Moving On

Moving On

What’s worse than packing and moving? Doing it with a head cold. Yesterday was moving day and I’m beyond thrilled to get this behind us. Tomorrow will be even busier when they deliver our things to the house we rented. There will be weeks if not months of unpacking before we feel settled into our rental but there’s no rush. I plan to leave as many boxes packed as possible because we’ll be moving again in a year or so. This has been a massive amount of work and makes me want to embrace minimalism. Big time.

I was already exhausted when my feet hit the floor yesterday morning and it got worse from there. It’s funny that I thought I was ready until the truck pulled up and I realized how many small loose things were not packed.

I remember it took a long time for our house to feel like home. I’m guessing that the rental we are moving into will never feel like home because it won’t be. Life feels surreal. Almost like we pulled the rug out from under ourselves. Of course, that’s what we needed to do to get out of our comfort zone and make a change.

As we were getting the last things out of our backyard I noticed that one of our palm trees is about to bear fruit. It only seems to do that every six years, so it feels kind of special when it happens. I had a momentary feeling of sadness that I would not see those fruit ripen and fall to the ground. Then reality sunk in as I remembered the violent diarrhea Lucy got from eating them.

This move feels bittersweet. We loved our little house. Perhaps because we gutted it to make it exactly the way we wanted…right down to the antique French Chandeliers (which we have brought with us).

I wandered around taking pictures after everything was out and realized this house was for another time in our lives. I’m now looking forward and excited to see what’s next.

Are you planning to move in retirement?

Thanks for reading ladies and have a great day.

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  1. Janet
    May 1, 2018 / 4:15 am

    I am excited for you! When I left my dream home after a divorce I felt no more than a brief twinge too. That time had passed and I had fond memories but it was time to move on. Now 15 years later it is time to move on again. Unfortunately our market is slow and prices have dropped but when it sells I will be ready for another adventure. I wish you many exciting times ahead!

    • Jennifer
      May 3, 2018 / 8:47 am

      Good luck on your move Janet

  2. Jeri
    May 1, 2018 / 4:21 am

    I officially retired June 30 2013 but moved across the country from the Midwest to the beaches of NC a week before. It’s been the best five years of my life. Enjoy your next stage but don’t stop your blog I enjoy reading them.

    • Susan
      May 1, 2018 / 8:42 am

      I officially retired the exact same day you did, Jeri! I agree completely: the past 5 years have been the best of my life. All that hard work and saving did pay off. A tip for everyone: investigate the lifelong learning community, if there is one, at your local college. It’s a great source of new friends, adventures, and opportunities to explore new interests.

      • Deborah
        May 1, 2018 / 9:20 am

        I retired the very same day that Susan and Jeri did We moved from NM to NC. I moved far too much stuff. Volunteering at the local Habitat For Humanity ReStore has encouraged me to continue to downsize. I take in a box of donations every week. I’ve lived the past 5 years and the freedom to do all the things I never had time for while working. Art classes, a flower garden and lots of knitting and reading.

        • Jennifer
          May 3, 2018 / 8:49 am

          That sounds so fun! I’m going to continue weeding out as we live here.

  3. Ramona
    May 1, 2018 / 4:23 am

    Change is never easy, your home is lovely and your next home will be lovely, too. Different for the next stage in your life but you will be home again. Changes are coming for me, also, within the next three years, I need to find another place to live for this stage in my life (I’m 62 and newly retired) but for now, I am spending time with my family and traveling, I love it! Your tips for outfits for my trip to Washington DC was perfect! Thank you so much and I hope you get over this head cold soon.

    • Jennifer
      May 3, 2018 / 8:51 am

      I’m looking forward to traveling more too! I want to do it while we are still physically agile.

  4. May 1, 2018 / 4:34 am

    Feel better soon! Your home is lovely, and your new home will be, with your touches.
    Hope you do continue your blogging, however!
    I’ve been in my home for 34 years…..just “purged”a few more closets, a room.
    I love it here!

    • Jennifer
      May 3, 2018 / 8:52 am

      Ah, lucky you. There’s something wonderful about living in a home that long!

