Why Your Clothes Matter

Why Your Clothes Matter

I’m resharing a powerful post today because I think it needs to be said again.

Do clothes make the woman? Some would argue that what we wear is unimportant and our interest in discussing fashion is shallow. Attempting to trivialize the fashion struggles for women over 50 is not only uninformed, but it’s also naive because what we wear can make or break our confidence which makes it worthy of discussion.

Clothes can be a shield we use to get through challenging times but more importantly tells the world who we are. Whether we like it or not, we’re judged by our appearance and the clothes we wear, matter.

Look sloppy and people may decide you’re careless with little respect for details or yourself. Wear revealing clothes and you may be seen as desperate. Wear flamboyant colors and you may be seen as carefree or loud. The upshot is people treat us based on how we look so managing our image is important.


Women over 50 frequently struggle with feeling invisible. How we dress is a powerful tool to combat that lack of visibility by restoring our feelings of power and control.

Our generation has a challenge with fashion that earlier ones didn’t. My grandmother never struggled with what to put on in the morning. She wore her printed house dresses at home and dressed up to leave the house. There was no question about whether she should wear a T-shirt and jeans or a dress with stockings and sensible shoes. There were fewer options because there were unspoken rules.

Our generation doesn’t want to follow fashion rules. We want to make our own choices and dress to express ourselves. This freedom is welcome but it can also leave many women unsure about what’s appropriate. With so many options to choose from, she needs a clear vision of the message she wants her clothes to send.

An open discussion about fashion and image is helpful for many women over 50. Does that make us frivolous? No, it makes us curious, intelligent women. To imply these conversations are unnecessary is to belittle the struggle many women face each morning.

Have you ever felt invisible?

Thanks for reading and have a great day!







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  1. Gail
    November 29, 2019 / 8:55 am

    At 76 I love you4 blog. Love,Love DRD

  2. Honey Bee
    November 29, 2019 / 5:27 am

    I took the “Look Good, Feel Better” class offered to cancer patients, and updated my look, after a cancer diagnosis. It makes a huge difference in well-being and confidence. It has sparked an entire transformation. I have just lost 45 pounds and am now slim and trim. I love taking the time to look “pulled together”, no matter what the occasion. And I am still constantly receiving compliments, even from the young men at Starbucks! Learning how to style outfits from bloggers like you has made getting dressed simple. It’s an art to look tasteful, and brings joy and beauty both to myself and others. I am now 70, six years cancer-free, and loving life.

    • November 29, 2019 / 7:39 am

      Bravo HB! That’s wonderful

  3. Gail
    November 28, 2019 / 8:25 am

    At 76 I love your blog. Love,love DRD

    November 27, 2019 / 12:16 pm

    Wonderful post and discussion. I couldn’t agree with you more! Thanks for being there for us.

    • November 27, 2019 / 8:45 pm

      Thank you for being here Mary.

  5. Margaret
    November 27, 2019 / 7:32 am

    I am happy to join this choir, singing about the importance of what we wear, both to boost our confidence and to show that we recognize the importance of events we go to, people we meet.
    When my three children were small, I felt invisible. I was often praised as a “good mom, they’re lucky to have you,” which felt like I’d been sent from an agency. Why didn’t I take an hour every now and then to buy clothes that fit better, or get a good haircut? It seemed frivolous, but it would have done wonderful things for my sense of self.

    As they got older, I reclaimed style. Usually I’m casual, accenting jeans with bright thrift shop finds. I read AWSL regularly and so appreciate your discussion of principles of dressing — proportion, color — and yes, why it’s important.

    • November 27, 2019 / 8:30 am

      Thanks for being here, Margaret

  6. Cynthia D Brown
    November 27, 2019 / 4:26 am

    So many thoughts on this post, Jennifer. I remember the moment that I reconnected with the power of a fashionable presence and how it ignited this passion I have for making an effort in my appearance. I went to a YSL retrospective at the Denver Art Museum. The beauty and artistry of those clothes just inspired me. So to me, this “frivolous” attention to appearance has two components…..sharing beauty and not being invisible. The second one has become mote important lately as I crested 60 in the professional workforce. You better believe that when I have an important meeting, I suit up with my best foot forward. Plus, it’s just a lot of fun!

    • November 27, 2019 / 8:13 am

      It is beauty and a ton of fun. Bravo Cynthia!!

