think trying to keep a pleasant look on my face helps my overall appearance.
Yes it does! Gravity naturally pulls down the side of our mouths that gives the whole face a sad expression.
Excellent advice Alexis!
Great things to keep in mind for sure. I think it’s really helpful to try to keep a modern hairstyle.
IMO, nothing ages a person more than badly dyed hair. I think our natural hair color is most flattering to our skin tone, and that dyes cannot capture the subtle changes in color as we age. Other aging “tells” include poor posture, bad teeth, too-dark makeup, garish fingernails and toenails, and polyester clothing. I like your tip about glasses and think my next visit to the optometrist will include new frames.
I completely agree. Our list is growing here!
I am only 43 but I LOVE the look of silver on older women! Mine is growing in strand by strand and not all at once, but I let it go. I have dark hair and I embrace the silver. It is a beautiful color! My young friends and daughter in law all agree!
It sounds gorgeous!
I totally agree with the badly dyed hair. Love my silver!
Agree 100% Good stylists are expensive, above all, get a great haircut.
I see a lot of women out there over 60, not wearing any makeup, hair styles that are dated and look like my grandmas hair, and pants and tops loose and baggy. I sense they have just given up .
Thank you for inspiring us and giving good tips.
I see that too. It does look like they’ve given up.
Great tips today, Jennifer! I have found that I have had to adjust my makeup application and products for my 68 year old face. As Janice said, blush can get heavy handed really quickly and I am always aware of it. Remembering the days of my aunts with their Rouge cheeks😇🤣
We all need a stylish haircut. Since I have embraced my silver hair, I change my hairstyle regularly to stay up to date.
Absolutely true. Our haircut can make it break our style.
I too is small chested down to one comfortable bra. In Canada where are
Retailers for a 38 A. Last one is La Senza, ours left our little mall. Not many retailers are left. Help
Have you tried the soft, unstructured bras like I wear?
Pixie haircuts seem to be ideal for older women , less fuss and easier to apply hair color. Naturally wavy hair can be layered and tapered at the neck to look classic. Floral prints (most all) are matronly, yet small subdued color floral print blouses or tops with solid color bottoms ok. I have some polka dot tops and striped horizontal tops sometimes layered with a button down shirt or jacket. Best to wear colors that go with skin tone (winter, summer,spring, etc)
Hair that needs a touch up. I don’t live on the west coast, where people go gray more uniformly. When I am in a group and am a little bored, I like to look at women (and men) and try to figure out how many color their hair. It is usually 90% of the women and a surprising number of men don’t seem to have age appropriate hair color. But you need regular touch ups or you look pretty much like you are over the hill and don’t care any more.
Agreed. It looks like you’ve given up. Maintenance is important if you’re going to commit to coloring your hair.
I use L’Oreal preference lt. neutral blond, was lt brown for years then went lighter gradually. Most everyone dyes their hair in the deep south it seems. I can go quit a while before dying hair as gray blends in.
Great tips Jennifer! I’m 65 – I see so many women that either dress too old or too young (mostly too revealing in my opinion). I think a flattering hairstyle is important to consider as well, it definitely can be aging. Most important – I love that you emphasize this – wear what makes you confident!
Agreed. It can be a fine line for sure.
Some great ideas to look out for, I love basics and versatile pieces. For me the thing that makes woman look older is too much makeup, especially blush.
Yes! Some blush makes me look like Santa Claus so I have to be careful because I’m pale.
Totally agree. Too much makeup is clown like. I’ll add that not enough makes women look tired and older than we are. It’s a fine line. Just a bit of lipstick helps so much.
And very heavy black eyeliner.
Amen to all of these. That said I’ll give up jeans forever before I wear the wide leg ones.
They’re certainly not for everyone. Luckily there are lots of options.
Not a fashion thing, but this makes a woman look old: not styling the back of your hair when you get up. I see women looking very chic and then the back of their head is not brushed, and split from sleeping on it. It takes away from their pretty look and looks old. Check the back of your head in the mirror!
YES! This is a huge one that I always notice. It’s very aging and frankly, poor grooming. Brush the entire heat every day. It’s best for your scalp too.
