When life gets tough, and it has, I double down on my self-care tools. I’ve been using a 5-Minute Gratitude Journal because it’s a quick simple exercise that reminds me of the many, good things in my life that I often take for granted. What I’ve also been using is a compliments diary for self-care.
When it feels the world has gone crazy, and it does, this helps bring my focus back to where it should be. What’s good in my life.
I used to just write in a little notepad, but I like that this one prompts me to date it. For some reason, I take this one more seriously and so use it more often.
I’ve also begun keeping a compliments diary. It’s a great way to retrain our inner voice and embrace what’s fabulous about ourselves. I just use a pretty notebook for it because no one has printed one, but I plan to make one so check back soon.
Women I work with aren’t aware of how often they criticize their bodies! It’s their normal. The problem is, it hurts when you say negative things about yourself. It hurts you!
It’s as if they want to say it, in case anyone else is thinking it! Dumb. You wouldn’t let someone else talk that way about you. So why let yourself do it? That critical inner dialogue is poisonous!
It’s not healthy and it needs to change.
“My thighs are huge, pants look horrible on me.”
“My legs are strong and long. Skirts look best on me.”
“I just hate how fat my middle has gotten”
“Menopause has added pounds around my middle. I need to look for tunics that flow, and highlight my pretty, thin wrists with bracelets.”
Here’s the one I’ve needed to use a lot.
“My neck is getting so saggy and wrinkly I look like a Shar-Pei Dog”
“I’m lucky I didn’t break my neck when I fell and cracked my hip. The skin is soft and looks pretty good for 59. I’m going to try some facial yoga and remind myself to hold my head high.”
You get the idea. Try it. Let’s change that voice in our heads that says critical things about ourselves. Compliment yourself more often. You deserve it!