  7. Angela Grafe
    November 26, 2019 / 7:32 am

    Dear Jennifer, love your style and your blog. Let me tell you experience I made : went with my husband to musical in Hamburg : “Pretty woman”. Tried to be well dressed : black dress, kitten heels, necklace, hair / Make-up done and as soon as we entered Theatre we were shocked : woman in dirty jeans, very cheap shirts, huge back packers, hair not washed, old Sneakers,with their warm huge coats in arms they sit down, struggeling with their packages around, not even able to spend money for leaving coat in extra room – we were in a musical, tickets were as from euro 80 plus – and Woman not able to get bit better dressed?! (Their Partner were same). Sorry, but this seems to be “normal” in Germany now —-why?? Missing respect?! It is easy to get well dressed and not only a question of money- for me it seems that American woman take much more care of their look. Yours Angela from Hamburg

    • November 26, 2019 / 8:05 am

      I am constantly amazed when I run into a situation you describe. It happens everywhere these days and is just so sad to see. Our society has become so casual that “appropriate attire” has no importance and anything goes is the norm. I hate it.

  8. November 26, 2019 / 5:22 am

    “Dressing for Success” is as important now as before. If we feel confident,we project that to others. If we feel beautiful and values, then we project that too.We are not being frivolous! even if we are just going to get groceries,if we look presentable. we feel better,because I always run into someone I know when getting groceries.When someone says that I always look nice, it makes me feel better and hopefully, I project that to others!

  9. Roberta
    November 26, 2019 / 5:06 am

    I am 78 and I too love your blog! I have several health issues and walk with a cane, but when I go out I like to dress my best. I know that at my age I spend more time on my appearance than my Mother or Grandmother did at the same age, but I feel more confident and happier. Also, my husband makes me feel good when he gives me a compliment. Thank you for your blog!

    • November 26, 2019 / 7:45 am

      Confidence is everything!!

  10. Valla
    November 26, 2019 / 4:42 am

    Great discussion by “the choir”! Lol! The other thing is, dressing appropriately shows your respect for others, for the efforts of others, and for the occasion or place. It’s all part of enjoying the journey.

  11. Ellen
    November 26, 2019 / 4:35 am

    Hi Jennifer
    Thanks for reposting this for those of us who have started following you recently.
    I love clothes and fashion. I wear clothes almost every day.? I read a lot about clothes and window shop the web constantly, and buy new stuff.
    Am I the only one who has a closet full of really nice clothes, takes good care of them, rotates them dutifully every season…and rarely wears them?
    Part of this is my lifestyle and environment. Retired, small town, not a big socializer. When I wear my nice outfits, sometimes I feel like I’m an imposter, or wearing a costume.
    I guess you could say that my interest in clothes and fashion and self confidence is more theoretical than
    But I never miss reading your blog, and imagine myself
    looking as fabulous as you do every day.

  12. Mary
    November 26, 2019 / 4:30 am

    I’ve recently reclaimed my style and confidence. Life had gone flat. After years of low grade depression, work boredom, empty nest sadness, I somehow found my way back to fitness and a healthy weight. As the body transformed, the mind and emotions followed. I found your blog and others and have had much fun rebuilding a wardrobe. As my appearance changed, my work life improved. Am I treated differently or am I behaving differently? My inner confidence is mirrored by my clothes. It is interesting and fun. Thanks for your good work.

  13. November 26, 2019 / 4:19 am

    A great discussion! Yes, clothes do matter. How we put ourselves together in public lets others know we have self respect, self worth, and that we are to treated likewise as worthy and respected. A sloppy exterior sends the message that “I don’t care”.
    Clothes that fit and are becoming bring joy! And don’t we all know that feeling when we put on that great outfit, one that has resulted in compliments? Yes, clothes matter.

    • December 9, 2018 / 5:05 pm

      Thanks for reading Elaine.

  14. Sandra
    June 16, 2018 / 8:16 pm

    You are never too old to look good. I subscribe to look good to feel good. I will be 50 in November and I feel as if my style has only gotten better. I know whay looks good on me and more importantly I have the confidence to wear it. Women are like fine wines, we just get better with age.

    By the way, I love your blog. I recently discovered your blog and I have to reading my way through older posts. Thank you for presenting a woman of a “certain” age as stylish and fashionable. We need more women to speak up and show us by example that life doesn’t end when you turn __.

  15. Julie J
    June 23, 2017 / 6:22 pm

    Greetings from Melbourne,Australia.
    Firstly,go Jennifer!What you do is very meaningful and inspiring to many and please be proud of this achievement.
    Your blog,and a few other blogs,are important to women of our age to remind us to take pride in our appearance and to find stylish clothing options.Thanks also for your genuine recommendations re cosmetics,skincare,etc I believe we should always try to “put our best foot forward”.
    I’m 63 now and have been semi-retired for 7 years and it took quite a while to adjust to all the clothing options I now have.No more work suits for me but I still need to maintain my appearance for my self-esteem and the contented feeling it gives me.I love how a bright scarf,special earrings or wearing something in my favourite colour can make my day when
    I’m not feeling great.
    Thanks once again for all that you do.

