Witless Wednesday

~ random thoughts on a quite morning ~
I’ve discovered the best way to photograph my neck.

I had a friend take this photo of a merino, silk and cashmere cowl I just finished knitting for my daughter.
Pay no attention to the ill fitting T-shirt I’m wearing, apparently I didn’t when I left the house that morning.

I posed this way because my intention was to not show my face in the photo. The picture is to post on Ravelry, a knitting website so I didn’t matter, the cowl did.
Behold…a young, taut neck with the beginnings of only one waddle showing.

I remember that neck…I didn’t appreciate it’s smoothness when I had it 15 years ago and I’m certain that in 5 years I’d give my eye teeth for the one I wear around now.
I remember the first time I decided I needed to loose 15 pounds and sauntered into Jenny Craig for some help.
At the time, I weighed 20 pounds less than I do now…and I consider myself pretty slim now.

Apparently my perception and quality control standards are a little off balance.

The message for me, which I apparently need remedial help to retain is, appreciate my body as it is right now, dress it for my present contours and feel lucky to be where and how I am at this very moment.

Perfection is in my perception.

Perhaps also wear more cowls myself.

My mother had a complete face and neck lift at my age. I remember for a year afterwards she looked slightly strange to me. Gradually I either got used to her new look or it settled down to something more resembling her old self.

I’m not sure if I’ll ever have a face lift. I have nothing against them and in fact several of my friends have had them. I’ve seen some very good ones.
We’ve all seen the bad ones…they’re sad and scary.

For plastic surgery to be a raging success I think you should come away from it with people thinking you’ve just been on vacation or changed your hair in some way. Small, subtle changes over time rather than a total tune up all at once seems to be more realistic looking.

Of course I do have one friend with lips the size of a large Chevy, cheek implants she can’t see over and the teensiest nose you can imagine.
We just don’t discuss it…like the elephant in the room. She must think she looks amazing or conversely, never quite right, because the procedures just keep on coming…she has a totally dysmorphic view of herself.

Wow, I sure veered off on a tangent there but I’m wondering…would you have a facelift?

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  1. February 18, 2013 / 5:20 pm

    Love the cowl. What is the name of it? What s your name on Ravelry. Bet you’ve knit lots of stylish pieces.

    • February 19, 2013 / 12:00 am

      It’s The Honey Cowl. Free on Ravelry. I had a link on my page then started to play around with the HTML!! I’m StyleMD on Ravelry.

    • February 19, 2013 / 12:01 am

      It’s there. Just touch Lucy’s face and it should take you to my page.

  2. Bourbon & Pearls
    February 1, 2013 / 11:01 am

    I’ve never seen a facelift apart from in the newspaper, I would love to have a good nosey around one, I do loathe my neck, might grow a beard.

  3. February 1, 2013 / 6:12 pm

    Love the cowl. Love the neck. Love the rambling path your thoughts traveled. I think that way. Some follow. Some get lost and wonder what the hell’s wrong with me.

    A face lift? Hard to say. I don’t think so. I’ve had an eyebrow lift – and it made such a difference. It was subtle. My sisters don’t even know. And it just made my appearance fresher.

    My sister in southern California has had a few procedures and yes, I think it’s so prevalent there. Everyone’s beautiful there. Right?

    • February 2, 2013 / 1:37 am

      Lots of them here in Northern California too but very few where our other home is on Vancouver Island. Peer pressure? Not certain, but different priorities for sure.

  4. February 1, 2013 / 5:26 am

    I love your cowl.

    There are so many things I didn’t appreciate when younger, ugh, what I’d give to not bake in the sun so much.

    But, no plastic surgery for me. It took only until very recent to get my ears pierced.

  5. Catherine Robinson
    January 31, 2013 / 8:33 pm

    This is GORGEOUS…you are very talented!
    Thank you so much for dropping by today and tweeting too 😉
    I’m so glad you like my cashmere poncho/sweater…I’ve been wearing it endlessly 😉
    And by the way your neck looks fabulous.

  6. January 31, 2013 / 7:32 pm

    Great look for alot of us!………If and when yes…but for now have been holding my own with one of those little electric current machines.Surprisingly they work well with continual use.

