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Do You Trust Your Doctor?

Heard the old joke that a doctor is “practicing” medicine? Sometimes it seems just like that!

My misspent youth caught up with me in my 30’s and is still causing problems in my late 50’s.

Do You Trust Your Doctor?

Twenty years ago I noticed a large freckle on the back of my calf. I hadn’t always had it. It was larger than a pencil eraser. And it worried me.

I pointed it out to my dermatologist who said it was nothing to worry about it. OK.

Three years later a new dermatologist assured me it looked fine. Not to worry. Oh. Kay.

Two years later, when we moved back east, a new dermatologist said it was harmless. Not so Oh. Kay.

Eighteen months later we moved back to California, and you guessed it, another dermatologist said it was fine. I told him it bothered me and I wanted it removed, then biopsied.

This doctor literally said,  “You’re being a silly woman. If I remove that, I’ll butcher your leg and it’ll look horrible.” Great bedside manner. Did he think that would go over well with me? Nope.

I found a Plastic Surgeon who removed, then biopsied it.

I remember lying on the table, face down, leg numbed, while he cut it out. He said, “This doesn’t look suspicious to me, but you’ll feel more comfortable with it removed.” True and thanks Dr.

Ten days later his nurse phoned to have me come back. The biopsy had come back showing melanoma. They needed to take a larger, deeper, part of my calf to be sure they got it all. I didn’t panic, but I was furious. How could 5 specialists miss my skin cancer? It didn’t fit criteria for them to be concerned.

This freckle hadn’t darkened or changed during all those years. But my gut told me it wasn’t right. I’m here because I trusted my instincts and was insistent.

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Some possible signs of skin cancer:

  • The most important warning sign for melanoma is a new spot, or a spot that is changing in size, shape, or color. Another important sign is a spot that looks different from other spots on your skin (known as the ugly duckling sign). If you have any of these warning signs, have your skin checked by a doctor.
  • The ABCDE rule is another guide to the usual signs of melanoma.

A is for Asymmetry

One half of a mole or birthmark does not match the other.

B is for Border

The edges are irregular, ragged, notched, or blurred.

C is for Color

The color is not the same all over and may include shades of brown or black, or sometimes with patches of pink, red, white, or blue.

D is for Diameter

The spot is larger than 6 millimeters across (about ¼ inch – the size of a pencil eraser), although melanomas can sometimes be smaller than this.

E is for Evolving

The mole is changing in size, shape, or color.

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How to protect your skin:

I wear hats almost everyday and have 3 sun umbrellas. I wear very strong sunscreen everyday. I slather all exposed parts of me, rain or shine. When the salespeople tell me there’s no benefit to using anything higher than an SPF 30, I ignore them.

If I’m in a very sunny place or will be outside a long time, I layer sunscreens. I start with a chemical sunscreen, which goes on bare skin, soaks in and changes how your skin reacts to the sun. Then, I layer a physical block on top which reflects the suns rays. I can’t be too careful.

Look for full spectrum sunscreens that protect against UVA and UVB. Wear UV protective sunglasses, clothing, hats and stay out of the sun. I do all of these and still have spots pop up. They’re from damage caused many years ago.

UVA: A stands for Aging.

This radiation penetrates deep into the skin and is responsible for premature aging of the skin and skin cancer. Tanning beds can emit 2 to 5 times more UVA radiation than the sun. People actually still use these!

UVB: B stands for Burning.

This radiation is stronger than UVA radiation. It mainly affects the outer layers of the skin, causing sunburns, premature aging of the skin, and skin cancer. These rays are strongest during the summer months – especially between 11 am and 4 pm.

You need to be your own advocate when it comes to your health. And skin cancer is serious business. If anything seems off to you, trust your instinct and go the extra mile to be sure. Skin Cancer is deadly.

 

Coolibar is having a 20% off sale and free shipping on orders over $100, until the end of June. I have several of their hats and tops which I highly recommend. This was not a sponsored post, I just feel very strongly about protecting our skin.

What type of sunscreen do you use?