    • June 23, 2017 / 11:24 pm

      Thank you Julie! I am so grateful you’re here and share with us!!

  16. Gail
    June 23, 2017 / 8:22 am

    At 74 I Love your Blog. ????????❤️

  17. June 23, 2017 / 8:13 am

    I love clothes. Always have. As a kid, I sewed things from Vogue patterns to save money. And as an adult, I buy carefully but cheerfully! It’s hardly something to apologize for. If people want to look less-than-their-best, have at it, but don’t criticize those of us with another view! Keep on writing. I love it! XO

    • June 23, 2017 / 9:14 am

      Beautifully said Jen! I used to see using Vogue patterns too. I don’t think they exist anymore but they were awesome. Xx

  18. Beth Wappler
    June 23, 2017 / 5:24 am

    It is too bad you have had someone trivialize what you are trying to do, but for me and I suspect the vast majority of your readers, it is an important discussion. The effort we put into how we present ourselves to the world tells others how we feel about ourselves and how we want the rest of the world to see us. That is not trivial in any way. Thank you for sharing your tips with us.

    • June 23, 2017 / 7:37 am

      Thanks for being here, Beth. I agreee with you completely!

  19. Y Boyd
    June 22, 2017 / 6:30 pm

    Well said and I agree with you COMPLETELY!!!

  20. Katie
    June 22, 2017 / 6:13 pm

    Amen to being pissed off and making your voice heard. I appreciate you. Keep up your amazing blog.

    • June 22, 2017 / 6:44 pm

      Thanks Katie! I couldn’t let this go without speaking up for us!

  21. Tammy
    June 22, 2017 / 5:33 pm

    I enjoyed this so much, I have been told by a few people how they don’t understand why at 55 I bother putting on my make-up, fixing my hair and getting dressed because I am also disabled and am fairly housebound. I always have the same response because I do it for ME. Just because you may get older and health issues may keep you home I feel if I don’t take care of me I might as well dig a hole. I do it because it makes me feel good and when I look good the whole day goes better.

    • June 22, 2017 / 5:40 pm

      Exactly Tammy!! Bravo to you! It’s all about self respect and the fabulous way it makes us feel. Thanks for sharing with us.

  22. CJ
    June 22, 2017 / 4:55 pm

    You’ve really started a conversation! What a great post, I couldn’t say better myself. I believe I am treated better by store assistants,etc, because I take the time to make sure I look my best when I go out for even the smallest errand. Similar to having good manners, It costs little to make an effort.

    Thank you for always brightening my day!

    • June 22, 2017 / 5:36 pm

      Beautifully said CJ. It takes little to make an effort. I love that!!

  23. Robin T
    June 22, 2017 / 1:55 pm

    I am grateful for your blog and the many others I read. At 62, I find them educational and supportive! I wish my Mom had this in her day. Who doesn’t need assistance or guidance in fashion, make up and hair. Looking good is important to me.

    I enjoy reading your thoughts on downsizing and all the comments that follow. This topic is common with many people of a certain age and countries ????????

    Thanks and keep up the good work Jennifer!

    I’ve noticed there is another Robin 😉 …I’ll go by Robin T

    • June 22, 2017 / 5:01 pm

      Thank you Robin T! I appreciate you being here and sharing. I love to get help. Who wouldn’t?

  24. Wendymm
    June 22, 2017 / 12:45 pm

    Love this Jennifer! I refuse to be invisible and anyone says clothes don’t matter is living in another dimension! And I love you and your blog!

    • June 22, 2017 / 1:28 pm

      Thank you Wendy!! I’m happy you’re here.

  25. Konda
    June 22, 2017 / 11:57 am

    Thank you Jennifer. I have learned so much from your blog and please keep the information coming. It has done a lot for my self-esteem to feel more confident about the way I dress at this age.

    • June 22, 2017 / 1:27 pm

      Thank you for being here Konda! We’re all in this together.

  26. Stormy
    June 22, 2017 / 11:18 am

    When I read this great post this morning, I knew there were going to be lots of comments. No one is saying dressing well will bring world peace, but it has often given me some inner peace and confidence to go through my day. I am over 60 now. I spent years raising my wonderful sons, taking care of house and home. Now I’m taking care of me!

    • June 22, 2017 / 1:25 pm

      Good for you Stormy!! It is your time. Confidence at our age is priceless.

  27. Téa
    June 22, 2017 / 11:13 am

    Sometimes the term “dear”, and the like, is just a substitute for “ma’am” and is regional, and not meant to be dismissive at all. For example, here in Baltimore, Maryland the term “Hon”, short for “Honey” is used across the board, male/female and younger/older……it’s endearing and meant well. There’s even a “Hon-Fest held in B-more every spring, relishing in all things Baltimore and “Hon-like”; bee hive hair-do’s, kitsch and John Waters. Now, I wouldn’t expect a teen-ager to call me “hon”, it’s all in the delivery…much like a well placed “Bless your heart.” And we southerners know what THAT means!