  7. January 31, 2013 / 7:00 pm

    I like your perspective on this. I am 53 and work in cosmetic dermatology. This is my second career. Prior to this I worked in a medical center helping folks manage their metabolic dissorders. My degree in nutrition has come in handy:) as I see the impact of nutrition on aging. I’ve tried Botox here in the office but don’t feel it’s worth the money so I choose not to do it. There are many noninvasive procedures that can be done to keep us looking youthful and that are NOT thousands of dollars. I believe that if we take care of ourselves .. we will age gracefully and there will be less need for invasive procedures. That said, if there is something specific on the face (eye lids for example) that are aging us.. I see nothing wrong with correcting it. Subtle changes always look best:)

    • February 2, 2013 / 1:40 am

      There are so many lasers available for different skin issues these days. I think they show great promise!

  8. January 31, 2013 / 6:24 pm

    Your neck and chin look fabulous and young! I love the cowl too. I wrote a piece for More online a few years back titled Hold the Botox please! There are so very many women with bad everythings from surgery to injections. I know the celebrities can afford the best and they still have bad jobs done…. I wonder if they ever look back and wish they had never started down that slippery slope. Sigh. My bathroom is full of creams and serums tho…..and I am thinking of this new contraption I just saw at Nordstroms….a 5 minute face lift….hmmmm.

    • February 2, 2013 / 1:41 am

      I am amazed at how badly some celebrities end up looking, and they can afford the best!!

  9. January 31, 2013 / 6:09 pm

    NEVER!AND I have the same neck problem as YOU!The thing is YOU can tell a woman has had a lift………good or bad.I think that makes you look worse in due respect.I would dis~like people saying ,”OH< THAT WOMAN HAS HAD HER FACE DONE!”Its as if the SURGEON has left his calling card on her face…………..dont do it!

    • January 31, 2013 / 6:47 pm

      I’m not planning to do it. It’s interesting to read how strongly people feel about this subject. My quiet readers may feel differently, I will never know.
      Yes, a surgeons signature look, great analogy.

  10. January 31, 2013 / 4:02 pm

    What a beautiful cowl
    and a lovely neck Jennifer.

    I like your earrings too!

    I am too much of a coward to have a face lift
    but I would love to have a little botox
    maybe in a few years!

    Have a great week. I’m off to find you on Ravelry.


    • January 31, 2013 / 6:46 pm

      Lucy’s picture is a live link to Ravelry and you should end up right on my page…if you have a profile there. I think I’ll make it again for me. It’s a very quick easy knit.

  11. January 31, 2013 / 3:38 pm

    No to surgery, I would rather try to age gracefully. Love the cowl you knitted. Do you ever mention the pattern you use or are you able to just knock something out without instructions? Just finished a scarf for my husband and will now turn my attention to a sock I had started.

    I am fairly new to your blog and it has become my favorite!

    • January 31, 2013 / 6:43 pm

      Anything I knock out without a pattern usually gets frogged. It’s called “honey cowl” free on Ravelry.
      Thanks for visiting!!

  12. The Style Crone
    January 31, 2013 / 1:36 am

    I love the color and the design of the cowl. Great Job!

    No, I’m with Pseu. I will use my resources to travel and make my home surroundings beautiful. Having spent my life working in healthcare I’m well aware of the possible complications. But I don’t judge those who do. Each to their own.

    • January 31, 2013 / 5:25 am

      Yes each to his own but I believe it’s preferable to spend my money on experiences rather than things or plastic surgery. I’ve seen my friend have repeated things done to her face and she never looks younger or happier for it.

  13. January 31, 2013 / 2:11 am

    I must find you on Ravelry, although I haven’t posted there in probably a year. I have been so bad. I often look in the mirror and think, I know I am under there somewhere, however I just don’t think I can do anything. Having had surgery that was necessary, I don’t think I can, at this time, submit myself voluntary. It is the anesthesia that worries me most. I think your neck is lovely.

    • January 31, 2013 / 5:31 am

      The picture of Lucy wearing my Beret in my sidebar is a live link to Ravelry. If you touch it, it should take you there. I’m not as good about writing my project details lately, but I do try to at least put up a photo.
      Friend me so I can find you. My name is StyleMD on there.

  14. January 31, 2013 / 12:38 am

    I’m with Mater on this one, and with you, as well, although you can blame the tee on scrunching to pose! I just noticed I am getting that neck thing, and the security badge photo proves I have the baggy areas on the sides of the chin, too. But, I am almost 48 years old. I earned them, and will earn even more wrinkles and bags before I leave this earth, if I am lucky. I would rather spend my worries on something productive…like teaching my teenage girls how to take care of themselves as adults, planning a vacation, and living life the way I want, not the way media or social pressure says I should. So, skip the surgery. Spend it on something magnificent for your Vancouver place, or a wonderful trip somewhere.