 

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65 Comments

  1. June 27, 2015 / 9:59 pm

    Funny you should mention this. I’m having a basel cell carcinoma removed on Tuesday. This will probably be my 26th. No it’s not the sun. I had X-ray treatments for acne as a teenager! I’m now paying the price I go to a speical surgeon in Santa Monica who performs MOS surgery. By this time I can tell when I see one of my face. Some I miss. I go to the doctor every four months. One bioopsy came back negative but I knew it was positive. Sure enough a growth came back and it was positive. So great information. We should all compile our lists of sunscreens. It’s so personal as to what feels good. Of course mine is really a result of xrays and not sun.

  2. June 27, 2015 / 7:38 pm

    Such a helpful post, Jennifer. My Irish/English husband has spent all his time outside playing golf. I finally persuaded him to see my dermatologist, and he has had to have something removed almost every year. The worst was a spot on the tip of his nose that started bleeding. It was cancer, and required a massive procedure which almost cost him the bottom half of his nose. Fortunately, a wonderful plastic surgeon was there to repair the damage. He now has just a small dent in the end of his nose, which he could have repaired, but hasn’t bothered to do so. I would have had it fixed in a heartbeat, but we women are fussier about these things. He looks great, wears sun screen and gets regular check ups, thanks to my nagging. Sometimes nagging pays off.

    As for me, w/my porcelain skin and red hair, I knew even at a young age that exposure to the sun was lethal.

    Cheers, M-T

  3. June 26, 2015 / 11:36 am

    What an important post. I spent way too many years baking in the sun. I have had one basal cell but I am constantly on alert. One has to be their own health advocate!

    • Jennifer
      June 26, 2015 / 9:40 pm

      Yes Cindy!! I’m glad you caught it. Left untreated they progress from Basil Cell to more serious ones.

  4. June 26, 2015 / 11:36 am

    Such an important post, and well written too. I used to worship the sun, and was (at one point) daft enough to use sunbeds, when I was younger… despite vaguely knowing the risk. Often it’s not until we’re older that we sit up and take notice.

    This is a great awareness piece, I’m glad you went with your gut feeling, was able to get the treatment you needed, and that you’re here to tell the tale.

    Hopefully, your story will make others more wary after reading.

    All the best, Kimmie.

    • Jennifer
      June 26, 2015 / 9:39 pm

      Thanks Kimmie! Worshiping the sun was simoky part of our generation. We actually have Coco Chanel to thank for its popularity. Prior to her, only the “peasants’ got tanned.

  5. June 25, 2015 / 9:00 pm

    This is a great heads-up, Jennifer! We have all experienced some degree of arrogance with doctors and I have learned that it is important to stick up for your own body! Thanks for joining the #funsummerfinds linkup!

    Shellie
    http://www.thefabjourney.com

    • Jennifer
      June 26, 2015 / 9:34 pm

      Sometimes it seemed like arrogance. Other times it felt like apathy, which really pissed me off. Yes, we have to advocate for our own bodies.

  6. LoriM
    June 24, 2015 / 8:28 am

    I mostly just stay out of the sun and never have been fond of “laying out” though we all did it as teen-agers in the 70’s (and I lived in the tropics!).

    I just don’t like the feel and inconvenience of applying and re-applying sunscreen. Are there decent sprays or powders? Wondering this, too, about tinted moisturizer – every summer it’s the same thing … I want to apply some tint, esp on my legs and arms but the thought of putting lotion on when I emerge from a cooling shower is just – not attractive. Jergens and its generics (Walmart) dry pretty fast, but – I still want to look that up… Powdered semi-permanent skin tints. I guess it’s called “gradual tanner”.

    Also be great if sunscreen included some tanner. Looks like some do…

    • Jennifer
      June 26, 2015 / 9:32 pm

      It’s really important to find a sunscreen that feels good on your skin!! So you will use it consistently. I try a lot of new sunscreens but basically stick to a physical block (Sheseido) for my face and neck. Then a chemical one for the rest of me.
      I use and like the Jergens light self tanner for my legs in the summer. It just takes the “pasty factor” off my legs and helps disguise some veins.