    • June 22, 2017 / 1:22 pm

      Great point! I had no idea Hon was used so commonly in Baltimore. Even I know what bless your heart means. It’s a priceless expression.

    • Phyllis Hughes
      June 14, 2018 / 6:05 pm

      Tea, I agree with you. “Hon”, “Honey” and “Dear” are not meant to be condescending by most Southerners. However, it is all in the delivery. I work in a medical supply business and it is not unusual to hear our people call customers “Honey” or “Sweetie” as a way of reaching out to them and letting them know we care about their needs.
      If you want to know what “conscending” sounds like, try questioning a bigwig from Medicare about how they make their pricing decisions. The last time I did that, I felt like I needed a shower to wipe the slime off afterwards!

  28. Cheryl Ann
    June 22, 2017 / 10:54 am

    Jennifer, thanks so much for the reminder on why I care about how I look. Sometimes it feels kind of “frivolous” and sometimes I like being invisible, which is kind of sad. You inspire me to stay in the game! I’m 70 this year and it’s been a bit of a shock! I really feel about 50 but do not want any knife near my face. So, I’m working hard to express my true self, stay healthy, and viable. We recently moved to Nashville (grandchildren) from Seattle…so my style is undergoing some regional changes. Blessings to you my friend.

    • June 22, 2017 / 1:19 pm

      Thanks for being here Cheryl. Nothing is frivolous that builds our confidence. Good luck with your mind be!

  29. Maureen
    June 22, 2017 / 10:35 am

    I laughed when I read your comment about being called “dear” ! LOL If the person is in their twenties/thirties I just reply with a “honey” in response ! I know that you mentioned that the women that started this conversation ‘appears’ to be very confident, but, I think a statement such as this says just the opposite. She probably dresses to impress, labels matter, fit matters, power suits or whatever are her everyday choice. Sounds to me like a whole lot of thought and time might go into her own “look” !! I always try to remember that Strong women lift each other up. I see her confidence as a facade of sorts.

    • June 22, 2017 / 10:47 am

      Excellent call Maureen! Some women are impressed by labels and some find them a silly waste of money. It’s how confident the item makes us feel that matters. Thanks for being here!

  30. Debbie Z.
    June 22, 2017 / 10:28 am

    Thank you for a wonderful discussion today! I couldn’t agree with you more- clothes and style do matter. I look at it this way- none of us can walk around naked and I have the choice every morning to cover my body with boring, uninteresting clothing or something that is stylish and says something about my personality. It is a way I enjoy expressing myself. I have noticed the “invisible” thing too and have been made to wait in stores. The other thing that irks me is waitresses, etc., calling me “hon” or “honey”. It seems condescending and I feel like they are using it because I am over 60. So rude.

    • June 22, 2017 / 10:44 am

      It does feel condescending and annoys the heck out of me. I know I receive much better service when I spend the time to dress properly. Thanks for sharing Debbie!

  31. Yvonne
    June 22, 2017 / 10:28 am

    What a great topic of conversation Jennifer. I refuse to be invisible! When I’m out shopping I make it a point to engage with store personnel, clerks, cashiers and even some customers. And I find that I’m always treated with respect and greeted the next time I shop there. My husband used to tease me that I got too dressed up to go grocery shopping, and my reply was that the butcher always remembered me and gave me the best service LOL. How we dress is a reflection of not only our personality but our own self respect.
    Your post reminded me of a scene in the tv show Grace & Frankie. Have you seen it? Jane Fonda and Lily Tomlin’s characters are at a variety store to buy something, and are completely ignored by the young male clerk even when Grace (Jane) has a meltdown and starts yelling at him. The end result is that Frankie (Lily) eventually steals the item they had wanted to buy, since nobody would serve them and remarks that was the one advantage of being “invisible”. Actually, there are many ageing and ageism topics that they cover and all done with a great sense of humour.

    • June 22, 2017 / 10:41 am

      I need to watch that show! That’s a hilarious sounding scene. Some women say the like to be invisible, I don’t so using fashion to look my best it a great tool. Thanks for sharing and being here!

  32. Eileen
    June 22, 2017 / 10:05 am

    Dear Jennifer,
    I am restraining myself not to say anything about midriff tops, 3-inch skirts, skin-tight “jeggings” and anything else worn by those who might criticize us classy over-50 ladies.

