Within seconds of seeing us, people make assumptions about our financial situation, sense of humor, education level, socioeconomic status, happiness level etc. We all know that’s true but at our age and in this era of wearing what we like, how many of you feel pressure to conform? Do you let other’s perceptions affect your fashion choices? Even in a subtle way? Do you dress to please yourself without concern about how you are seen?
I asked a question on my Facebook page, (do you follow me there?) earlier this week which sparked a lively discussion. I asked, “What does frumpy look like to you?” Notice I said look like to you. Not feel like.
Women mentioned brands and types of garments they think look frumpy. There were lots of generalities but few made the connection personal. Some mentioned things which other women defended as not frumpy.
It’s not surprising to read how vehemently women feel about looking frumpy. It’s not a look many women would intentionally put together. There was no consensus and opinions varied widely which demonstrates why frumpy is one of those things that’s hard to describe, but you certainly know it when you see it.
If dressing and feeling frumpy is the terminal look no woman wants for herself, (and that certainly appears to be the case) what would or could cause you to feel frumpy?
Could another woman style a garment you think of as frumpy and make it look chic?
What role does your confidence play in appearing frumpy to others?
Does your size play a role in whether you feel or appear frumpy?
If you don’t feel frumpy, do you care if others see you as frumpy?
Please share your thoughts. Be kind and thoughtful in your comments because this is a sensitive topic for many of us.