  7. Kim
    June 24, 2015 / 6:41 am

    Great post! Timely too as a friend of mine from high school died last year from melanoma. She was only 49. I’ve not tanned in over 25 years and am rocking my paleness. I’ve had tremendous difficulty finding sunscreen that didn’t irritate my face but finally lucked out with CoTZ Face Natural Skin Tone SPF 40 Sunscreen 1.5 oz that I discovered on Coolibar. I love this stuff! At first I thought that the tint would be way too dark for my porcelain skin tone but once rubbed in it’s fine. I’m wearing this instead of foundation as it makes my skin look poreless. Now I need to start wearing sunscreen on the rest of my body. I also have a great hat, 2 pairs of pants and 1 top from Coolibar and I love all of them. Think I’ll make an appt with my doctor for a skin check now…

    • Jennifer
      June 26, 2015 / 9:20 pm

      I’m sorry to hear about your friend. That’s so tragic.
      Thanks for the sunscreen recommendation Kim! I’ll check out the CoTZ. I’m so fair I usually can’t wear tinted sunscreens. In fact, pure zinc usually disappears into my skin tone.
      YES…protect the rest of your body. Apparently melanoma doesn’t always show up where your skin has had the most exposure. Mine was the back of my leg. I’ve got a large package coming from Coolibar. They have great products. Thanks so much for sharing Kim!!

  8. June 24, 2015 / 5:39 am

    I tanned all the time when I was young. I was so naive. I thought I’d be dead by the time I was 30 so I didn’t care how it was damaging my blond blue eyed sensitive skin. Flash forward 30 years and I am paying with age spots and wrinkles.

    If you’ve read my blog for longer than 2 years you will know that I suffered tremendously at the hands of a bad Dr. during what should have been a simple operation that turned into a nightmare of pain. I had a fear of hospitals before I went for my operation but I can tell you that my most recent catastrophe cemented my thoughts that hospitals are places we go to die, not get better.

    bisous
    Suzanne

    • Jennifer
      June 26, 2015 / 9:12 pm

      I’ve only recently found you Suzanne, so I didn’t hear about your horrible problem. It sounds awful! I agree hospitals are where people go to die. And that’s another issue I will take to my soap box. It shouldn’t be that way. Glad you’re OK now.

  9. Chicatanyage
    June 23, 2015 / 11:25 pm

    I had a similar story. I had a small spot on the end of my nose which my Doctor kept telling me was harmless. It was the chemist in France who told me to got to a specialist as soon as possible when I asked for something to get rid of the pesky spot. By this stage it was bleeding. It was still difficult to get a referral and it was wrongly treated. I finally had an operation and a skin graft on the end of my nose to fill in the hole. Not a good story. I was lucky apart from the appearance it was not the dangerous type.

    • Jennifer
      June 26, 2015 / 9:09 pm

      I’m so sorry to hear this!! You’re so lucky. The problem is, those Basil and Squamous cell, pre cancers turn into more serious problems if left untreated. I’m really glad you caught it.

  10. Michele
    June 23, 2015 / 6:59 pm

    Jennifer, would you share what sunblocks you use? Thank you.

    • Jennifer
      June 26, 2015 / 9:05 pm

      Hi Michele! I like a variety of sunscreens and use different ones, depending on how strong the sun is. I just tried a new “gee wizz”, invisible zinc sunscreen, that was crappy. I’ll write post on what I look for, why and the winners I’ve found.

  11. Jen
    June 23, 2015 / 1:31 pm

    Oh my gosh. So glad you went with your instincts! I wear high spf as I burn easily.

  12. June 23, 2015 / 1:27 pm

    Ouch. This really hits home. My mother was a sun worshipper who raised a sun worshipper. I am so trying to listen to you, Jennifer. Must disclose that tomorrow’s post might put you off. As far as doctors go, I agree with you 100%. We must advocate for ourselves and our loved ones. Sometimes you just have to say no, doctor, you’re wrong. We live inside our body, not them.

    Anita

    • Jennifer
      June 26, 2015 / 8:59 pm

      Your post didn’t upset me at all Anita!! You may have totally different skin and melanin content than mine. Growing up in the era of “tan is chic”, was tough for my ghost white complexion. I’m now paying for the ignorance of my youth, but cringe when I see people ignoring what we do know now.

  13. June 23, 2015 / 12:36 pm

    I haven’t had the luxury of having the same doctors for years at a time. With changing health plans it seems like you have to tell the same story over and over. Communication between doctors is sometimes non-existent. It’s great that you demanded to have a biopsy and found out before it’s too late. We have to step up to the plate to make sure we get the care we and our loved ones need.