    But I digress. Let me thank you so much for your blog. I have an auto-immune disease and some days it is a struggle to get out of the house. Your blog has encouraged me to style my hair, put on makeup, go out and strut my stuff (from Chicos, J Jill, Artful Home, etc.). You have encouraged me to jazz up my plain clothes with a scarf, nice piece of jewelry, or handbag. As my sister-in-law and I always say, the older you are the more you need your accessories. She is bolder that I am in her choices, but bold or classic, we are right out there with you.

    I read your blog everyday to see what you recommend and always get ideas. Keep up your blog. You have many faithful followers. Can’t wait to see what you are wearing tomorrow!

    • June 22, 2017 / 10:39 am

      Thank you so much Eileen. That means the world to me! Very good point about the stilettos and micro skirts. Classy goes a long way. Thanks for being here!

  33. Nancee
    June 22, 2017 / 9:29 am

    Way to go Jennifer! Well said.

  34. Penelope
    June 22, 2017 / 8:58 am

    Well said. As an artist, I take joy in expressing myself through clothing, colors, accessories, etc. How dare someone say such things are trivial? Beauty is a gift to ourselves and the world. It’s importance is even expressed in nature. Flowers are beautiful and accented to attract the pollinators and many birds and fish are decked out in colorful finery which does not fade with age.

    • June 22, 2017 / 9:00 am

      Excellent point Penelope! Thanks for being here and sharing.

  35. June 22, 2017 / 8:46 am

    Jennifer, I pretty much love all your posts, but today’s really struck a chord with me. You are correct: Clothes at any age – but especially for women 50+ – are of great value. Why for our age group, exactly (I’m 64)? Because our society seemingly has NO value for us whatsoever. Once we’re no longer of child-bearing age, we become invisible, as you suggested. WE know we’re of TREMENDOUS value to society, so we need to do all we can to remain not only visible, but viable. Women – all women – take a beating in our society (we’re paid less, our healthcare isn’t deemed to be important, control over our VERY OWN bodies is threatened by policies, etc.), but for more mature, seasoned women, the threat is even greater. Please forgive the slightly political rant, but thanks for expressing what I’ve felt for a while.

    • June 22, 2017 / 8:58 am

      Rant away Candy! You’re exactly right. How we dress is a powerful weapon in the fight against invisibility. Thanks for being here!

      • June 23, 2017 / 6:29 am

        Thanks! And by the way, I read a few style blogs, but YOURS is my very favorite! I like that you are self-deprecating (in the very best way possible!) and that you offer lower-cost options for the gorgeous clothing and accessories you highlight, AND that you let us know when the sales are on! You have become a friend over the “internets!!”

  36. Judy Dempsey
    June 22, 2017 / 8:40 am

    Thanks for what you do for us Jennifer. You go girl. My mother, Natalie, until her passing at age 89, would get up every morning and put on her makeup, fix her hair and put on the cutest colorful outfits. She loved to go shopping (not always to buy} and the sales associates would always comment on how adorable she looked. And, she had the personality to go along with her colorful outfits. When I would see her (she was 5′ 100 lbs soaking wet) she would put her hand in her pocket, put her foot out and say “how do I look” which always cracked us up.

    So, as you see, fashion made my Mother happy to a wonderful age. Style/Fashion does matter.
    Thank you for your venue for all of us to share.

    Judy in Phoenix

    • June 22, 2017 / 8:54 am

      How fabulous Judy! Fashion is such a powerful tool and it sounds like your Mother wielded it well. Good for her. Thanks for sharing and being here. I really appreciate you.

  37. Carol Neuhaus
    June 22, 2017 / 8:22 am

    Sad that some people really aren’t concerned about how they look or enjoy the thrill of fashion & hitting your sweet spot. It makes life so much more fun. Yes, we all have different interests & life styles, but it doesn’t mean that just because we want to look our best in any situation it’s trivial. Thanks Jennifer, for defending your stance on hitting our sweet spot. When you look good you feel good & often pass that feeling on to others around you. That just helps to make this world a better place to live in… so go girls, keep looking good & pass the good feelings around. Life is too short not to hit your sweet spot. This is from a gal hitting 68 & having fun in the fashion world but still has time for fun things like grandkids, baseball games, gardening, baking dog biscuits, cooking, family gatherings, reading etc. etc. Love your blog everyday, Jennifer.

    • June 22, 2017 / 8:50 am

      Hi Carol!! You’re so right. Thanks for being here and making a difference. I really appreciate you.

  38. Patty K
    June 22, 2017 / 7:49 am

    Thank you for putting into words the feelings of many, including myself. Your post is spot on, and I’m sorry that someone was rude. I look forward to your post every day, and you have been very helpful. At 55 it is a challenge to style myself as I’d like to be seen by the world. I appreciate all the help I can get and the friendship that comes from your blog. Enjoy your day!