    • January 31, 2013 / 5:21 am

      Oh I wasn’t considering a facelift, just rambling thoughts that led me down the garden path. Believe me, seeing my Mom with staples in her head, scared the life out of me.

    • Bourbon & Pearls
      February 1, 2013 / 11:04 am

      Reading all of this and loving the wisdom of your readers.

  15. January 31, 2013 / 12:02 am

    OH I just finished knitting one! I love the shade you chose…
    Nora Ephron wrote a funny book about her neck…have you read it?
    I’d be far too scared to go under the knife for anything other than an emergency.
    There are too many strange looking lips and eyes and permanent grins out there already!

    • January 31, 2013 / 5:17 am

      There are a lot more strange looking folks here in California. I think it’s more popular here. Sort of sad.
      I have read her book and loved it!!

  16. January 30, 2013 / 9:03 pm

    We are in the hinterlands so not much plastic surgery here. When I was 20 pounds thinner my neck looked worse than now – It is less my neck that bothers me than all of the saggy bits, but you are right – no one notices like we do and i think the scarf is fantastic – well done! I must say you gave some of the best advice I got today. I am definitely taking it to heart! I haven’t been to ravelry – must go over there!

    • January 31, 2013 / 5:16 am

      If you knit or crochet its a fabulous site. I’m glad you liked my advice. I am seldom at a loss for opinions but when I looked at what I wrote, it felt rambling and unorganized. That’s what happens when I answer late in the day!!

  17. January 30, 2013 / 8:24 pm

    should add that the cowl is really pretty and with that blend of fibres, it must feel pretty yummy as well!

  18. January 30, 2013 / 8:23 pm

    Nope. I would question any surgery at all, quite honestly, as it all has risks, but cosmetic is just off the list. And resource-wise, I just could never justify it. Plus I would never want to model that kind of emphasis on looks to my daughters or granddaughters. So no, no, and no, I guess. Just in case I wasn’t clear. . . 😉

    • January 31, 2013 / 5:12 am

      I’ve put off even having my other bunion done, both for the pain involved and the anesthetic fears. The surgeon offered to do the surgery under a local, but somehow I can not picture being awake and hearing the saw!! I wonder if my friend has ever wondered at the message she is sending to her own daughter. Somehow, I doubt it.

  19. January 30, 2013 / 8:02 pm

    I love the cowl, it looks really soft and the colour is great. I think I’d be too scared to undergo anything as drastic as a face lift. I fear being knocked out, and I’d worry about the result. I do understand why people do it, but I also wish that they’d do it in increments rather than the whole thing at once. So many people don’t look younger, or better – they just look odd and it’s always obvious why!

    • January 31, 2013 / 5:05 am

      I think they all begin to resemble each other. They all seem to be oing or the same aesthetic which is pretty creepy sometimes.

  20. January 30, 2013 / 7:33 pm

    As Deja Pseu pointed out, surgery can have some pretty dire consequences, so I’m very hesitant about any elective procedure. But I’ll admit that there are things about my skin that drive me nuts. Like the brown speckles that no cream can erase and the worry lines on my forehead that appeared in law school and never went away. So, I can understand the temptation to undergo plastic surgery.

    Amazing scarf!

    • January 31, 2013 / 5:01 am

      I’m not certain I’m even tempted. The expense is so ridiculous and I sort of feel I’ve earned all these “character” marks. The texture bothers me, but if I take my glasses off I look fresh and smooth.

  21. January 30, 2013 / 6:06 pm

    At this point, I wouldn’t. I’d rather use the money to travel. ANY surgery has risks (a friend or ours died at age 35 from an embolism 2 days after liposuction) and I’d rather not subject myself unless medically necessary. I agree that we should appreciate and honor the bodies we have right now. Pretty cowl too!!

    • January 31, 2013 / 4:58 am

      I’m so sorry to hear about your friend! How very sad. When I had my bunion redone 5 years ago I was terrified of the anesthetic risks the most!!

    • Bourbon & Pearls
      February 1, 2013 / 11:02 am

      Oh Deja Pseu, that’s awful and a real eye opener, anaesthesia terrifies me, fingers crossed I never need a general.

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