Cold Shoulder Top

Happy Thursday ladies. Do you wear cold shoulder tops? They seem to come in and out of fashion on a semi-regular basis and since they say our shoulders are one of the last things to go, they’re popular with many women over 50.

Growing up, I always sensitive about my wide shoulders. They felt overpowering and looked masculine to me. Then in my 30s, I had a eureka moment. I heard a lady who was walking behind me, remark to her husband, “look at her great shoulders, I wish I had them”. I was totally shocked. The body part I hated, she wished she had? That one comment made me reexamine my biases about my body and gave me the confidence to enjoy them.

Fast forward and exposed shoulders became the rage so I happily added some styles to my wardrobe.Jennifer Connolly wearing a cold shoulder top

I wore this top during a trip to Mexico and love it’s soft flowy knit with an asymmetrical hemline.Tie Sleeve Off the Shoulder Top from Nordstrom

Here’s an off the shoulder top I tried on during a dressing room diaries.striped off shoulder top

Here’s a cotton striped off-shoulder top that I loved but didn’t get a lot of wear out of. It turns out I’m more than ok wearing a strapless bra for a dress or dressy occasion but I’m not a fan of them for casual outfits.

Jennifer Connolly wearing Chico's cold shoulder top

I wore this cold shoulder top in 2017 and love it! Say what you will about wearing black, but there are very few things I find as chic and timeless as black and white stripes. Flattering or not I always feel great wearing them. Chico's cold shoulder top and white jeans

Here’s that top today, worn with white jeans and sandals. This top has survived 3 years of closet cleanouts, principally because of the color but also because it covers my bra straps…most of the time.

striped top and white jeans on Jennifer Connolly of A Well Styled Life

As I reflect on how one comment from a complete stranger changed how I feel about my shoulders, I wonder what you need to hear to change how you feel about your body? Do you have negative feelings about your body that you’d like to change?

I’m joined today by two of my favorite blogging friends who each have a “shoulder look” for you. Let’s go visit Cindy from Rough Luxe Lifestyle and Tanya from  50 Is Not Old to see what they’re wearing. These are greats gals so please tell them I sent you:)

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Thanks for reading and remember to wear what makes you feel confident.

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  1. Yvonne
    July 25, 2020 / 5:51 am

    You look great in the off the shoulder and cold shoulder tops. I honestly have never tried the cold shoulder look – I like it on others, but I feel my shoulders are a bit too angular for it.
    However, a black & white striped top and white pants are to me the perfect summer outfit.

  2. Cheri
    July 24, 2020 / 5:55 pm

    I’ve decided I’m over the cold-shoulder! Even though people often tell me I don’t look my age (71), I just feel that I’m too old for this style. I really like to dress young (well, not TOO young), but I have begun to think more about what is appropriate for “my age.” Trying not too look old fogey, but also not look like I’m trying to be a teenager once again:)

  3. Kay
    July 24, 2020 / 12:45 pm

    I don’t dislike the look of the cold shoulder, but I can’t wear it because it irritates me to death. The feel of the fabric on my upper arm makes me think my bra strap has slipped. Makes me crazy.

  4. Julie Traxler
    July 24, 2020 / 7:12 am

    You are blessed to have wide shoulders and narrow hips! I love you in the black and blue one especially . I am going to try a cold shoulder top on. I have avoided them because I have a smaller frame on top and wider at the bottom. I am thinking the right top is out there.😁. I just love your posts. They have opened up my “style” world.

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