    • June 22, 2017 / 8:44 am

      Thank you Patty! I’m so grateful I can help or inspire in any way. I really appreciate you being here.

    • Margot Nowicke
      June 22, 2017 / 10:10 am

      Well said, Patty!

  39. Jill
    June 22, 2017 / 7:38 am

    It is simple. Those who do not like this blog don’t have to subscribe to it. Those of us who enjoy it are free to do so.

    • June 22, 2017 / 8:42 am

      Thanks for being here Jill!!

  40. June 22, 2017 / 7:34 am

    Yes, we certainly are judged by everyone all the time. The art of looking good requires a combination of skills that we actually have to learn and practice. The resources are our mothers and millions of magazines that are selling us stuff. And as you said, the rules changed and we have many choices. It’s very overwhelming and confusing.

    Finding a blog like yours is a treasure. Your approach is the best I’ve ever come across. Your posts are relevant and real, sensible and fun. I’ve learned so much and gotten inspired.

    If we’d be French we would not be having this conversation!

    • June 22, 2017 / 8:42 am

      I think you’re right Miriam! The French seem to have an inborn confidence we could learn much from. Thanks for being here!

  41. LMR
    June 22, 2017 / 7:11 am

    I am sorry someone trivialized your work here! I think it’s extremely important, for all the reasons you so articulately put forth. I look forward to your posts & find them very valuable. Thank you!

    • June 22, 2017 / 8:40 am

      Thank you for being here! I really appreciate you.

  42. June 22, 2017 / 7:08 am

    Jen – great post. I have frequently felt invisible – that is what our society does to women over 50. It is more important than ever for us to dress with flair and confidence. My style is much more casual than yours, but when I leave the house, I want to be neat, not sloppy, and wear clothes that project who I am. Another thing I notice is that women frequently walk with heads looking down. Poture is so important; stand up as straight as you can and look forward, not down!

    • June 22, 2017 / 8:39 am

      You’re so right Barb! Body language is critical. Walk with confidence and you’ll be more visible. Thanks for being here.

  43. Diane Caird
    June 22, 2017 / 6:51 am


    You nailed it ! Great post ! Good for you ! The struggle for us is real and we seriously appreciate your posts !

    Best to you,

    • June 22, 2017 / 8:38 am

      Thanks for being here Diane!!

  44. Linlee
    June 22, 2017 / 6:42 am

    Since fashion blogs began I’ve become much more interested in not my only fashion choices, but also those of other women. I like to imagine what intention a women had when she chose her outfit. I’ve learned from bloggers that there are no rules and I don’t judge another woman’s choice. I often compliment a piece of clothing. This morning at a coffee shop I complimented a woman’s top. She thanked me and mentioned she was on her way to work. I told her that as a retiree, I like putting a working person ahead of me in line. She was thrilled about that and we both started our day in such a positive way. And it all started from thinking about fashion choices.

    • June 22, 2017 / 8:37 am

      Brilliant Linlee! I think insecure women criticize other women’s fashion choices. Thanks for being here!

  45. Deborah Trimble
    June 22, 2017 / 6:41 am

    Hi Jennifer,
    You are absolutely correct about our concern with fashion and being invisible after the age of 50. Dressing well improves our visibility. I don’t think we should obsess over clothing, but when we make dressing well easy, this enables us to move on with confidence. There is a coffee shop near my home I refuse to patronize any longer after being ignored at the counter in favor of younger customers. And I tip well!

    • June 22, 2017 / 8:34 am

      Their loss Deborah! I hate to be ignored. How dare they? Thanks for being here.

  46. Miriam
    June 22, 2017 / 6:30 am

    I most certainly agree, Jennifer! If I put on a polished, stylish outfit for the day my confidence and self-esteem most definitely go up. Yes, it takes thought and a little extra time, but it is worth it!

    It gets more and more challenging to know what to wear and how to wear it, especially since I am nearing mid-fifties. (And, anything seems to go these days.)

    That is why I am so grateful that you take the time to share (and educate) what you consider stylish. I think the picture you posted sums it up well – what I wear and my own personal style is very important and says a lot about how I value myself. Thanks!

    • June 22, 2017 / 8:33 am

      Exactly Miriam! Our clothes speak our message loudly and controlling that message is empowering. Thanks for being here.

  47. Louise Dorner
    June 22, 2017 / 6:05 am

    I’m with you Jennifer!

    • June 22, 2017 / 8:31 am

      Thanks for being here Louise.

  48. Sally
    June 22, 2017 / 6:03 am

    You go girl!

  49. June 22, 2017 / 5:59 am

    Jennifer, so we’ll said. At 65, I feel the same as if I was in my 20s. I wear what I want. Granted, my tastes have changed, and I do a much better job choosing clothes that work for me. As you said, wear what you feel confident wearing.