  5. Cathy
    May 1, 2018 / 4:40 am

    I’m 62 and two years ago we moved in to a home with our best friends. My husband is ill, needed to retire and focus on health. My friend and I have been best friends for 58 years. While I had to give up many things I treasured, they are just things. We are truly having the time of our life and all encouraging Jeff on his journey of health.
    Just like fashion is a lot about what you do with the pieces you have. Home is all about who you share it with and how comfortable you make people feel when they’re there.
    Enjoy your new adventure!!!

    • Jennifer
      May 3, 2018 / 8:54 am

      That’s an excellent observation Cathy!! It all about people and quality times

  6. Susan
    May 1, 2018 / 5:01 am

    My husband and I were in the Military so we moved fairly regularly and the novelty wore off pretty quickly. After living 10 years in Saudi Arabia (where again we moved compounds) we have finally settled into our home in Australia. Even though we have both been retired for several years, neither of us can be bothered packing up to go anywhere. Besides, we have fantastic neighbours and everything we need is within walking distance. Good luck with your new adventure and try some zinc tablets to ward off (and reduce severity) of a cold. I find it works really well.
    P.S Don’t blame you for taking the chandeliers.

    • Shari
      May 1, 2018 / 5:17 am

      I, too, lived in Saudi a few years back now. It taught me that the things you need are really just family!

      • Joanna
        May 1, 2018 / 8:34 am

        Hello fellow expats! I lived in the Middle East for three years, in a tiny home, in a compound. It was a great adventure and taught me I can live in a small space. When we returned to Canada we bought a smaller home than we’ve lived in the past, but it’s all we need – beautiful home, great neighbours, laid back community, all in a nice town by the sea. It taught us that things are just things. I lived without them for years, so purging was easy.
        This is an adventure, Jennifer. Enjoy!

        • Jennifer
          May 3, 2018 / 8:57 am

          I’m wanting to live in a much smaller place but need to get rid of lots more to do it. I wish my husband felt the same. I’m working on him.

  7. Melissa
    May 1, 2018 / 5:03 am

    I am just a few weeks behind you. My new build house is about 3 weeks off completion and I am dreading the huge upheaval. It is the need to make a decision about every single item that we own down to the last paper clip that overwhelms me. We have been in our temporary home now for two crowded years having left our large and beautiful farmhouse with our huge garden. That was a time of growing children and doing the homesteading thing, but the children are grown and we have decided to live in our rural city close to work with a small house and little garden. I think that it is important to be able to change houses to suit each stage of life and to give Thanks for what you had but to move on looking forward to a new stage.

    • Jennifer
      May 3, 2018 / 8:58 am

      I agree Melissa. Good luck! It sounds like a great choice.

  8. Laurel
    May 1, 2018 / 5:13 am

    Moving is indeed bittersweet. I wish you best in your new adventures and finding the perfect place to land after the rental. I do love having pictures and periodically “go back” to my previous homes, but in time it’s less heart rending except for the good memories. The new home (wherever it ends up being) will be home soon.

    Feel better! Stress always gets me in these situations.

    • Jennifer
      May 3, 2018 / 9:00 am

      The stress is breaking me out too. Oh joy:) I’m anxious to hop in our trailer and escape.

  9. Shari
    May 1, 2018 / 5:14 am

    I feel your pain…I’ve moved 17 times but know the next one is to an independent living community. I often sit and ponder what will go with me next time!
    It is so freeing to see things go after a while! All you need it the sweet people around you!
    We have lived here for 14 years, longest of my adulthood. We’ve combined two homes, taken in our parents things and given away more than most people ever had! I love my home so much but know the next will bring new happinesses. I wish the same for you!
    And oh, I just am recovering from a sinus infection so wear something with pockets for all those hankies!

    • Jennifer
      May 3, 2018 / 9:01 am

      Feel better. Those sinus infections are brutal. I’m lucky to have avoided one this time but my nose and face are chapped from blowing!

  10. pat valentine
    May 1, 2018 / 5:28 am

    We are building a home in Florida , moving from Massachusetts – leaving the only home we’ve lived in for 40 years (we were married in the living room!) So many decisions to make (what to take, what to leave – New England furniture doesn’t really work in a Florida home) Between building a home in one state and selling one in another is very anxiety provoking!
    Not to mention we’re leaving our family. But we’re looking forward to a new type of lifestyle (which includes a pool that we can use every day!!) and after all, family is only a plane ride away. I look forward to reading your rental stories, as we are trying to find a rental in Florida until our home is ready in JANUARY 2018! We have a cat, so it’s not so easy. Please keep us posted as to how it’s going.