    • Jennifer
      June 26, 2015 / 8:50 pm

      We do Rebecca! As we care for others, we must demand the same care for ourselves.

  14. June 23, 2015 / 10:22 am

    Thank you for this, Jennifer. As someone who baked in the sun in my teens (didn’t we all in the 70s?) with little more than baby oil – I’m living with the damage now, as well. Glad you were tenacious in your gut feeling.

    • Jennifer
      June 26, 2015 / 8:48 pm

      Baby oil and iodine was my cocktail of destruction! For some reason I assumed it would make me tan like my friends who tanned easily. I can only claim ignorance of the time.

  15. June 23, 2015 / 10:20 am

    I’ve had similar experiences with doctors over different medical issues. You were right to trust your intuition, and to continually press medical professionals to listen! You have to take charge of your own health and show doctors that you aren’t stupid and the last word in any diagnosis is yours!
    Glad you caught this. Skin cancer is no joke!

    Alicia
    spashionista.com

    • Jennifer
      June 26, 2015 / 8:44 pm

      Thanks Alicia! It is not a joke. I hated being treated as a moron or “a silly woman”, as the last Dermatologist referred to me. It’s what spurred me to action. I suppose I should be grateful to him.

  16. Rebecca Hively
    June 23, 2015 / 9:31 am

    I must say that I feel VERY fortunate and confident with my dermatologist. She has recommended and I have used TIZO for years.

    • Jennifer
      June 26, 2015 / 8:41 pm

      Please share Rebecca!! I’ve not heard of TIZO and would love to know about it.

  17. June 23, 2015 / 9:24 am

    I am a strong advocate of managing your own care and being insistent and following your gut instincts! I learned a lot here. Thank you!

    • Jennifer
      June 26, 2015 / 8:40 pm

      I’m glad Melissa.

  18. June 23, 2015 / 9:03 am

    Oh, forgot to say I just love that hat!

  19. June 23, 2015 / 8:59 am

    Jennifer, thank you for a much needed educational post on the dangers of skin cancer. The information is valuable and you covered so many important issues. My father died of melanoma. It’s not the way you want to go.
    Kimberly
    http://FiftyJewels.com

    • Jennifer
      June 26, 2015 / 8:39 pm

      I’m so sorry to hear that Kimberly! I imagine you’re quite vigilant, protecting your skin.

  20. June 23, 2015 / 8:57 am

    wow, now I’m going to be freaking out about every freckle! I think you are so right about following your instincts. How can they all miss that? Thank goodness you are ok now. I always say follow your guts!

    • Jennifer
      June 26, 2015 / 8:38 pm

      Don’t freak out. Just follow your intuition. If you’re worried, insist on more care.

  21. June 23, 2015 / 8:49 am

    Jennifer, my gosh, I, too, had a similar experience with a freckle on my nose. Two dermatologists said it was just a freckle. I’ve had freckles all my life so I believed them. But I couldn’t shake this feeling that something wasn’t right. I made an appointment with my PCP. As soon as she looked at me she said, “That’s a basal cell carcinoma.” Whaaat? She set me up with a surgeon who she called immediately, arranged for me to skip the preliminary biopsy, and the next day it was removed along with areas around it until they found cancer-free tissue. Yikes! I’m slathered in Burt’s Bees Sunscreen every day, stay in shade, and wear hats, too.

    • Jennifer
      June 24, 2015 / 9:15 pm

      You’re lucky Sandy! Our stories are so similar! Luckily there are great hats ans sunscreens out there.

  22. June 23, 2015 / 8:09 am

    Jennifer,
    I feel very strongly about being our own advocate when it comes to our health. Good for you for trusting your gut!

    Thank you for breaking down the ABCDE’s of skin cancer and the difference between UVA and UVB. This is one of the best articles I have read on the subject and I plan to share it!

    • Jennifer
      June 24, 2015 / 9:13 pm

      Thanks so much Cheri!