    • June 22, 2017 / 8:30 am

      Thank you Pauline! I appreciate you being here and sharing.

  50. Karen
    June 22, 2017 / 5:55 am

    This is so true!! I was sick for a long time and didn’t dress well. I always felt very frumpy. Since joining several wardrobe groups I’ve again started to care hobo look. I finally, at 64,felt good about myself. In the last 5 days, an event has taken me back several steps again. I’d had a double mastectomy years ago and have had several reconstruction surgeries. While on a flight to Florida, where we were about to board a ship for a cruise, one of my implants ruptured and leaked. I now have to have another surgery, probably to remove both implants. Now I have to rework my wardrobe,again. No one can tell me that clothes should have nothing to do with how we feel about ourselves! For me it’s everything!!

    • June 22, 2017 / 8:28 am

      Oh Karen! I’m so sorry. That’s just a struggle you don’t need!! Good luck on your surgery and thank you for sharing, I’m pulling for you!!

  51. June 22, 2017 / 5:49 am

    The one who tried to discount what we do is probably hurting herself. As I discovered, caring for your appearance inside and outside is empowering. It resulted in confidence in my career and joy as I enter each day with a confident smile on my face. I know your heart and that you are here to help women soar. We send messages with our clothing choices whether we like it or not. If we want to be considered strong and intelligent, then our cover should say that. This is anything but superficial…it is helping women to be their best and rise above the superficial standards. The person who commented is not thinking this through.

    • June 22, 2017 / 8:24 am

      Thanks Pam! The women who said this is actually an overly confident woman who was trying to hurt my feelings. She missed the mark because it angered me rather than silenced me. What we wear does matter and is a powerful tool in our arsenal.

  52. Leigh
    June 22, 2017 / 5:48 am

    Very well said, Jennifer!I enjoy your posts and find them helpful and encouraging. I agree with what you said. Thank you.

    • June 22, 2017 / 8:21 am

      Thanks for being here Leigh. I appreciate you.

  53. Elizabeth
    June 22, 2017 / 5:43 am

    Thank you for your post.

  54. Robin
    June 22, 2017 / 5:37 am

    Yes, Yes, and Yes to everything you said! I recently attended my 40th high school class reunion and you better believe I thought carefully what I was going to wear. And as I dressed, it did feel a little bit as if I was putting on my “armor”.

    • June 22, 2017 / 8:19 am

      Yay Robin! It is armor and can provide confidence and joy! Thanks for being here.

  55. Eva
    June 22, 2017 / 5:33 am

    Your post is exactly what I have been feeling this week. As a single woman in her 50’s I too struggle with what to wear. I’ve been focused on being a mom and raising kids the past few years. Now my kids are older and I want to dress more like a feminine, single woman and less like a mom without looking desperate or inappropriate. So I enjoy your posts and getting different perspectives.

    • June 22, 2017 / 8:17 am

      Thank you Eva! It’s your time and it matters. Confidence can not be underrated!

  56. June 22, 2017 / 5:14 am

    I agree whole-heartedly. Although I am retired, I feel that the image that I present each day whether it be to grocery shop, volunteer or have lunch with friends, determines to a certain extent how I will be perceived by strangers. Like it or not, we are judged by our appearances. I don’t like to be invisible. In a busy world, others do not have time to “get to know us” so we are quickly classified and dealt with accordingly. I enjoy taking time to curate a wardrobe to present myself in as attractive and contemporary manner as possible.
    My thought about blogs is that if you’re not interested in the topic, don’t read it and as Leslie/ Bungalow Hostess always says “be kind.”

    • June 22, 2017 / 8:15 am

      Thank you Joanne! I appreciate your support and thoughts. Leslie is right 🙂

  57. Carol
    June 22, 2017 / 4:52 am

    First, Jennifer, thank you for sharing your thoughts and expertise in your blog, which I always enjoy reading. With regard to whether discussing fashion for women over 50 is frivolous, I have found that your blog, and a couple of others, have helped me to focus my wardrobe shopping on clothing that makes me feel confident and comfortable. As a result, I have been able to pare back to the wardrobe basics that I really wear and enjoy, and to change my accessories to suit the occasion. Thanks for what you do; wishing you a wonderful day!

    • June 22, 2017 / 8:12 am

      Thank you Carol! I appreciate you being here and sharing with us.

  58. June 22, 2017 / 4:46 am

    Over the past couple of years, I discovered your blog and several others (Pam Lutrell, for one). They have been so helpful in helping me rediscover my style as an over-50 woman. I think it’s important for us to feel and look our best because it does make us confident and positive. What you do is NOT trivial at all! Thanks so much, Jennifer!