    • Jennifer
      May 3, 2018 / 9:03 am

      Wow that’s exciting! Renting feels very different and is freeing in many ways. I’ll keep you posted good luck

  11. Shirley
    May 1, 2018 / 6:11 am

    Jennifer – your post was indeed bittersweet…but the excitement comes through loud and clear! You are ready to move on! We are also getting ready for a move at our house over Memorial Day weekend. But the move involves our daughter, who is getting married the 1st weekend in June. She and her fiance have bought an older ranch style house that was remodeled in the “Fixer Upper” style – cute as a bug! Hubby & I plan to do a little “fixing up” at our house….and staying there! After 35 years in this little house, raising our family here, we have no plans to move. It really feels more like a “re-claiming” of our house…kind of like it was when we 1st built it as a young married couple. After we retire in a few short years, we will be heading out to all those places we have been putting on our “someday list” … and it will be a cozy little place to return to after our travels. Enjoy your newest “adventure”! 🙂

    • Jennifer
      May 3, 2018 / 9:44 am

      Congratulations Shirley! That is an exciting time. Cozy is always how I love our home to feel. Fingers crossed we find it soon.

  12. Gail Schwartz
    May 1, 2018 / 6:23 am

    It amazes me to learn that we are all moving at the same time! I told my husband we had to make the move before I got too old to pack everything up. Now it’s happening! Our realtors found a young couple that want to buy our house so I have to be all packed up by mid-July. I think I can do it. Then we will move to our house at the shore. Only downside- 90 minutes from our granddaughter.

    • Jennifer
      May 3, 2018 / 9:45 am

      90 minutes isn’t too bad but being by the shore sounds heavenly. Good luck!

  13. Marsheila
    May 1, 2018 / 6:49 am

    Making a change at this age can be a wonderful thing. I recently moved into a beautiful town house after letting go of our big family home. The kids were sadder than we were, but they are grown and have homes of their own. Anyway, this town house just spoke to me and I couldn’t be happier. Yes, moving is exhausting, but what an adventure. Enjoy it in the end!!

    • Jennifer
      May 3, 2018 / 9:46 am

      I think I could be quite happy in a townhome but hubs wants a yard for now, so it’s probably going to be a house for us. I agree, in the end it’ll be about what speaks to our hearts.

  14. Maggie Hinson
    May 1, 2018 / 6:53 am

    We are newly retired and moving to another state in a couple of months. I also feel a bit bittersweet. I have loved this place and my cozy house, but feel that it is time to turn the page. Good luck in your move and embracing change. PS, Love your blog

    • Jennifer
      May 3, 2018 / 9:48 am

      That’s where we were Maggie. It was just time to move on. Good luck and thanks for being here.

  15. Holly Rigby
    May 1, 2018 / 7:06 am

    Love your blog…and hoping you take us on your next adventure. We just moved in January, not by choice, as we were flooded in Harvey. We had lived in our home for 26 years. We had to replace couches, our master bedroom, and some clothes. Most stuff we are not replacing. We bought a brand new one story house, and counterintuitvly, it is larger.Anyone who was NOT flooded tells us how exciting this is. Well, yes, but not in a good way. And not at our age…You are making the right decision to choose your new life. Moving is always hard, but feeling in control of it is everything. Trying to embrace the change here in Texas. Hope all goes well for you.

    • Jennifer
      May 4, 2018 / 7:21 am

      Good luck to you Molly. It must have been heartbreaking to be flooded out! So sorry. Moving isn’t easy no matter the reason.

  16. Trish
    May 1, 2018 / 7:38 am

    I’m actively looking for a house on Cape Cod. I lived there when my husband was alive and life in Massachusetts is not as hectic as life in New Jersey. Also, since I have custody of my just turned 13 w/o grandson and 7 y/o granddaughter I want to give them a stress free life as far away from their birth parents as possible. I’ve had 9 years with Eric and all 7 with Shel and all 3 of us really need our lives stress free. They check my emails daily to see if our realtor has sent some new houses and get so excited when I say to Skyoe their uncle and ask him to check out this house or that house. It’s exciting for them and exciting and terror filled for me.