  23. Sarah
    June 23, 2015 / 7:36 am

    Holy cow, melanoma is NO joke! I’m so glad you trusted your instincts, my grandfather died from melanoma. I too am queen of the cover up and sunscreen. To this day people still say that I need a tan but I ignore them. I would love to hear more of your sun protection clothing recommendations. Oh and I use Neutrogena UltraSheer Dry-Touch SPF 45 on body and Oil of Olay Regenerist SPF 50 on my face.

    • Jennifer
      June 24, 2015 / 9:12 pm

      I like the Neutrogena Ultra Touch too, but the liquid, not the spray. For my hands I always carry the Neutrogenia Baby stick in my purse and car, which I reapply regularly. I like the Sheisedo sunscreens. I know they are expensive, but I find they soak in well, work nicely under my tinted moisturizer don’t look ghostly!

  24. June 23, 2015 / 6:49 am

    I see both sides of this coin. As a retired dentist, the fact remains, we are all human and only know what we know (that being what we are taught or have experienced). That being said, it’s always important to be your own advocate in any situation. So bravo to you for deciding to get the freckle out! Did you ever read “Cancer, Schmancer” by Fran Drescher? She had to see 7 or 8 different doctors before getting an answer! jodie
    http://www.jtouchofstyle.com
    ps…Love the hat, I wear one often too!

    • Jennifer
      June 24, 2015 / 7:43 pm

      I did not read that book! I’ll have to look for it. So true about us doing what we can with the knowledge we have. That’s why using our instinct is so important. It’s the concept Malcolm Gladwell illustrated in his book “Blink”. Great book, if you haven’t read it!

  25. June 23, 2015 / 6:40 am

    Jennifer unfortunately YOUR STORY IS ALL TOO COMMON. You are so right that we must all be our own advocates. I have heard so many so many stories of misdiagnoses and botched surgeries where one has very little recourse. You are doing so much to take care of yourself, I applaud you!

    xoxo
    Karena
    The Arts by Karena

    • Jennifer
      June 24, 2015 / 7:39 pm

      Sadly it is much too common. Surgeries are fraught with so many risks, as you well know!
      xoxo

  26. June 23, 2015 / 6:31 am

    Great article, my friend, as well as a good reminder at this time of year. I’m passing this on to all my young friends (in there 20-30’s) so they don’t make some of the stupid mistakes I did. Isn’t it funny now days, we never leave home without a hat and sunscreen.

    • Jennifer
      June 24, 2015 / 7:37 pm

      Now we know! I’ve drilled it into my fair skinned daughter’s consciousness, and she’s very careful too!

  27. June 23, 2015 / 6:26 am

    How long do you wait before applying another lotion?
    NO fun…………checking the skin going to docs who wave their hands…….and say all is good.
    Honestly,do we have to pay and then tell them how to do their job?I guess so!!!
    Good you were persistent!!
    Hats suit you………I WILLNOT ASK HOW MANY YOU OWN!!!

    • Jennifer
      June 24, 2015 / 7:33 pm

      As soon as the chemical one is dry, I layer the physical one. Physical gives instant protection. Chemical takes 30 minutes to interact with your skin before becoming effective.
      Well if I count my hats, so do you!!
      xox

  28. June 23, 2015 / 6:19 am

    I had a similar incident Jennifer. Listen to your little voice. It rarely steers us wrong!
    XOXOX,
    Brenda

    • Jennifer
      June 24, 2015 / 7:31 pm

      I’m a total believer in that Brenda. It has served me well many times!
      xox

  29. June 23, 2015 / 6:08 am

    I do not trust doctors easily because I am a doctor’s daughter. In fact, a dear friend was just taken to emergency this morning because her doctor screwed up. timely post…

    • Jennifer
      June 24, 2015 / 7:30 pm

      Oh no, I hope your friend is OK!

  30. Wendymm
    June 23, 2015 / 3:10 am

    Such an important post! I am so glad you listened to your gut! I watch for things like this constantly as I am so fair and I hat and lather, too. Am looking for good lightweight gardening shirt today to replace old one! Thanks Jennifer!

