Sweats and sloppy casual wear are attempting to sink the older woman’s style quotient.
I am not going down with the fleece, are you?
There’s no doubt, some older women feel like they’re wearing a cloak of invisibility. The reasons vary and while some women enjoy the freedom that gives them, many do not.
There are some concrete ways we can combat it… if we choose to.
I started discussing this topic here in part 1.
So how can older woman really combat invisibility?
- Attention to personal grooming is very important.
- Appearance and polishing your personal style is crucial… because frumpiness is the fast track to invisibility.
- Being informed about current events and able to intelligently join conversations increases your visibility
- Staying physically active and fit as possible will boost confidence which helps us feel and look more vibrant.
I’m just going to cover the first two.
I’m persnickety about how I look when I leave the house. I will not go out with un-styled or unclean hair. I always apply a small amount of makeup…lipstick, mascara and eyebrow pencil (mandatory). My clothes are clean, unwrinkled and presentable.
Now if the house is on fire, all bets are off…I grab a hat, sunglasses, purse and my little dog Lucy on the way out 🙂 If it’s only smoldering in a back room, I would also grab a long raincoat, scarf and my jewelry box. Weird, but that’s me.
Paying attention to personal grooming is a matter of personal respect. How can a woman feel good about herself if she hasn’t taken basic care of her grooming? I just don’t get it? Simple things like chin hair and un-flossed teeth get noticed!
We all have a unique combination of styles, that make up our personal style.
My personal style is a mix of classic,elegant, sporty, creative and dramatic with a little feminine thrown into the mix. (That’s one reason the body conscious, short dress from this post wasn’t something I could confidently wear.
Each outfit I put together highlights different aspects of my personality and how I feel that day. How I want to be perceived also plays a role in what I choose. I’m a bit of a chameleon or you could just call me Sybil.
And here’s where my point on our wardrobe choices comes in…you knew I had to have one:)
Besides the unsuccessful ways of dressing for visibility I discussed in part 2, there is an alternative way to dress, which increases a woman’s visibility, and that’s with drama.
The dramatic dresser projects a sophisticated and confident image. It’s strong and conveys assurance. Bold, often exaggerated in line and/or color it stands out in a crowd. It’s not for the faint of heart… because it makes people notice you. Because of its striking appearance, it empowers women. It can be edgy or severe, but it’s seldom overlooked. I love it!!
So what does dramatic dressing look like?
Some examples of dramatic clothes and looks are here on my Pinterest board.
- The clothes are geometric, often with sharp angles.
- Black and white are popular neutrals, worn alone or mixed with a bold color.
- Fabrics are usually firm and hold their shape.
- Patterns are seldom worn.
- Jackets and coats are structured with sharp edges and straight lines.
- Clothes have minimal details and are sleek
- The silhouette is semi-fitted with a slightly defined waist.
- Hats are a favorite accessory because they add instant drama.
- There is usually 1 striking accessory and it is over-sized.
- Hair is sleek, sculpted and worn in a precision cut.
The dramatic dresser is seldom one of characteristics. She can add touches of feminine, creative, sporty or classic to the mix, but there is always a striking element to her look.
I pull this look out when I need a boost of confidence and it never fails me. I mix it with other styles to produce my personal style recipe.
I’m reminded of this song…
My my, hey hey
Rock and roll is here to stay
It’s better to burn out than fade away
My my, hey hey
Aging is a privilege, fading away is a choice. I’m choosing to remain visible, are you?