    • Jennifer
      May 4, 2018 / 7:22 am

      Bravo Trish!! You got your hands more than full but it sounds like your move will be joyous. I love Cape Cod. Such a special place.

  17. May 1, 2018 / 7:42 am

    It is hard to make that change, especially when you have made it yours, but kudos to you for going ahead. It is exciting to see what new adventures await. – Amy

  18. May 1, 2018 / 7:45 am

    I think it’s very smart to move now. Most of our friends have apartments ready to move into soon–they’ve retired and are getting fed up with yard work and house maintenance. A couple of friends have already made the move from their big houses to apartments conveniently located in city centers, near their kids. They’re all still very active and it means they are still able to build community in their new homes. My parents wanted to stay in their house forever, but they were very isolated, since everything was accessible only by car and my dad had to stop driving; then his health took a dive and they moved to assisted living at ages 85 and 90. My mom, who also had health issues, took it very badly and got very depressed. That’s why moving earlier, and by choice, not necessity, is so important.

    • Allison
      May 2, 2018 / 2:34 pm

      Oh Taste of France you are SO right on this one. My parents are in their nineties and insisted on hanging on to their townhouse. Their doctor told me it would take a ‘crisis’ to get them into a retirement home and unfortunately that crisis came at Christmas. My Mom was hospitalized and was told she could not return home so my brothers and I struggled to find an appropriate place for both parents (she needs assisted care, he is independent). With luck we did find it, but it is not where my Dad would have chosen. He had been been given many years to look for a place but chose not to do so. They have settled in but out of necessity not choice. I don’t understand that generation’s stranglehold on their homes! My FIL is exactly the same, my MIL is in a nursing home and he is rolling around a big house by himself. He is not eating properly, not taking his meds..and her nursing home has a retirement home attached where he could live and see her every day. My husband and I are planning on selling our large home next year and buying a condo(we do have a seaside cottage as well which we rent as income property) We loved having the big house but it no longer fits our lives. I actually can’t wait to put it on the market and retire!!
      Yes it is best to make these moves whilst its our choice. While we can downsize and take what we want with us so that the day that ‘crisis’ arrives our children/friends/family aren’t left making decisions they wished we had made when we could!

      • Jennifer
        May 4, 2018 / 7:26 am

        My mom was the same way and insisted on staying in her home. It wasn’t a healthy choice for her but her stubbornness won out.

    • Jennifer
      May 4, 2018 / 7:24 am

      I completely agree! I have no desire to keep moving around and look forward to getting settled in a home we love.

  19. Linda
    May 1, 2018 / 7:57 am

    Like so many others, I feel your pain, Jennifer. My husband & I are in our mid-60’s & I’m mentally preparing for our ‘next chapter’ (while he continues working & pretends we’re still young:).

    Having emptied my MIL’s place of her lifetime of accumulation after she passed in May of ‘12, then doing the same as my Mom’s health deteriorated 4 years ago (we moved her to an assisted living place near my sister, as the prices in ATL where I am are double what they are in MO), I am about to begin the big purge at my place. I plan to sell very few things, but will, hopefully, make some people very happy with mass quantities of donations (of household items, furniture & clothing). I do not want my sons & their wives to have to deal with all of that.

    Hang in, feel better & embrace this next chapter! We’re all cheering you on from here:)

    • Jennifer
      May 4, 2018 / 7:29 am

      It’s so exhausting to go through our own stuff, let alone our parents. I don’t want to leave all the mess for my kids to desk with. Good luck Linda. Starting early means you’ll be ready.

  20. Norma
    May 1, 2018 / 8:01 am

    Love your blog, and look forward to hearing more about your new adventure. Hope you get well soon.

  21. Julie
    May 1, 2018 / 8:03 am

    Wishing you a smooth a day or more settling into your new temporary place. You mentioned being closer to family so that will help with the adjustment pains.

    • Jennifer
      May 4, 2018 / 7:32 am

      Thanks Julie. Yes, we get to watch our grandsons baseball game this Sat for the first time. I’m really looking forward to spending more time with him.