    • Jennifer
      June 24, 2015 / 7:30 pm

      Check some of the online clothing shops for gardening shirts with SPF built in! They may not be chic…but you’re gardening:))

  31. June 23, 2015 / 12:02 am

    Hi Jennifer. Great post on such an important subject. The UK isn’t as hot and sunny as parts of the US but skin cancers are increasing because in the 70s holidays abroad took off and everyone wanted a tan! I’ve got that very pale Scottish skin courtesy of my parents (bless them) but when I was young I sunbathed at every opportunity going bright red first and only after the redness would my skin go a brown colour – you never thought this is actually a burn!!!

    Now I wear Factor 50, and this is because ever since I turned 60 I have an annual skin check where my entire body gets checked over by a specialised skin nurse and several small basal cell and squamous cell cancers have been found. And I’m really pleased they’ve been found as the docs just use a quick ‘freezing’ technique which burns them off. Left without checking they would’ve grown much further and needed a proper op. So I’m hyper skin and sun aware now. If I could tell my younger self anything I’d say don’t do this sunbathing thing – not worth it!

    • Jennifer
      June 24, 2015 / 7:28 pm

      Same with me! I had no idea the damage I was doing. I think a lot of us have the same problem and made the same mistake!

  32. June 22, 2015 / 11:19 pm

    PS when we go to the Mauna Kea…..(we have been going for 40 years! One daughter was married there in 1984! I look like a nun. I swear. Under the umbrella…covered with black caliber! Now they have colors !!!

    Such great advice that will save lives!!!!

    • Jennifer
      June 24, 2015 / 7:26 pm

      I look the same on tropical vacations:)

  33. June 22, 2015 / 11:15 pm

    Jennifer great post. Thanks again for the reminder and sharing. I am also very careful as skin cancer is big in my dad’s family. Living in California too- I don’t think we realize how much sun we get daily. So glad you insisted on a removal!! That scares me and reminds me I’m due for a check too. Let’s get together. Miss you .xo

    • Jennifer
      June 24, 2015 / 3:26 pm

      Thanks Kim!I’m due for a check too!

  34. June 22, 2015 / 11:14 pm

    EEEEEEEEEK!!!!!!!!!!

    This happened to my husband! He has had a lot of sun; and we lost a really close friend to melanoma……(he baked) .we lost him when he was 59!!!!
    but…I studied all the pictures….and , thank God…my husband goes to the dermatologist every three months….he has played tennis at noon for 40 years…..and he was 73!

    His dermatologist said..”this doesn’t look like anything….but we will biopsy it”! Yes! Melanoma! the kind of skin cancer that can kill you! I took him to my genius dermatologist in Santa Monica…(no offense Santa Barbara dermatologist who diagnosed) and she sprang into action!
    (Dr.Karyn Grossman….best dermatologist in the world if you ask me….primarily cosmetic…..and the best of the best;) but when it came to my husband…she is “dialed in”! The pathology went to the “best” pathologists ; Harvard….and a certain person….then…we had to see if it had spread….(key); and we went to the guy in Santa Monica who does the “sentinel node test”; He is also the “best” (this is scary stuff!!) fortunately…..that was negative.

    this is scary stuff. I say again !….and in your case; it is frightening that this was not diagnosed by all those doctors!

    Adam, my husband’,s was an “atypical” melanoma…(it looked like a big freckle “! He has had two more melanomas….(not related….”in situ” which are not as dangerous…but my doctor said….RED ALERT!!!

    Notify all your children and blood relatives! They have a 50% greater chance of melanoma now!!! That is a LOT!!

    At any age! And my husband’s have all been “atypical” meaning all those years I spent studying those pics of melanomas; when it comes to Adam’s….useless. His are all “atypical”; so the doctor….said…any skin change….get right in here!

    The price he is paying..all those years of playing tennis five days a week at noon!

    And being in the office the rest of the day….and having skin that came from northern Italy and Northern France…….the sun didn’t come out!

    Sunscreen wasn’t considered important when he was growing up!

    Thank you so much for writing this blog post!

    Never trust any single doctor if you have a bad feeling! Go to another and another! Especially about your skin! It is your body’s biggest organ!!!!

    What an important and wonderfully giving post!

    Penelope
    Brava and Thank you!!!!

    • Jennifer
      June 24, 2015 / 3:25 pm

      Very scary for him! I burned and peel as a kid too so that’s where all my damage came from. I have told my children and my siblings, because they have a 50% higher risk of getting it too!!

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