Sit in church and look at the back of mostly women’s heads. The hair is split, separated, brush your hair ladies and look at the back of your head before leaving the house. Use hair spray if need be.
Yes, yes, and yes!!
Yes! This is a pet peeve of mine as well. No matter the age, brush or comb ALL your hair. 😊
Delia: I notice that alot in public, the back is split and matted, or sometimes seeing part of the scalp. All they have to do is run the comb or brush down the back. Most of them have shorter hair styles. On blush: I get the peachy powder blushes (Clinique, C girl) and find using a makeup sponge applies blush easier and more natural looking than using the one that comes in the compact.
I have cowlicks on the back of my head and “running the brush down the back of the head” does absolutely nothing to get rid of the hole to the scalp that shows. I’ve finally given up and decided if people are offended by something I cannot control, that’s their problem.
I notice this so often…and I always say to my husband, “Please don’t let me leave the house like that.” It is so very aging. Related in some way: I also see lots of mature folks who forget to check, when they stand up, for a wedgie. This is one of my personal nightmares LOL.
Fabrics make a big difference, too. When I see polyester, particularly in a loud print, I think old lady.
Prints are VERY tricky for older women.
Hair bows, to me, on anyone over 10, are very aging. I’m not talking about barrettes, Bobby pins , ponytail holders or scrunched — I’m talking about decorative fabric bows.
All one color Hair! especially if your hair is really dark. Subtle highlights are much softer and flattering!
Agreed! It looks rather lifeless like you used shoe polish to color it.
Uh oh — that is me! I’m 63 and half-Chinese with pure blue-black natural hair coloring, no undertones. I’ve been coloring since 36 bc I don’t see that gray/white in an uneven pattern on my head does anything for me and my I look!
Perhaps you could soften it and try a deep, cool-toned brown rather than black. It’s easier on the complexion and worth experimenting.
Love to hear the saying “mutton trying to look like lamb” it was one used by my Dad who unfortunately died when I was 36 I loved your comments regarding “aging” everything hit their targets thank you I am one of your gals on the older side 83 this Oct but feel I don’t want to get frumpy
Yes, my Dad said the same thing – “ mutton dressed as lamb” ha, ha – says it all…
Great article! So refreshing coming from a stylish person in her sixties instead of from much younger fashionistas. One thing that I think can make a woman look older is frizzy hair. Our hair texture can change and using the right products & finding the right cut can make a big difference. Takes some trial & error, but very worthwhile to have healthy looking hair in a flattering style. And get regular trims, even if you don’t color your hair. No, I’m not a hairdresser— just someone who has naturally coarse frizzy hair 😂😂
I agree Darla! Thanks for sharing. I’ll need to do a whole other list😁
I have tried everything on my hair to smooth the frizzies. It looks like cotton candy. Is there anything out there to help my grey uncolored hair??
Joann – Olaplex hair care is amazing to tame the frizzies!
Agree: regular trims and shaping and using a good conditioner if dry, frizzy or naturally curly as coloring hair can dry it more.
Jennifer, you are so correct in that frameless glasses make you look older. I had them for a few years and a year ago I went out on a limb and got some trendy ones. It took me awhile to get used to them but everyone kept saying they looked really good on me. My husband even commented that they make me look younger! Looking back at pictures of me, I agree I look younger now. Also, I love the blue coat. Where did you get it?
The coat is from Kohl’s . I have frameless glasses but they’re my at home glasses because they are so aging.
Ruffles (most of them) fall into the ‘mutton dressed as a lamb’ category.
I recently purchased the Wacoal underwire sports bras featured in your bra post, and I love them so much that they are my daily bra. As a 36DDD, I struggled to find a bra with support and coverage that didn’t also add inches to my bust (making it harder to get a good fit in tops). While I might have preferred a light lining, so far I haven’t had an issue with the ‘headlights’ showing through. I did bend the underwire frame back a bit because the top tended to stand out in some tops.
Thanks for letting us know. It’s a very popular bra so it’s great to hear.
Linda P, I have been wearing Wacoal for many years and I totally agree with you!😍
Several times recently I’ve seen women with a “headlight” problem. They obviously didn’t take a moment to check themselves in a mirror before leaving home, as one “headlight” will be in one direction while the other is pointed in a different direction, thus drawing far more attention to their chest.