  22. Marlene
    May 1, 2018 / 8:18 am

    So, interesting to read all these stories of “moves”, Jennifer…mine took place 5 years ago after 45 years in the same home. Having searched in this local community for a number of years and not finding anything I really wanted; what a joy to just happen to come upon a perfect home for my new stage of life one afternoon; I made an offer within 10 minutes! All fell into place perfectly after that “find”! (No question, STRESS, yes; but grateful to this very moment for what I now have.).

    • Jennifer
      May 4, 2018 / 7:33 am

      That’s wonderful Marlene! Congrats

  23. Linda
    May 1, 2018 / 9:28 am

    Jennifer, I am retiring June 23 after being a school librarian for the last 25 years and I feel as exactly as you do! I am also moving from NY to California – I think we may be in the same neck of the woods (or should I say desert??). We bought in Palm Valley CC in Palm Desert. I’ll be leaving a totally renovated condo on the east end of Long Island to a condo in need of a major overhaul. Against all advice from friends, I am following my children to the West Coast – what if they move back east? Hubby and I decided it was time for us – away from the snow and where we can play all day! Good luck on your move!

    • Susan
      May 1, 2018 / 2:23 pm

      Linda, we followed our kids too, five years ago and it’s the best decision we ever made! We didn’t want to miss out on life with our only two grandchildren. We went from a small town to a much bigger city and we’re having a ball. So much to do! And if the kids move, then I guess we will too! Enjoy California!

      • Jennifer
        May 4, 2018 / 7:38 am

        That sounds fun Susan!

    • Jennifer
      May 4, 2018 / 7:37 am

      We love Palm Dessert! You’ll have a great time there. We’ve moved closer to family for now and we will see how we like the community. We wanted to try an active adult community on for size and what better place than close to my grandson? Good luck!

  24. L H Carter
    May 1, 2018 / 10:12 am

    The home you moved out of was gorgeous and you both have so many happy memories from your years there. Now you get to explore a new place of creation and a fresh routine of life. It’s going to be fabulous creating all this tailored to you and your husband.

    • Jennifer
      May 4, 2018 / 7:46 am

      We are certainly looking forward these days!

  25. May 1, 2018 / 10:56 am

    Oh this resonates. I’ve been in temporary places before (including where I am now, although it’s long-term temporary) and it is unsettling. It will be so lovely when you find your forever home. I have a few lights I bring with me from move to move as well. I’m starting to pare down in anticipation of a next move which will be a size downsize, as I return from suburbia to the city. I’m in a new era of less and it feels very good! I hope you feel better soon. XO

    • Jennifer
      May 4, 2018 / 7:52 am

      I want less of everything now and more time for fun! I didn’t know you weee moving out of suburbia. That will be great for you Jen! Xo

  26. Ulla Portefaix
    May 1, 2018 / 11:02 am

    Hi Jennifer. I too am going to move this summer, and I do´nt know where. After 39 year! I am 66 and after divorce, we got to sell our apartment in Stockholm city , near the see. I am so nervous, because I do´nt know where I can buy a new apartment and how big it is going to be. My wish is to live in the same area, because I feel safety here. Safety is totally necessary for me. But I love to live alone now and do what I want to! Good luck to you!

    • Jennifer
      May 4, 2018 / 7:53 am

      Good luck Ulla! I hope you find a great place. I agree that feeling safe is critical at our age.

  27. Beth M.
    May 1, 2018 / 12:16 pm

    Good luck! You’re leaving a pretty house, but it’s going to be fun to put your special touch on a new place, and meanwhile you can keep paring your way down.

    • Jennifer
      May 4, 2018 / 7:55 am

      It will be fun. I’m pairing down every day and hopefully the next move will be easier.

  28. Karen H.
    May 1, 2018 / 12:30 pm

    Oh yes, moves can be bittersweet.. Wishing you all the best with the move, and feeling better. Wow, looks like so many of your readers are moving. We have been retired a few months but no plans on moving at this point.