    • June 22, 2017 / 8:14 am

      Thank you Beth! I appreciate you being here.

  59. June 22, 2017 / 4:46 am

    I couldn’t agree more, Jennifer! Clothes also provide joy, and that’s in short supply at all ages!

    • June 22, 2017 / 8:11 am

      Yes, I agree Beth! !Thanks for pointing that out.

  60. Marty Howard
    June 22, 2017 / 4:44 am

    It’s easy to say, don’t let the naysayer(s) get to you. I guess I understand the point they’re trying to make. There are big problems in our world, and perhaps deciding what to wear is isn’t high on their list. On the other hand, in addition to reading about fashion for over-50s (or whatever age), I also like to see photos of, and read about food. So I guess there are those who say, we should only eat to live, and the rest is frivolity. But I like to cook, try different cuisines, and enjoy trying new recipes. And, I view this as one of many creative outlets I have. The same goes for clothing, photography, travel, and the arts. Some might argue all of these are “unimportant” and therefore, interest in them, is shallow. But I believe all of these areas (and more) help make our cultures and also make life worth living. Carry on, Jennifer!

    • June 22, 2017 / 8:09 am

      Thanks For being here Marty! It is easy to let critics get you down, this gal just picked the wrong topic which has the opposite effect.

  61. June 22, 2017 / 4:43 am

    I agree that this is an important discussion. Clothes and how we choose them is a fascinating topic. I see clothing as a form of communication as well as creative self-expression. If clothing were not important to humans, we’d all be wearing a uniform, or maybe nothing at all. I never believe anyone who says he/she doesn’t care about how he/she looks… Admit it or not, we all care about our hair style, the look and comfort of our shoes, the style of our eyeglasses, what to wear to a special event, and so on. Thank you for an interesting discussion.

    • June 22, 2017 / 8:07 am

      I never believe them either Cindy. It’s a cop out. Thanks for sharing here.

    • Sue G
      November 26, 2019 / 7:13 am

      Thanks for this post! Yes, clothes are important- they can convey confidence or defiance, youthful outlook or established mantras. I’ve recently begun revamping my wardrobe to reflect who I am now – a vibrant woman ready for a new beginning. I maybe 60 but I still have something to share!

  62. Barbara Daley
    June 22, 2017 / 4:41 am


  63. June 22, 2017 / 4:37 am

    What I hate is when I realized that younger people – say around ages 20 – 30 – start treating older women like everyone is their grandmother! And, then of course, is when you realize that you have become invisible to men, all men, no matter the age.

    • June 22, 2017 / 8:02 am

      I hate that too, Linda! Then they start calling me “dear” which makes my head spun. Thanks for being here.

  64. Ramona LaChapelle
    June 22, 2017 / 4:36 am

    Could not agree with you more on this, and i don’t always agree with you????
    What we women of a certain age wear, and i might argue that it applies to all women of any age, definitely impacts the way we are viewed and treated. It is not frivolous. It is part of the struggle we face every day in a world that is increasingly misogynistic. We need all the conversation we can get from all sources to help us through these times.
    Keep doing what you do. It matters

    • June 22, 2017 / 7:58 am

      Thanks for being here Ramona! I appreciate you sharing.

  65. Janet
    June 22, 2017 / 4:35 am

    Agreed on all counts! What we wear is an extension of ourselves and I don’t believe it is a frivolous and shallow obsession. I am fortunate that in my personal and professional life I am not viewed as invisible but, at 58, I have started to feel that in public due to my age. It is more obvious on the days I don’t put the effort into my appearance. I won’t dictate to others and I ask the same in return. My appearance is a source of pride and confidence and I will continue to make that a priority – and follow your blog. Thanks!

    • June 22, 2017 / 7:57 am

      It’s the same for me, Janet. If I put the effort in, I’m more visible which boosts my confidence. Thanks for being here!

      • Sarah Cliffe
        January 21, 2018 / 8:45 am

        Dear Jennifer,
        I read a quote on Facebook yesterday, which I think is relevant here. It went something like this: “Unkind comments from rude people say more about them than they do about you”. What about the mantra: “If you haven’t got something nice to say, then don’t say it?” We all don’t mind nicely phrased constructive criticism because we all like to see different points of view and even learn from them. Anyway, I am digressing! I always admire and respect ladies who put thought into what they are wearing and it certainly boosts my confidence if I am happy with what I am wearing so that I can get the best out of my day! Just carry on with what you are doing because it’s great and we all enjoy reading it! Thank you Jennifer!

        • January 21, 2018 / 9:33 am

          Thanks Sarah. I do like constructive discussion of style and you’re so right, it’s nice to get other women’s take on an outfit. That said, some mighty unhappy people feel compelled to spread their unhappiness and I want no part of it. Thank you for reading.

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