No a good look!
Great point!! I agree
I love Wacoal bras! Silicone nipple covers that I found on Amazon work well for hiding “headlights”.
Hi! I wore Wacoal for many years and then found a bra that works even better for me—Third Love Unlined Minimizer in 36G. It is so comfortable and minimizes my chest by almost 2 inches. This bra does have an underwire, but it never pokes me. Third Love offers a wire free minimizer, but it didn’t work for me. Because of my larger cup size, the wire free bra just didn’t keep everything in place.
I’ve always been self conscious about being top heavy, I wish I weren’t. Minimizer bras do help a bit with that.
Wearing the wrong shade of foundation is definitely an “ager”. A foundation that is too light makes the face look chalky/pasty; too dark accentuates wrinkles and blemishes.
Yes!! And too much powder.
Happy sunny warm morning, thank you for all great tips this morning. Have a great weekend 🥰
Great tips today. I need someone to help pick lipstick for me…always regrets
Are they too bright? Too dark?
Happy Weekend Pat!
Me too ! I would love to wear lipstick but lipsticks change color on me or fade away.
Clothing that does not fit is very aging. Two women can wear exactly the same items and one will look great and one will not. The one who looks great is wearing the right size that flatters her shape and curves. The other may be wearing pants that droop in the seat, are too long or a top that doesn’t fit across the bust or is too big in the shoulders or too long. Another thing that ages us is sturdy, utilitarian shoes. This has nothing to do with heel height (although give me cute, comfortable shoes with a 2″ heel and I am in heaven!) It has to do with proportions. For example jeans that droop in the seat, that are too long with sturdy shoes paired with a shapeless hoodie gives a completely different look than the same jeans that hug the behind, a flattering ankle length, comfortable low heel slides in a fun color and a shapely high hip cardigan. Same basic elements but one is energetic, ageless and flattering and the other is just covering for the body. The other big aging factor is our hair styles. It has nothing to do with long or short but everything to do with styling and attitude. Utilitarian hair styles of any length are not flattering. But that same hair cut styled with the right products, lift and flair will look fantastic.
As I reread my comment, I realize I can sum it up as attitude, fit, proportion and energy.
Great points. Poor fit is very aging.
I don’t see a problem with too much black. Haven’t worn much colour since I was 11 and no one thought I looked older.
Capri pants unless you’re really tall
I think Capri pants are aging at every age! You never see young women wear them.
Agreed on the capris. I read another post that said they never look good on anyone unless you are in a gym. I donated all of my jean capris and have “refreshed” my wardrobe with cropped pants.
Thanks for these reminders, Jennifer. One thing that I try not to do at my age (80 – how did that happen?) is to dress like a teenager. No distressed jeans for me, or cropped tops or high top sneakers. I enjoy watching my slim, tall, beautiful granddaughters wear these items. They look so cute. But I try to dress in comfortable, fashionable, and flattering outfits that make me feel confident.
You have a good list. It inspires me to review my daily look.
One look that flatters very few except the tall and fit is using leggings as pants. Not under a dress or skirt, but as pants with a t shirt or knit top. This combination flatters few at any age, but is especially unkind to those of us who’ve developed a “meno-pot.”
Skirted leggings are a close second for me. While they cover “assets,” to me they scream, “Y2K” – perhaps because I donated my last pair about 15 years ago.
I’m not sure about older, but I have read that Skinny jeans are out. Animal prints are out in favor of metallics. Tunic tops are out in favor of oversize button down open shirts. Camo is out which I never liked anyway! FYI.
Skinny jeans are out of favor for sure.
Camo is always in in the Midwest! Metallics, animal prints, tunic tops – always in style in some way – it’s all in the styling and how much and how it’s put together. Skinny jeans – the only style that works with tall boots, long cardigans, and yes, tunic tops – don’t get stuck in the do’s and don’t’s – if it’s your style, it’s your style!
Jennifer, I always read that skinny jeans are “out” but I still see them on all ages of women. I wear all styles of jeans including the skinny ones. I’m enjoying the many styles that are made these days!