    • Jennifer
      May 4, 2018 / 7:56 am

      I’m surprised how many are moving too! It’s a busy time

  29. Lori
    May 1, 2018 / 1:13 pm

    Moving is a physically and emotionally exhausting process. I would not be surprised that it caused your cold! I just moved my parents into a retirement community and we are in the process of selling their home. My husband’s Uncle and Aunt are moving into the same community and so we start all over again with downsizing and moving. I have been in my home for 25 years and we are in the process of renovating. Sometimes I would love to just toss all the stuff and move into a lovely little cottage. Sigh.
    Wishing you all the best in your new, temporary home, and I hope you find just the right place soon.

    • Jennifer
      May 4, 2018 / 7:58 am

      I often feel like just tossing everything too! For now I will keep pairing down and see how minimal I can get

  30. Debra
    May 1, 2018 / 2:03 pm

    I’ve been following along on your saga and admire the positive way you are approaching this upheaval in your life.

    We are in our late 50s and still have adult children at home, so we foresee another ten years in this home. In fact, we’re embarking on a remodel this summer which will get our house exactly the way we want it to be. However, I can easily imagine the day when we give this big (4,000 sq. ft.) place up for a smaller home and that is, right now, the plan (but you know what they say about the plans we make…).

    Prices in our area – Silicon Valley – are so expensive that I cannot imagine moving into another home here, so I would imagine that we’ll be looking elsewhere on the West Coast. I am also hoping to convince my husband to buy a small place in France…we will see.

    Lots of adventure ahead for us! In the meantime, I will live vicariously through you.

    • Jennifer
      May 4, 2018 / 8:00 am

      A small home in France would be awesome! Sign me right up for that. The Bay Area is very pricey which is one of the reasons we left:)

  31. Jill
    May 1, 2018 / 3:55 pm

    You never know what life will bring. I was widowed, retired, remarried and my second husband hated living in the city and wanted to move to a rural area. This we did and within five years he died. I thought about moving back to the city but houses were not selling so I decided to stay put and make the most of it. Now I love the peace and quiet of the country and am happy looking at deer, rabbits, raccoons etc. No matter where you live you can make it “home”. Best of lucky, Jennifer. I do enjoy your blog.

    • Jennifer
      May 4, 2018 / 8:02 am

      So true Jill. I’m so happy to hear you’re settled in and enjoying the rural life. I often wonder if it would appeal to me.

  32. Merri
    May 1, 2018 / 4:05 pm

    We have downsized and rented (church manse) for 9 months because we had a buyer and hadn’t found what we were looking for. I also tried not to unpack ( think Christmas)! We stayed in our rental whole we renovated a bungaloft condo. Happy to be in a smaller home & am still working on reducing the boxes of stuff in the basement.

    • Jennifer
      May 4, 2018 / 8:04 am

      I think I’ll be reducing for years. Hubs keeps opening boxes which is driving me batty :-O

  33. Kate
    May 1, 2018 / 6:47 pm

    Jennifer, we moved last week from the home that has been in my family for 80 years. I lived there for 51 or my 63 years. We too loved our home, but felt it was time for a change and the closer we got to moving day the stronger that felt. As the house got dismantled and packed up it became very clear that it was ready for a new family to love it up and time for us to make a big change – moved downtown into a townhouse. I laughed when I read your comment about freaking out at how much there was left at the last minute. So true! Best of luck to you and you navigate this next year before truly settling down. Lots of experiments!

    • Jennifer
      May 4, 2018 / 8:06 am

      Wow that’s a big change! Bravo to you Kate. I think a townhouse is a wonderful option. We’ll see where we end up. Good luck to you too.

  34. Pam
    May 4, 2018 / 4:39 am

    I could have written almost the exact same words at this time last year!! The last few items to move just multiply themselves as the moving truck arrival time approaches. Vowing to be better about accumulating STUFF! Backyard trees hold more memories than we realize — the last morning in our home of 16 years, I was picking up the scrappy debris that falls from the apple tree right after it flowers. I had done it countless times before, but realized I would never do it again. It reminded me so much of the Brad Paisley song called “Last Time for Everything” which goes through a whole list of things that are “lasts” — some are for the best, some are tough, and that is just the way the world works for all of us. (I didn’t have the head cold, though!)

    • Jennifer
      May 4, 2018 / 7:15 am

      So true Pam. There is a last time for everything and it’s not always a bad thing.

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